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Originally posted at: Madison LeCroy’s Ivory Floral Belted Dress on Top Chef

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Originally posted at: Kiki Barth’s Sheer Black Top and White Floral Sequin Skirt

Gray hair can be gorgeous, and it can also wash us out and make us look older than we want. Today, I’ve invited my good friend Tracy Jo, who has beautiful gray hair, to address this problem. Using these simple makeup tricks, you can brighten your face, look stylish, and spend a maximum of 10 minutes doing it. We will cover 4 steps: skin, brows, eyes, and lips, and then at the end, I will give a simple breakdown of the 5 products I used to achieve this look.

Let’s do it.

Skin

Tracy Jo doesn’t wear any makeup, so I wanted to keep the foundation simple with the new Colour Change Foundation from PrimePrometics. It has a self-adjusting shade technology for fair to medium skin tones that goes on white and morphs into your own skin color. It’s also infused with a botanical hydration complex, is breathable, buildable and doesn’t set in fine lines.

Plus, it feels very lightweight and looks natural on her skin. After that, I applied a little concealer to cover some redness around her eyes, but in general, I’m keeping it very soft looking. The end result is amazing.

Tip: You don’t have to apply foundation all over your face. You can add it only where you want it, and then spot-apply more product for greater coverage. I like to apply foundation first, and concealer second so that I get the right amount of product without it looking heavy.

Brows

Brows make all the difference with silver hair. Because we are creating a stronger eye, I’m keeping Tracy Jo’s brows natural by adding shape with Silver Queen Eyebrow Pencil, and lift with Silver Queen brow gel without making them too prominent. I don’t want her eyes to compete with her brows, and this keeps her face balanced and her look soft. Stick with a blonde or soft gray brow pencil with silver hair and be careful not to go too dark. Everything needs to work together in a balanced way.

Tip: Eyebrow shape is based on current beauty trends, face shape, and geographic location. My best friend lives in Atlanta, and their brows are shaped differently than people in Colorado with its more outdoor lifestyle. Go with what works for your face and area!

Eyes

Tracy Jo has a hooded eye, so adding a darker outer crease shade and stronger top eyeliner really makes a huge difference. Today, with her beautiful blue eyes, I am using Mulberry Eyeliner along the top eyeline and in the waterline, and then blend it so that the edges are diffused. Makeup as we age is all about diffusing the lines without sacrificing density of color. I also added Mocha Eyeliner between her lower lashes to add definition.

After that, I utilized Toffee Cream Shadow on top and under her eye. I love this shade, as it’s the perfect neutral for fair to medium skin tones. Then I applied a bronze shade called Nebula in the outer crease to give her hooded lids a lift, and then a dollop of Stardust in the center of her eye for pop. To blend the shadows, I used a flat brush to tap in the color. You can also use your finger if that works better for you.  

Tip: Start with a base shade like Toffee to work from. This warms up the eye area and provides a launching pad for the shades you want to layer. I like to go lightest to darkest for eyeshadows, but that totally depends on whether the colors will minimize each other. When in doubt, try them on your hand first to see how each color reacts to the other.

Lips

Because fall is surely in the air, I am using a peach matte lipstick and warm blush to match. I’m going with a peachy warm tone because her eyeliner has red in it, and I don’t want to overdo the red tone. I used a matching lipliner after applying the lipstick to keep the line soft. Then, because I love a little gloss, I tossed on Nude Glow lip balm for a bit of glam.

Tip: To continue with the idea of keeping lines diffused, I almost always apply the lipliner second after lipstick. This way, I can overdraw the lips a little without it looking garish or overdone.

I love this look, and we did it with 4 steps and 5 products.

Here is the breakdown:

1. Colour Change Foundation
2. Silver Queen Brow Pencil (and Silver Queen brow gel if you want)
3. Mulberry Eyeliner (Mocha eyeliner under her eye for definition)
4. Toffee Cream Eyeshadow (Nebula in the outer crease + Stardust as highlight)
5. Nude Glow Lip Balm

There are always variations of these products for a more intense look, but if you stick to my 5 primary products, you will be able to re-create this. After adding some soft waves around Tracy Jo’s face and twisting her curls into her scarf, she’s ready to go. This look need not take longer than 10 minutes and is so pretty!

Use code THEBEAUTYSHAMAN for 10% off PrimePrometics.

Let’s Have a Conversation:

Do you think this would be easy to do? What part of it is your favorite? What’s your favorite makeup look for the fall? Please let me know if you have questions below as I always love to hear from you!

One might imagine that once we leave high school, mean girls and cliques fade into memory. Surely, by the time we’re in our 60s – or older – we’ve earned a reprieve from cold shoulders and social humiliation.

But the truth is, mean-girl behavior doesn’t necessarily end when we’re old enough to slow down, savor life, or step away from work and collect a pension – it just takes on different forms. It may show up as a pointed silence when you say hello, a sarcastic “joke” at your expense, or being discreetly excluded from conversations or events.

And the sting can feel just as sharp now as it might have in those locker-lined corridors.

Recognizing It

This type of mistreatment is often low-key, but it’s no less insensitive or deliberate. To spot a later-in-life mean girl, look for:

• Sarcastic or dismissive remarks (e.g., “Guess you didn’t get the memo,” or “That’s what you’re going with?”) made to embarrass you in front of others.
• A dismissive gesture or icy reception when you join the group.
• Frequently being left out of shared activities, even when you’re part of the circle.
• Hearing your thoughts or contributions vaguely belittled.

