Month: May 2025

She admitted to having a “healthy amount of vanity.”

The beautiful Andalusia is on the southern Iberian Peninsula, alongside the Atlantic Ocean and the Mediterranean Sea. Its eight provinces offer a diverse travel experience reflecting both traditional and modern Spain.

History buffs will love visiting Córdoba, Granada, and Seville, each boasting the remains of Spain’s Moorish history. It’s also an ideal destination for a road trip, which was my and my partner’s primary means of transportation during our September 2024 visit.

Among many others, here are six of my favorite memories from our holiday in this enchanting region!

#1: Magical Evening in Arcos de la Frontera

The whitewashed village of Arcos de la Frontera hosted the most stunning sunset experience of our trip. The patio of the Parador Hotel, the perfect venue for such, did not disappoint. With a refreshing Tinto de Verano cocktail in hand, we watched the ever-changing hues of amber cast upon the Iglesia de San Pedro, perched high on the distant cliffs.

For most, the old town in Arcos is a day-trip destination. But truly, it casts its spell in the evening when what remains are the locals and a few tourists who know to stay. After viewing that vivid sunset, we took a short walk along the cobblestones to a nearby restaurant for dinner.

We laughed out loud, reliving our scary experience driving the rental car through the narrow passageways of the old town. It was an unforgettable evening, as we devoured a delicious paella and lovely dessert in the company of many lively locals.

#2: The Spectacular Andalusian Horses

As a little girl, I would sneak under my grandmother’s fence to pet the horses in the pasture next door. Naturally, I could not resist visiting the Royal Andalusian School of Equestrian Arts in Jerez de la Frontera.

The famous Andalusian horses are truly magnificent, their heritage dating back to the 15th century. The grounds of the school are beautiful and a joy to stroll. But nothing compares to the equestrian ballet ‘How the Horses Dance’.

Jerez also produces sherry and brandy, making it a perfect place to visit one of the city’s many wine bodegas. It would also be an ideal town to catch a Flamenco show, this art form having deep roots in the region.

#3: The Enchanting Caminito del Rey

I have issues with heights. I also like to push myself beyond my comfort zone. What better marriage of the two than to hike the Caminito del Rey? To appreciate the beauty and fear factor associated with this hike, please enjoy the scenic video Caminito del Rey – ‘the world’s most dangerous walkway’.

Don’t worry; the route is now restored, and no longer considered dangerous. Instead, it is a lovely way to spend a day outdoors enjoying beautiful scenery coupled with the thrill of a challenge! I will not soon forget our adventure trekking in suspension around the cliffs of this spectacular gorge.

#4: Nerja – The Jewel of the Costa

People know the southern coast of Andalusia as the Costa del Sol (Coast of the Sun). We made stops in Estepona, Málaga, and Nerja. Hands down, Nerja was my favorite seaside town of those visited.

I loved the laid-back vibe, the magnificent views, and our casual evening dining experiences. We relaxed on loungers sprawled across our hotel’s lush lawn the first day of our visit. Perched high on a cliff above the sea, we enjoyed panoramic views of the Mediterranean and the beautiful Sierra Almijara mountains.

Day two, we set out to explore the lively and charming old town. Filled with shops, bakeries, restaurants, and tapas bars, it generates fun and inviting energy. Like most tourists visiting Nerja, we also made our way to the famous Balcon de Europa, teeming with street artists, musicians, and panoramic views!

#5: The Alhambra, Nasrid Palaces, and Generalife Gardens in Granada

This experience was nothing less than evocative. The Alhambra, a palace and fortress of the Moorish Monachs of Granada, Spain, sits on a rocky hill overlooking the city on the banks of the Darro River. A stroll through the palaces, gardens, and grounds transported me back in time.

I wondered what it must have been like to be a part of its daily existence before its fall to the Catholic Monarchs Ferdinand II and Isabella I in January 1492. Cocoa and Lavender will take you on a magnificent photographic journey through this crown jewel of Granada, which was a favorite and not to be missed!

