Month: May 2026

Whatever age you are in life, nothing is perfect. If you are 16, you may be deciding your future, taking exams, trying to fit in, building relationships, or maybe wondering how to cover up an enormous pimple. 🙂

If you are in your 30s, you might be struggling to buy a home/have somewhere to live, find a partner, climb the career ladder, bring up children, and make a life for yourself.

In your 60s you may have to deal with health issues, finances, where to spend your later years, or the sad loss of friends and loved ones.

That doesn’t mean that life isn’t beautiful for the most part. My life seems to have been a series of huge up and downs… thankfully, far more ups than downs!

But sometimes life throws a problem, or maybe a series of problems, and you really don’t know which way to turn. What do you do?

Take a Step Back

We may become so entrenched in what is happening we can’t really see the situation for what it is, and how we should react. So, the first thing to do is to take a step back. 

Write down your priorities and what needs to be done first. Be brave, clarity helps you to achieve a successful outcome.

For example, if it is a financial concern:

• List all savings, income, assets, expenditure.
• Look at ways to reduce outgoings. Do you really need that subscription/gym membership?
• Is there something you could sell? Perhaps downsize your home, a smaller car, jewellery, unwanted items?
• Check if there are any benefits you could apply for. Don’t let your pride get in the way. There are literally millions of unclaimed benefits that could change people’s lives.
• There are hundreds of charities who are there to help – find out if you are eligible for a grant.
• Look at ways you can make money. Perhaps a part time job, selling crafts, skills, consulting, etc.
• If you have debts, look to see if they can be consolidated.

Be Gentle with Yourself

Sometimes it is easy to think we are the only ones with problems. We may think we have made bad decisions or taken wrong turns. We may become angry, feel guilty, have regrets. However difficult and painful things are, they are all part of the tapestry of life. You will get through it.

The most important thing is to care for yourself. Eat well, sleep often, listen to music, read a book, take a walk. These will go a long way to normalising life and help you move forward. 

Sometimes the only thing you might feel able to do in a day is just breathe. 

And that is fine.

Build Yourself an Invisible Cloak

I like to build myself an invisible cloak, which I call my Angel Wings. Inside it, nothing can hurt me. It is my shield against the world and allows me time to rest, think, become stronger, and work out a way forward.

So many things in life sort themselves out – if we give them time. If you think of all the things that have happened in your life, they were either not as bad as you thought, fixed themselves, or you fixed them. Just think about that for a moment…

It means most things are often sorted without any help, and the ones that you managed to do yourself just show how brave, resilient, resourceful and clever you are! 🙂

You Are Who You Are Because of Your Challenges

You are not the same person as you were, you have learned so much over the years. Gained skills that you may have thought impossible, become competent, proficient, and mastered so much.

Be proud of your achievements and, next time a problem arises, know that you have everything within you to solve it.

Let’s Have a Conversation:

Which challenges have shaped you into the person you are today? Do you handle problems differently from your 50-year-old self?

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Somewhere after 60, the same moments start meaning different things.

A forgotten name becomes a warning sign. A tired afternoon becomes evidence. A pause becomes proof. A no becomes a limit.

Nothing about the moments has changed. The interpretation has.

A younger person misses a deadline and thinks, I messed up.  A woman over 60 misses the same deadline and thinks, Maybe I’m slipping.

Same event. Different conclusion. And often, the conclusion is doing most of the damage.

Confidence Is Not the Absence of Doubt

We tend to think confidence means feeling certain. It doesn’t. Certainty is a feeling. Confidence is steadier than that. It’s the ability to trust your judgment, your perception, and your capacity – even when discomfort shows up.

Most of us weren’t more confident at 30. We were simply less bruised, less self-conscious, and living in a culture that still reflected possibility back to us.

What changes after 60 is not usually capability. It’s interpretation.

The same nervousness that once meant I’m learning now becomes I’m losing it.  The same pause that once meant I’m thinking now whispers I’m slowing down.

