Month: February 2026

I wrote an article for Sixty and Me in 2020 entitled Don’t Be Afraid to Do Something Badly… At First. It was inspired by the boredom associated with the pandemic restrictions, resulting in having far too much idle time. A friend, also struggling with boredom, suggested the topic for the article, having encountered some resistance to trying something new at this point in her life, when we can be so complacent in our capacity and abilities. We ended up trying watercolors together and discovered, although we didn’t create a masterpiece, we did enjoy the novelty.

Discovering Answers

I haven’t thought much about that article until I came upon an interesting piece explaining that our brains record less details as we age because it disregards old patterns and familiar experiences. With less memories being recorded and stored, life can feel a little empty and mundane, with time seemingly moving along faster than ever before.

The Research on How We Engrain Memories

Adrian Bejan, scientist, researcher, renowned professor at Duke University, and author of 34 books, including Why Time Flies and Beauty Never Dies, in which he explains that part of the reason we perceive a quickening of the passage of time involves changes to the pathways through our eyes into the various parts of our brain.

As our bodies age, our receptors slow down and less of what we see is recorded. He also hypothesizes that the neuro processing centers in our brain predict experiences if they seem familiar, rather than recording them as a new memory. This results in less images being held in the memory and more of our day being labeled as already recorded. It would be like reading a normal newspaper, compared to one with 50% blank pages. We would speed past the empty pages and therefore the activity would go by more quickly.

Creating Experiences Worthy of Remembering

So, what does this mean? How do we mindfully experience our remaining life and retain memories? One way is to expand our experiences, visit new places, try new activities, learn new skills. The more we give our mind to perceive and analyze, the longer it will take to process. The more we engage, the more unique the experience, the more we explore the unknown, the fuller we fill our lives, and the deeper the engagement, the slower the time will pass.

This does not require exotic trips to far off places, it can be as simple as taking a new route to a destination without relying on our GPS, walking in a different park rather than our usual place, taking up a new hobby or enrolling in a class on an unfamiliar topic.

Single Tasking Rather Than Multi-Tasking

Our generation coined the phrase and the practice of multi-tasking, believing we could optimize our time by increasing production. The term was originally used by IBM in the mid-‘60s to describe a computer’s ability to process more than one task at a time. It was never meant to be a human function.

And the irony is we didn’t really accomplish that much more. Conversely, it resulted in more stress and less satisfaction, as we lived our lives at a pace that left us with nothing more than a blur of a memory. In order, to relish our time, we need to single-task, focusing on what is in front of us at the moment, doing it with focus and intention.

This requires being fully in the moment rather than fracturing our attention among many thoughts, tasks and distractions. This calms the mind, reduces stress and allows our brain the capacity to deeply experience where we are and what we are doing, resulting in a feeling of accomplishment and satisfaction, and experiences that are more likely to be recorded as memories.

Reflecting for Retention and Including the Emotion

Another technique that can help us deepen the memories of our everyday life, is mindful reflection. It is recommended that we take a few minutes just before falling asleep to recall the highlights of our day, including acknowledging the emotions associated with what happened, as well as the details. This engrains the experience as a long-term memory while our brain slips into REM (Rapid Eye Movement) sleep.

Our remarkable brains assign our memories into the various regions. Emotional memories are stored within the limbic system, the Amygdala and the Hippocampus, while the Cortex handles conscious experience. The Amygdala tags experiences with emotion, making emotional moments more memorable while the Hippocampus links them to context and the Prefrontal Cortex helps regulate them. By focusing on individual moments of our day, we give them more depth, diversity and a better chance of being recalled later, resulting in a richer, substantial memory that will be retained.

We can’t slow time, but we can fill it differently, make it more enriching and interesting as we live it more fully. It just takes some creativity and dedication, and to me, having a life worth remembering seems worth the effort.

Let’s Have a Conversation:

What’s the most interesting thing that happened to you yesterday? What do you remember about your daily life? Do you think it’s too boring and unworthy of remembering?

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Although I have always loved nature, I have never really been a gardener. Of course, I have planted a few bulbs, scattered some seeds, grown a few vegetables, and even planted a couple of trees. But I never really thought about what I was doing. 

Perhaps it is something to do with my age, but every time I plant something it feels like a little piece of magic. How can those tiny seeds I scatter grow into beautiful flowers, and fill my summer with colour and perfume? It seems impossible to turn tiny seeds into tomatoes, lettuce, peppers, beans. How can a tiny acorn grow into a huge oak, and live for hundreds of years?

On It’s Way

Despite the cold, wind, rain, and frost, tiny little snowdrops are already putting on a delightful show, daintily hanging their heads. My wisteria is showing signs of buds, and my tulips and daffodil bulbs are slowly unfurling their leaves, showing me that spring is not very far away. A while ago I might not have noticed, but now they bring so much joy! 🙂

When I moved into my cottage the garden was overgrown with weeds, and full of rubbish. Despite me thinking I wouldn’t be able to do it on my own, I started in one corner and slowly worked my way around.

Learning from My Mistakes

Of course, I made many mistakes. Plants in the wrong place, too much water – or not enough. But nature teaches us well and, like most things in life, I also learned from trial and error, a little intuition, a bit of research, and a lot of hard toil.

The rewards for all my hard work have been so worth it. As well as watching my garden come to life, I have enjoyed listening to the birds sing, watching them make nests, and teaching their young to fly.