#6: Evening View in Córdoba

An evening stroll across the Roman Bridge in Córdoba rewards you with beautiful views in each direction. At the southern end stands the Torre de Calahorra, an ancient defense fortress that is currently the Living Museum of al-Andalus.

But the most breathtaking view is from the south end, looking back across the Roman Bridge and the Guadalquivir River. In the distance stands the illuminated Mosque-Cathedral (Mezquita-Catedral de Córdoba). This treasured view remains vivid in my memories of Córdoba.

Then There Was Madrid!

Madrid, though not in Andalusia, offered the most economical round-trip airfare. I wasn’t particularly excited about visiting this large city, but I wasn’t about to pass it up without a look. I did not regret that decision and wished for more time in the fabulous capital of Spain.

We chose a hotel in the city’s heart for proximity to the historic center. With little agenda, except for sampling churros and chocolate at the famed Chocolateria San Gines, we simply strolled the city streets, enjoying the beautiful architecture, shops, and Retiro Park.

Our time in Madrid was the perfect ending to our journey, including attending a passionate Flamenco performance. Oh, to return one day and visit the many museums and other offerings of this vibrant city!

The Details of Planning Our Trip

After an overnight flight from the States, we arrived at Madrid Barajas airport at 9:00 a.m. From the airport, we transferred to the Madrid Atocha Train Station via local train accessed at level 1 in T4. We lunched at the train station, then cleared security for our 1:00 p.m. departure to Seville (arriving at 3:45 p.m.), where our journey began.

We used high-speed trains to travel from Madrid to Seville, Granada to Córdoba, and Córdoba to Madrid. Within those larger cities, we booked centralized accommodations and were mostly on foot. We rented a car at the Santa Justa Train Station upon departure from Seville and turned it in at the train station in Granada upon arrival.

Full Itinerary

It is challenging to create an itinerary for a limited amount of time when a region has so much to offer! From the time we left home to the time we returned was 17 days. The following, in the order listed, are the primary locations visited:

Seville 

Duration: 3 nights

Paid Tours:

• Sevilla Food Tour-Tapas, Wine, History & Traditions;
• Alcazar & Cathedral of Seville Exclusive Group.

Related: For me, Seville is to Spain as Florence is to Italy! City&See-A City Guide to Seville, Spain is a great introductory reference to this captivating city. Our evening food tour (listed above) was a fun way to see neighborhoods, sample delicious tapas and regional wines, and to learn about the culture of the region. We also loved our stay, including brunch and dinner, in the inviting courtyard of the historic Hotel Alfonso XIII. Be sure to visit the grounds and lobby regardless of your accommodations in Seville!

Arcos de la Frontera

Duration: 1 night

Paid Tours: None

Related: Read about our delightful afternoon/evening in Arcos above. Arcos de la Frontera: the gateway to the White Villages, will further acquaint you with this charming village.

Estepona with Day-trip to Gibraltar

Duration: 2 nights

Paid Tours: Taxi tour in Gibraltar

Related: The resort city of Estepona is perfect for a bit of R&R. We enjoyed our stay at the lovely Kempinski Hotel Bahia. In the evening, we strolled through the colorful old town, shopping and people watching. We then made our way to the beautiful boardwalk alongside the sea. During our stay, we enjoyed a half-day visit to the British Territory of Gibraltar, a short (35 min.) drive from Estepona. How to Plan a day-trip to Gibraltar from Spain is a useful resource in planning your visit.

Ronda & the Caminito del Rey

Duration: 2 nights

Paid Tours: Guided group hiking tour (regular tickets sell out well in advance, so it was our only option for hiking the Caminito del Rey).

Related: From Estepona, we enjoyed a scenic drive through the mountains to the starting location of our Caminito del Rey hike scheduled for 4:20 p.m. After completing the hike, we drove to Ronda that evening for a two-night stay. Ronda is another lovely white village that can get seriously crowded with day-trippers! Still, it remains charming, the gorge and panoramic views being a photographer’s dream! Here are suggestions on the Top Ten Things to Do in Ronda, Spain.

