Month: June 2025

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Remember the little girl who used to run barefoot through the grass, chasing fireflies without a care in the world? Or the young woman who dreamed big, laughed often, and wasn’t afraid to say yes to adventures? Somewhere along the way, between juggling responsibilities, meeting expectations, and navigating life’s challenges, that carefree version of yourself might have gotten tucked away into a box labeled “Too Busy” or “Not for Me.”

But guess what? She’s still there. And it’s time to let her out.

Reclaiming your authentic self is about reconnecting with the essence of who you are – the version that’s been buried under societal roles, obligations, and self-doubt. It’s not about becoming someone new; it’s about rediscovering the vibrant, joyful, unfiltered you that’s been there all along.

Here’s how you can get started:

Step 1: Revisit Your Younger Self

Think back to when you were a child or a young adult. What lit you up? What hobbies, activities, or dreams made you feel alive? Maybe you loved painting, dancing, or storytelling. Maybe you dreamed of being an astronaut or opening a bakery.

Take a moment to reflect:

• What activities brought you joy?
• What did you spend hours doing without noticing the time?

Now, ask yourself: Are these passions still part of your life? If not, why? Reconnecting with these forgotten loves can reignite your sense of self.

Pro Tip: Dig out old photos, journals, or mementos to jog your memory. Sometimes a single picture can remind you of the person you used to be.

Step 2: Identify the Boxes Holding You Back

Life has a sneaky way of boxing us in. Maybe you’re stuck in the “Good Wife” box, the “Perfect Mom” box, or the “It’s Too Late for Me” box. These boxes are often built from expectations – our own, others’, or society’s.

To break free, you first need to recognize the boxes confining you. Ask yourself:

• What roles do I feel obligated to play?
• What expectations am I trying to meet?
• Which of these actually align with who I want to be?

Write down your answers. Awareness is the first step toward reclaiming your freedom.

Step 3: Embrace Your Quirks and Flaws

Your quirks and imperfections are what make you unique. Yet, so many of us spend years trying to smooth out our rough edges, believing we need to be “polished” to be accepted. The truth? Authenticity is magnetic.

Start celebrating the things that make you, you. Maybe it’s your loud laugh, your love for cheesy rom-coms, or your habit of talking to your plants. These traits aren’t flaws; they’re what set you apart.

Exercise: Write a love letter to yourself highlighting your quirks, strengths, and accomplishments. Read it whenever you need a reminder of how amazing you are.

Step 4: Set Boundaries and Prioritize Yourself

Reclaiming your authentic self requires space to grow. That means learning to say no to things that drain you and yes to things that nourish your soul. Boundaries aren’t selfish; they’re essential.

Here’s how to start:

Identify Your Energy Vampires

What’s draining your time, energy, or joy? It could be toxic relationships, overcommitments, or even negative self-talk.

Set Limits

Politely but firmly say no to requests that don’t serve you. Practice with low-stakes situations to build confidence.

Carve Out “Me Time”

Dedicate time each week to activities that make you happy, whether it’s reading, gardening, or taking a long bath.

Step 5: Take Small Steps Toward Joy

You don’t have to overhaul your entire life overnight. Start small. Reclaiming your authentic self is a journey, not a race.

Here are some baby steps:

• Sign up for that art class you’ve been eyeing.
• Dust off your hiking boots and explore a new trail.
• Reach out to an old friend who always made you laugh.
• Try something completely new, like learning a language or joining a book club.

Each small step brings you closer to the person you’re meant to be.

Step 6: Surround Yourself with Supportive People

Authenticity flourishes in the right environment. Surround yourself with people who celebrate you for who you are, not who they think you should be.

Seek out:

• Friends who uplift and inspire you.
• Communities or groups that align with your interests and values.
• Mentors or role models who embody the authenticity you aspire to.

And don’t be afraid to let go of relationships that no longer serve you. It’s okay to outgrow people.

Step 7: Celebrate Your Wins

Every step you take toward reclaiming your authentic self is worth celebrating. Did you try something new? Speak your truth? Say no without guilt? Pat yourself on the back!

Keep a journal of your wins, big or small, and revisit it whenever you need a confidence boost. Remember, progress is progress, no matter how small.

Conclusion: You Are Worth Rediscovering

Reclaiming your authentic self isn’t about perfection; it’s about liberation. It’s about peeling back the layers of who you think you should be to uncover who you truly are.

So, what’s your next step? Whether it’s dancing in your living room, picking up a forgotten hobby, or saying no to an obligation that doesn’t serve you, start today. The authentic you is waiting – and she’s ready to shine.