I have delighted in feeding them, especially through the depths of winter. Instead of feeling like an old lady living alone, I felt like a concerned mum, making sure my brood were safe and happy. 🙂

Spring Cleaning

Along with tending my garden, springtime seems to energise and invigorate me. Time to give the spiders their marching orders, and get rid of the delicate cobwebs that magically appear, hanging gracefully from the beams of my ceiling!

The gleaming springtime sun seems to make my windows look as though they were last cleaned about a decade ago. Obviously, I don’t want to miss a fraction of the sunshine, so I clean them within an inch of their lives. 🙂

Summer Wardrobe

Next I turn my attention to my wardrobe, what a joy to bring out soft, summer dresses and colourful clothes, after the thick chunky jumpers and dark leggings of winter.

Gone are my cosy pajamas and fluffy slippers, and out come pretty nightdresses and bare feet. My hair, covered all winter in a cosy hat, is let loose to flow or put up in a pony tail.

A New Perspective

Spring also seems to change my perspective on life. I am more positive, excited, happier. I look forward to lazy days in the garden, BBQ’s with friends, chatting over a glass of wine till the early hours.

I think the most miraculous thing for me is knowing that, whatever happens in this world, seasons come and go like clockwork, and this time next year, if I am lucky, I will be watching it unfold all over again. That’s what I call magic! 🙂

Join the Conversation:

Do you have a favourite season? Does spring put a spring in your step? What is your favourite thing about spring?

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Many women reach their 60s believing life will finally slow down. The children are grown. Careers may be winding down. There is an expectation that this stage of life will feel lighter, calmer, and more spacious.

For many women, the opposite happens.

Responsibilities do not disappear. They shift. Family needs continue. Work obligations linger. Emotional labor increases. Instead of relief, many women feel stretched thinner than ever. Over time, this constant sense of responsibility can quietly erode emotional well-being.

The good news? Emotional relief rarely comes from doing more. More often, it begins with the brave act of doing less.

Why Emotional Overload Is Common After 60

After 60, many women are still carrying roles they have held for decades: caregiver, organizer, problem solver, emotional anchor for family and friends.

Because these roles developed gradually, they often go unquestioned. We simply continue doing what we have always done, even when it no longer feels sustainable.

Emotional overload usually does not come from one major responsibility. It comes from dozens of small ones that never get released: appointments to manage, problems to solve, expectations to meet, decisions to make.

Over time, this constant demand on your energy can lead to exhaustion, resentment, and a quiet sense that there is never enough space for yourself.

The Hidden Emotional Weight of Responsibility

Responsibility is not just about time. It is about emotional presence.

When you are responsible for too much, your mind rarely rests. You are always anticipating needs, preparing for what could go wrong, and thinking ahead for others. This mental load can be just as draining as physical work.

Many women describe feeling tired even after resting. This is often a sign of emotional overload rather than physical fatigue.

Simplifying Does Not Mean Giving Up

Simplifying your responsibilities does not mean abandoning people or avoiding meaningful commitments. It means being intentional about where your energy goes.

When life feels emotionally heavy, it is often a sign that your energy is being divided too many ways.

Simplifying is an act of clarity, not withdrawal.

The Emotional Cost of Doing Everything Yourself

Many women were raised to believe that being capable means being self-sufficient. Over time, this belief can quietly turn into emotional burnout.

Doing everything yourself can lead to chronic stress, reduced patience, emotional withdrawal, and a loss of joy. It can also create resentment, especially when your efforts go unnoticed or unacknowledged.

Letting go of some responsibilities creates space for rest, creativity, and deeper connection.

Delegation as a Life Skill

In business, delegation is a well-known tool for sustainability and growth. The same principle applies to life.

Delegation simply means deciding what only you can do and releasing the rest.

This may look like sharing responsibilities with family members, outsourcing household tasks, saying no to commitments that no longer align with your values, or creating simple systems that reduce daily decision making.

These ideas are central to the work shared at The Simple Business, where the focus is on simplifying responsibilities so people can reclaim time, clarity, and emotional balance.

How Simplification Supports Emotional Health

When responsibilities are simplified, emotional health often improves naturally.

Women frequently report feeling more present, less reactive, and more connected to themselves. Anxiety softens. Emotional space increases. Decision making becomes easier.

Simplification creates margin. And margin allows emotions to settle.

Starting Small Without Overwhelm

You do not need to change everything at once to feel a difference.

Start by identifying one responsibility that feels heavier than it should. Ask yourself whether it truly needs to be handled by you, or whether it could be shared, simplified, or released.

Even small changes can create noticeable emotional relief.

Releasing Guilt Around Doing Less

One of the biggest barriers to simplification is guilt.

Many women feel selfish when they consider letting go of responsibilities. But caring for your emotional well-being is not selfish. It is necessary.

After 60, you have earned the right to choose how your energy is used.

Choosing Ease as an Act of Self-Respect

Simplifying your responsibilities is not about shrinking your life. It is about shaping it in a way that supports your emotional well-being now and in the years ahead.

Ease is not something you need to earn. It is something you are allowed to choose.

Let’s Chat:

Reflection doesn’t have to be heavy! Take a moment to think about these, and feel free to share your thoughts in the comments:

If you could “resign” from one tiny, annoying household task today without any consequences, what would it be? (Is it being the only person who knows where the spare lightbulbs are?)

What is one responsibility you’re currently carrying that feels like an itchy sweater? How would it feel to finally take it off?

If an extra two hours of “me time” suddenly appeared in your day, would you spend it on a new hobby, a long nap, or finally reading that book on your nightstand?