Málaga

Duration: 1 night

Paid Tours: None

Related: My intent was to visit the bustling coastal city of Málaga as a day-trip from Nerja (spending 3 nights in Nerja rather than 2). It didn’t work out, but all said, we enjoyed our one-night stay at the beautiful Gran Hotel Miramar. Here are the Top 15 attractions suggested for Málaga.

Nerja

Duration: 2 nights

Paid Tours: None

Related: I described the highlights of our stay in Nerja above, but Nerja Turismo informs of the many things to see and do in and near this relaxed seaside town. A perfect ending to our visit was dinner at Bakus, a restaurant I recommend. Its patio seating boasts lovely views of the sea, yet the inside seating experience is equally splendid. The food and drink are delectable!

Granada

Duration: 1 night

Paid Tours:

• Granada Hop-on Hop-off City Tour;
• Alhambra & Charles Palace Guided Tour with Optional Nasrid Palaces (be sure to arrive early to locate your tour group since there are many tours and tons of people meeting in the same central location).

Related: We rushed our Granada & Córdoba itineraries, but each was doable. Still, these destinations absolutely deserve more time. With a mid-afternoon arrival to Granada, we checked into the Hotel Alhambra Palace, explored the city on the hop-on hop-off tour, and enjoyed a sunset dinner with spectacular panoramic views from the hotel’s patio restaurant.

The next morning, we checked out, stored our bags, then met up for our 10:00 a.m. tour listed above. Post tour, we grabbed a quick lunch and caught the 3:45 p.m. train to Córdoba (arriving at 5:07 p.m.). Here are more ideas on how to spend the perfect day in Granada.  

Córdoba

Duration: 1 night

Paid Tours: Córdoba Mosque & Jewish Quarter Guided Tour with Tickets

Related: We loved our brief stay at the Balcon De Cordoba Hotel tucked away on a little side street near the center of the historic district. Our evening included a delightful dinner on the patio of the hotel, followed by a walk through the historic center, culminating with a magical stroll across the Roman Bridge (mentioned above).

The next morning, we enjoyed our booked tour, a quick lunch, and caught the 2:42 p.m. train to Madrid (arriving at 5:07 p.m.). How to spend one day in Córdoba is a delightful video that will persuade you to visit!

Madrid

Duration: 3 nights

Paid Tours: None

Related: I summarize our experience in Madrid above, but for more information, view the link first time in Madrid, everything you need to know. If you crave delicious Asian cuisine in an exceptional atmosphere while visiting Madrid, I highly recommend dining at Lelong Asian Club.

Other Tips for Your Visit

• Book train reservations (and accommodations) well in advance if traveling during the summer and shoulder seasons. All train stations we traveled through had security checkpoints. Some were a breeze, others were busier. Do factor this into your arrival time.
• Be sure to have your passport with you for any paid tours booked. Tour operators and major tour locations will ask for it.
• Take advantage of happy hour since drinks come with free tapas!
• For road trippers, I read many negative reviews of rental car company experiences. I finally chose Alamo (least critical reviews) with no issues. We opted to purchase full insurance coverage for peace of mind, namely mine. I recommend a small vehicle for easier navigation through the region.

Yes, I’m a Hopeless Romantic

Hopefully, by now I’ve convinced you to add this beautiful region to your bucket list! I am a hopeless romantic with Italy being a favored travel destination. However, Andalusia, Spain now shares a sacred space in my heart!

Please Join the Conversation:

Have you traveled through Andalusia, Spain? What were your favorite destinations and why? What other areas of Spain have you loved visiting?

“This is my greatest dream come true.”

I am positive that you or someone you know has experienced a scam. No matter which technique was used, the resulting behavior is known as an “amygdala hijack.” The brain’s fear and threat response center, the amygdala, was triggered by criminals to elicit strong emotional reactions that overwhelm the rational part of our brains. We act rather than think, a classic fight-or-flight response.