The event hasn’t changed. The meaning attached to it has.

An Important Distinction

Not every loss of confidence after 60 is a distortion. Some changes are real. Processing speed can shift. Physical stamina can change. Ageism exists. Health concerns deserve attention, not denial. Persistent memory or cognitive changes should be discussed with a physician, not dismissed as “negative thinking.”

But much of the daily erosion in confidence I see has less to do with actual decline than with the interpretation of ordinary human moments.

After 60, normal experiences often get filtered through a narrative of decline.

• Fatigue becomes weakness.
• Uncertainty becomes incompetence.
• Needing support becomes dependency.
• One forgotten detail becomes evidence.

That lens changes everything.

The Distortions That Quietly Undermine Confidence

Psychologists have names for the mental shortcuts that distort perception. A few appear repeatedly in women over 60:

Catastrophizing

You forget why you walked into a room and immediately wonder if it’s dementia. One moment becomes a diagnosis.

Mind-Reading

A younger colleague seems distracted, and you assume she sees you as outdated. No evidence – just interpretation filling in the blanks.

All-or-Nothing Thinking

You can’t do something the way you once did, so you conclude you shouldn’t do it at all. The middle ground – differently, not less – disappears.

Emotional reasoning

You feel invisible at a dinner party, so you assume you are invisible. The feeling becomes the fact.

If any of these sound familiar, it doesn’t mean you’re broken. It means you’re human – with a brain trying to protect you by predicting worst-case scenarios.

(For readers who want the science behind why interpretation shapes health this powerfully – across pain, diagnosis, and aging – I’ve written more about that in Beyond Positive Thinking: The Science of How Interpretation Shapes Health.)

The Body Speaks Before the Mind Explains

Uncertainty has a physical signature: a tight chest, tense shoulders, a flutter in the stomach before entering a room full of strangers.

Earlier in life, we often interpreted those sensations as I’m nervous or This matters. Later in life, many people start interpreting the same sensations as I can’t handle this anymore.

The sensation is the same. The interpretation changes.

The next time discomfort rises in your body, pause before naming it. Ask yourself:

Is this danger – or just discomfort?

Most of the time, it’s discomfort. And discomfort is not evidence of decline. It’s often evidence that something matters to you.

Feelings are messages. Actions are choices. Those two things are not the same.

What Actually Builds Confidence

Real confidence at this stage of life is not built through forced positivity or pretending fear away. It’s built through accurate seeing.

When something shakes your confidence, pause and ask:

• What actually happened?
• What evidence supports this fear?
• What evidence contradicts it?
• Am I reacting to reality – or to interpretation?
• Is this decline, or simply discomfort?

These questions create space between the event and the story attached to it. And in that space, you regain perspective.

I’ve watched women in their 70s and 80s become calmer, clearer, and more grounded – not because doubt disappeared, but because they stopped treating every fearful thought as truth.

A Different Definition of Confidence

Confidence after 60 is not about becoming fearless. It’s about becoming less distorted.

Less ruled by catastrophic interpretation. Less controlled by old narratives. Less willing to mistake one uncomfortable moment for evidence of personal decline.

You have not necessarily lost confidence. More often, you’ve lost the habit of seeing yourself clearly beneath years of messaging, comparison, and accumulated fear.

That habit can be rebuilt. Not through reinvention. Through accurate seeing.

The woman you fear you are becoming is rarely the woman standing in the mirror.

The woman in the mirror has raised people, ended things, started things, buried people, kept going. She has been underestimated and overlooked, and she is still here – still deciding, still choosing what to do next.

That is not the résumé of someone in decline. That is the résumé of someone who has been quietly accumulating evidence her whole life – and forgot to read it back to herself.

Start there.

Let’s Talk:

What’s a moment you initially read as “I’m slipping” that turned out to be something else entirely — tiredness, distraction, or just being human? Share your story in the comments below.