Let’s Have a Conversation:

Have you lost your authentic self? Where would you start looking for you? Is there an old photo of you that reminds you of who you were and want to be again?

I was on Reddit yesterday and noticed people in the over-60 subreddit asking about ChatGPT. They were curious (as most people are) about what it’s good for.

It was a legitimate question that generated a wide range of creative replies. People shared how they use ChatGPT to brainstorm ideas, summarize news articles, plan trips, create recipes, or even write greeting card messages.

Using ChatGPT as a Therapist?

Now that intrigued me.

Like many people, I’ve faced a few rough patches recently. The kind where your thoughts swirl endlessly at night, and you wish you had someone to talk to. Friends and family aren’t always available, and sometimes you just want a neutral third party to hear what you have to say.

One evening, feeling overwhelmed, I decided on a whim to open ChatGPT and started writing. I wrote about how I was feeling, the depression and fatigue that were weighing on me.

The Feedback Was Incredibly Kind and Insightful

I honestly expected it to feel robotic or awkward, but to my surprise, the experience was comforting. It “listened” without judgment, offered gentle suggestions, and helped me organize my racing thoughts into something I could process.

It gave me prompts, asked me questions that a well-trained psychotherapist would likely ask. The difference was that it felt safe to answer honestly and, in doing that, the feedback I received was deeply insightful and helpful.

It’s Not a Substitute for a Trained and Licensed Psychologist!

ChatGPT isn’t a substitute for the working relationship you build with a therapist. It can, however, help elevate your thoughts and point you to more productive coping skills.

The problem I have is simple: I’m trying to be everything to everyone, and it’s leaving me stressed and empty.

Sound familiar? When are we, as women of a certain age, going to RELAX?

I’m happy to say that I came away from my little “therapy” session with ChatGPT with a Daily Permission Slip. Feel free to use my notes as yours! You can always tweak it to fit your own needs or ask ChatGPT to create one that better suits your circumstances.

My Personalized Daily Permission Slip by ChatGPT

Today, I release what is not mine to carry. I give myself permission to:

• Be human, not superhuman.
• Rest, even if my mind says I “should” be doing more.
• Trust my doctors, rather than constantly scanning for danger.
• Let the world take care of itself for today.
• Be gentle with my mind, my body, and my heart.
• Remember: Anxiety is loud, but it’s not the truth.
• Carry only what is mine in small, kind doses.

I am enough today, just as I am. I don’t have to fix everything to deserve peace.

Isn’t that lovely?

Let’s be clear: ChatGPT isn’t a substitute for professional therapy. It can’t diagnose conditions, doesn’t have real empathy, and won’t pick up on complex emotional cues like a trained therapist would.

But what it can do is be available 24/7 as a sounding board.

It’s always ready to listen, help me sort through my thoughts, and offer practical advice or coping strategies when I need to get unstuck.

Sometimes, just putting feelings into words and having a calm response helps tremendously.

The Benefits I Didn’t Expect

Using ChatGPT in this way has helped me:

• Organize my thoughts: When emotions feel messy, it helps me break them down logically.
• Process emotions: It reflects my concerns in a calm, neutral way that feels validating.
• Suggest coping strategies: Whether it’s deep breathing, reframing negative thoughts, or mindfulness exercises, ChatGPT often suggests helpful techniques.
• Offer journaling prompts: Sometimes it gives me great questions to reflect on in my journal.
• Validate feeling:. Even a simple, “It makes sense you’d feel that way,” can be powerful.
• Help reframe situations: It offers alternative ways to view problems that I hadn’t considered.

The best part? There’s no fear of judgment or embarrassment. I can type freely and openly, knowing it’s a safe space.

For me, ChatGPT is like having a super-organized friend who’s great at Googling, but who I know isn’t a certified expert. It helps me make better decisions, but I stay in charge of those decisions.

How Will You Use ChatGPT to Bring More Positivity and Peace into Your Life?

AI like ChatGPT isn’t a miracle cure, but it’s been an incredibly valuable tool for me. In moments when I’ve needed to process emotions, brainstorm ideas, or just talk through something in a safe, judgment-free space, it’s been there.

If you’re curious, I encourage you to explore it – carefully, thoughtfully, and always remembering that you remain the one in charge.

Also read, A Friendly Introduction to AI: How ChatGPT Can Help You in Fun and Useful Ways.

Let’s Have a Conversation:

Have you been curious about ChatGPT and AI in general? Have you used any AI? What for? How well did it do, in your opinion?

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