Out of Character

I remember reading a couple of years ago about a woman, a retired attorney, who lost her entire life savings to a fraudster that supposedly called from her bank. I personally know family and clients who were terrified into behavior that didn’t even sound like them.

One drove to the bank with the scammer on the phone, in her ear the entire drive, until the teller at the bank convinced her to hang up. Another stayed on the phone in front of her computer with a scammer for three hours until a family member came home and made her hang up the phone.

Locked Out

It’s that over-simplification that I always visualize as having two “rooms” in the brain with a door between. And when the emotional side fills up with strong emotions, it shuts the door on the logical side. So the brain physiologically can no longer think clearly. Acting rationally is out the window!

Much Worse

Over 100,000 U.S. victims aged 60 and older reported fraud to the FBI’s Internet Crime Complaint Center in 2023. And those are just the ones who reported it. So many don’t report their experience and are often too embarrassed to tell anyone. The true scope of just how many are affected is likely much worse.

Tech Support Is the Most Popular Scam

With 10,000 baby boomers retiring every day, these illegal call centers continue to perfect their “skills” on an ever-aging population. Tech support scams are the most widely reported type of elder fraud. We have all had those threatening emails or even popups on our computer screen warning of a threat that requires immediate action by calling a phone number.

Some of those screen pop-ups can be down right scary! Some blink, others make a blaring noise, and others talk in urgent tones warning you not to shut down and instead to call this number or all three of those techniques all at once! I’m not a techie but the simple Alt + F4 keyboard combination may close the window. Another one, Ctrl + Alt + Del, opens up the computer’s Task Manager. From there you can  Select your browser (Google, Edge, etc.) then click on End Task. This seems to do the trick for me.

What to Say

I encourage clients and aging parents to decide which phrase they will use if they ever feel pressured (on the phone, at the door, etc.):

1. “I don’t do anything without first talking to my son/daughter/advisor.” Click (hang up or shut the door).
2. “I’m not interested so please take me off your list and don’t contact me again.” Click.
3. Any sentence that you and your family have agreed is the safest reply for you. Click.

Best Practices

I find it sad that we almost have to become paranoid and assume the worst about phone calls, texts, and emails. And asking ourselves “is this really true?” is often a healthy way to pause yourself before doing anything. To avoid any of these scary situations, perhaps the best practice is:

• NOT to click on links within an email.
• NOT to call the number in an email or text.
• NOT to even answer the phone unless it is identified from your Contacts (remember, if it’s important, they will leave you a message and you can call them back).

Ambulance Chasers

And remember the “ambulance chaser” concept. Scammers can follow obituaries, purchase contacts from illegal sources, and target single women specifically. Losing a spouse, through death or divorce, is an emotionally vulnerable time, and unfortunately, it’s a period when scammers often strike. Widows are frequently targeted with deceptive phone calls, emails, or offers that seem helpful but are designed to steal personal information or money.

Arm Yourself with Education

Stay aware, learn about the recent scams in your area, and seek out blogs, podcasts, and other educational opportunities to help you stay informed about money in general and be vigil in avoiding scammers. Protecting your financial well-being is one more way to take control of your future.

Also read, Common Scams Targeting Seniors and How to Avoid Them.

Let’s Have a Conversation:

Have you learned anything about scams that would help other women to know? How do you protect yourself from con-artists? How can we help each other? Let’s have a discussion!

Although older women are becoming more visible in the world of fashion, I fear that we are also becoming somewhat fetishized in the press and on social media. I chalk that up to the enormous popularity of Ari Seth Cohen’s Advanced Style Blog.

He features prominent and well-heeled older women of (mostly) New York, dressing in eye-catching couture outfits and often wild color and pattern combinations and accessories. In a city with a population of eight million people it’s almost a requirement to go to such extremes in order to be seen.

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Now, I love edgy. I love cool and hip at any age. But I tend to recoil at the images of older women when I feel they are being used as spectacle. I’m certainly not criticizing any of these women. Frankly, I admire them and the outfits they have put together.