Psychologists often label this as relational aggression, which is behavior aimed not at physical harm but at emotional exclusion or social positioning.

How It Differs from the Teen Years

Mean-girl conduct may not look exactly the same at our age as it did in school, but it can feel every bit as cutting. Why?

It’s More Subtle

Teenagers may gossip openly or shun publicly. Later in life, it often shows up as eye rolls, the silent treatment, or carefully leaving someone off an invitation list.

The Stakes Are Different

At 16, it’s about popularity. When you’re 60-plus, it’s about influence in a workplace, volunteer group, or social setting.

It’s Passive Aggression

Instead of direct confrontation, seasoned mean girls often undermine quietly through sarcasm, whispers, or nonverbal cues.

The Hurt Is the Same

The tactics may be refined, but the feelings of rejection, embarrassment, and isolation are no less real.

It Seems More Shocking Now

By this age, we expect better. That makes it especially jarring – and upsetting – when we see these patterns resurface.

Why It Happens

It’s easy to wonder, Why me? Why now? The answer is almost always about the other person, not you, and it usually involves one or more of the following:

• Insecurity: Putting others down shields their own fears.
• Control: Excluding others creates a sense of superiority.
• Jealousy or competition: Your growth or friendships can trigger resentment.
• Drama-driven: Some people thrive on social tension – it keeps the spotlight firmly on them.
• Life-shift instability: Retirement, caregiving, or new environments can disrupt relationship dynamics, and not everyone handles it gracefully.

A reminder worth holding onto: if someone chooses to act this way repeatedly, that’s a reflection of them and not of your value. Of course, misunderstandings can happen in any relationship, but when someone continually ignores or demeans you, that’s on them.

Of course, we don’t expect to be friends or click with everyone – and that’s perfectly fine. But no one has the right to treat you with disrespect.

When Others Don’t See It

Sometimes, what can be as hard to cope with as the bad behavior itself is when others don’t recognize it or worse, they dismiss it. You might share your experience and hear, “Oh, she’s never said anything bad about you,” or “I think you’re imagining it.”

That response can feel minimizing, as though you don’t know what you know. It leaves you doubly hurt: first by the rude person’s behavior, then by your friend’s inability to validate your reality.

And then there are times when others do see it but choose not to say anything. Often, it’s not because they don’t care about you but because they don’t want to get involved or risk becoming the next target themselves. That silence can still feel painful, but it’s important to remember it’s about their fear of conflict, not proof that your experience isn’t real.

But if you’ve been there, here are a few things to keep in mind:

You Are Not Imagining It

Trust your instincts. If you notice consistent dismissive conduct, it’s real.

Not Everyone Sees Subtle Slights

A friend may genuinely miss what you’re experiencing, especially if the “grown up” mean girl behaves differently around them.

You Don’t Need to Prove It

You don’t need outside validation to know when someone is being unkind to you.

Shift the Focus

Instead of trying to convince others, put your effort into deciding how you want to respond and whom you want to spend time with.

What You Can Do About It

While you can’t change others, you can choose how to act and how to care for yourself:

#1: Recognize It

Naming it, whether mean-girl behavior or relational aggression, helps reclaim your power.

#2: Set Boundaries

Be polite, if necessary, but protect your energy.

#3: Lean into Kindness

Spend time with people who lift you up. Their warmth helps offset the sting.

#4: Stay Calm

Sarcasm or snubs back rarely solve anything. Graceful disengagement often speaks louder.

#5: Walk Away If Needed

When repeated inappropriate conduct becomes emotionally damaging, removing yourself is not a failure – it’s self-care.

#6: Prioritize Joy

Don’t let one person’s nasty actions define your experience. Embrace what you love, whether it’s volunteering, working, friendship, and/or community.

If You See This Happening to Others

Being a bystander is potent in its own right. Here’s how you can help:

• Reach out warmly. A smile or inclusive comment can ease isolation.
• Don’t laugh at cruel “jokes.” Silence alone shows you don’t support it.
• Validate privately. Something like, “I noticed that, and I want you to know that I enjoy your company and spending time with you,” offers meaningful reassurance.
• Lead the tone. Your good will becomes a model for others.

You don’t have to be confrontational to make a difference. Small acts of support can quietly but effectively shift the dynamic.

Choosing Peace Over Pettiness

If you’ve experienced mean-girl tactics later in life, you’re not alone, and it’s not your fault. Many of us have faced it, and what I’ve learned is this: What others think of me is their story, not mine. My story is choosing kindness, investing in people who feel like sunshine, and holding my head high, even when others choose bad behavior. Having this mindset can truly make all the difference.

But you’re not without power, either. You can choose how much attention to give negativity. You can fortify supportive friendships, walk away from toxic dynamics, and know in your heart you deserve respect and courtesy.

You may not stop mean-girl behavior, but you can rise above it – confident, steady, and surrounded by people who are really there for you. And that’s the best response at any age.

Let’s Have a Conversation:

Have you ever experienced mean-girl behavior later in life, whether in a social circle, workplace, or senior living community? How did you handle it, and what helped you protect your peace? What advice would you share with another woman going through a similar situation? Share your thoughts and experiences with our community!

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