Many are extremely artsy and interesting in their own right. And they definitely have opened the door for more of us to become visible. It’s just that we, as a group, have so much more to offer than what some these outfits would convey.

Are These Older Women in Fashion? Or, Are they in Costume?

My concern is that, sometimes, these get ups clearly – and intentionally – border on costume. When they do, what they inspire is something more akin to “wow – look at those wild and crazy old ladies,” rather than “what an enviable group of women.”

Being chic, as opposed to wearing a costume, requires a little more finesse. It requires turning down the volume, visually.

As designer Alber Elbaz says, “It’s not about screaming, it’s about whispering. When you scream everybody hears, but not everyone listens.” The trick is to whisper in such a way that everyone has to, as the popular phrase goes, “lean in.”

What’s the Alternative?

So let’s break down some of the elements to consider when putting together an outfit that says: “I’m wise and interesting and you want to know more about me”, instead of simply “I’m wild and crazy and watch out world, here I come!”

Since hats are the attention-getter in many of these outfits, wearing one in the right scale is the key. If you’re going to wear a ginormous hat, make sure you have the height or overall body size to carry it off, and that the rest of your outfit balances its volume.

Big hats only work on those few people with larger-than-life personalities and/or bodies. And a hat that says “pixie” is most flattering to a face that has pixie-like features and bone structure. On someone with more natural features, or a more angular or a very oval face, it might look somewhat silly.

The same goes for accessories. In construction and silhouette – as well as in your accessories – it’s always nice to echo your facial features and bone structure. It complements your image. Also, piles of accessories on someone with a smaller frame can become visually overwhelming.

Coco Chanel’s suggestion to “always remove one accessory” might be helpful if, when you look at your overall image, you feel you just might be a bit overdone.

Many of these women are wearing strongly contrasting or brightly saturated colors. If you want to emulate their overall panache, make sure that you start with the right colors for your own coloring.

Keep in mind that wearing bright colors with strong contrast isn’t for everyone. Pulling it off successfully depends upon your skin undertone and the rest of your coloring. And as skin tone does change somewhat with age we have to be particularly mindful about the colors we wear near our face so that we don’t get washed out.

Still, wearing some color near the face is a good plan as we age. It brings brightness. And wearing something in the red range brings an extra dash of spice to our faces. Just make sure it’s the right red for your skin tone. Some blueish reds will make women with warmer skin undertones look positively jaundiced; and some women with cooler skin tones will look ashen in bright, yellow-y reds.

The key with any color is to ask yourself: does the color “pop” against my skin, i.e., do I disappear behind it, or do my eyes sparkle and my skin glow when I wear this color? You want to look for the sparkle and glow that is created in your face, not just in the fabric.

The more Striking or Lively Bright your coloring, the more bright and bold colors you can wear.

The more delicate, muted or quiet your eye color, hair and skin tone, the more subtle your colors have to be. And if your skin, eyes and hair coloring lean toward the Rich and Warm end of the spectrum, keep the basis of your wardrobe warm, as those brighter, saturated colors will make you fade.

Then there is pattern. We are frequently told, at least in fashion magazines, that older women need to wear large bold patterns. But bold patterns aren’t for everyone.

The larger or taller you are, the more you can wear larger patterns and prints. And the scale of any pattern you wear – that includes things like stripes, florals and abstracts – also has to make sense in terms of your height and size. Just as with accessories, the scale of your patterns is crucial.

So, there’s no reason you can’t stand out from the crowd. Just be sure that none of what you wear makes you disappear beneath a flood of fabric, pattern, color or accessories. That’s where you start to move from style into the direction of costume.

One of my readers put it this way: “Less is the new more.” Now, if you truly do want to say watch out world, here I come, who am I to stop you? Have at it ladies. But if you do, PLEASE post a photo of yourself!

Let’s Have a Conversation:

What do you think? Should we tone it down or should we go for all the gusto? Join the conversation below.