As an only child who grew up with a quiet and introverted mother and a father who worked very long hours, there wasn’t a great deal of meaningful conversation in my household. In fact, being raised on TV dinners made the meals go even more quickly.

My mother rarely initiated conversation, shared her feelings, or wanted to discuss the goings-on in the news, and when she did, she often made negative comments.

Wrong Setting Early On

Having dinner was basically just a time to eat and then get back to whatever we were each doing beforehand. Typically, I’d retreat to my room to read or write in my journal, and my mother would go to the small guest room beside the kitchen and sit on the leather sofa.

There was not one particular place where we congregated to watch TV. There was a small television in the living room, but the screen was so small that really only one person could sit in front of it at a time.

Plus, our sofas were S-shaped, so everybody was turned away from one another while sitting – hardly conducive to communing.

That pretty much summed up my childhood, which is probably why I became a writer: I needed a forum for self-expression. My father was a little more vocal, but he worked long hours in the retail industry and rarely had dinner with us. My conversations with my mother tended to be more superficial in nature.

Over the years, I came to understand that she was often in a depressive state, which is why she slept late, and why, for most of childhood, I was left to my own devices. The only time her mood ever really shifted was when she was about to leave the house to go ride her horse at a ranch about an hour away.

A Different Kind of Mealtime

I had a small family, with just a few cousins whom I rarely saw. It was only when I met my husband at the age of 18, and stayed with his family, when I realized that people actually sat down for meals and talked about all sorts of things.

For me, this was illuminating, but at the same time, I felt mute. When I was asked a question or my opinion about something, I was only able to respond with a couple of words.

I just wasn’t practiced in, or comfortable with, the art of conversation. But I have to say, I was always a great listener, and going to nursing school definitely helped me hone my communication skills.

My Turnaround

Eventually, it all worked out the way it was supposed to. I became a writer, and this served me well. I’ve also become a good conversationalist; thus, my life passion has been to help others communicate in their chosen form.

I’m still not completely spontaneous (verbally) in most group situations, as I’m often afraid that I’ll be misunderstood. My spoken words were not heard as a child, so I figured that the only way to have a voice was through my writing.

Now that I’m a grandparent, I see the value in communicating and storytelling. I even created Conversation Cards for Meaningful Storytelling, a card deck based on my book Writing for Bliss. The cards are a way to connect those of the same generation and also those at an intergenerational level.

The Grandmother Factor

The idea was inspired by a discussion I had with a college student who told me that she often asked her grandmother to tell her a story. “I have so many stories; I don’t know where to start,” her grandmother would say.

Grandparents, in particular, strongly influence their grandchildren, and the relationship is usually a unique one. I was very close with my grandparents and easily expressed myself with them. I never felt judged. I want my own grandchildren to feel the same way. I want them to freely give voice to their feelings and experiences.

We all learn by hearing one another talk, but most of my learning came from books. Being able to communicate is such a vital skill, and while it can be learned, it’s best if nurtured in one’s early years.

To communicate well means being understood. Communication also fosters empathy and understanding between people, which is vital for the entire human race. Conversations are what connects us as human beings. At so many levels, they nurture relationships.

We need to continue to have conversations and discussions with one another to maintain a sense of harmony and understanding. So, the next time you have a conversation with someone in your life, make sure that you choose your words wisely… and remember the power they have.

What is your conversation level? How well do you do in a social setting? Are you quiet or verbal? What is your best means of communication? Why do you think that is? Please share your thoughts with our community, and let’s have a conversation!

It’s happened over the years that I’ve gotten so obsessed with a lipstick that I’ve continued to purchase the same shade or tried new colors in the formula. But when I heard there’s a totally new creation from M.A.C., well, that’s pretty exciting. M.A.C. Powerglass Lip Gloss is just that—a fresh new plumping formula with a ton of sheer color. M.A.C. has had lip plumper before (the Plenty of Pout Plumping Lip Gloss) but this version is juicer, shinier and even more long-lasting.

“What separates this formula from any we’ve ever seen in the past is a proprietary tingling Sweet Sting Complex that increases stimulation to lips instantly,” Gregory Arlt, Director of Makeup Artistry, M.A.C. Cosmetics, tells StyleCaster. “It indeed plumps up the lips and feels more creamy and moisturizing than previous incarnations.”

Many lip plumpers dry out the lips but Powerglass feels like a mix of a gloss and a lip balm. It’s not as sticky as Lipglass. That’s thanks to the hyaluronic acid, avocado and coconut oils. And it does sting but not very much and not for very long. Powerglass contains a blend of ginger, capsicum and menthol crystals that increase stimulation and subtly plump lips. There are six non-boring colors that the brand says were inspired by comic book heroes. My favorite shade is Plump Up the Jam, a non-shimmery cherry red. I really love how the curved applicator hugs my lips during application. I’m also pleasantly surprised by how much color there is and how long it lasted even thorough a Dunkin’ Donuts iced tea.

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Powerglass launches today but it’s not launching alone. M.A.C. doesn’t do anything small, does it? There are seven new travel-sized Fix+ setting sprays called Fix+ Vibes. Each has, well, a mood connected with it. They’re packed with vitamins, minerals, chamomile, cucumber and green tea and keep your makeup in place for up to 12 hours. Choose one depending on your mood that day, such as Calm or Passion. Each has a fruity and floral fragrance and TBH they just look cute in your makeup bag.

Shop both collections, below.

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Powerglass Plumping Lip Gloss in Can’t Burst This Bubble

A milky pink.

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Powerglass Plumping Lip Gloss in Comic Book Ending

A purple with multicolored sparkles.

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Powerglass Plumping Lip Gloss in Gee, That’s Swell!

A neutral pink with gold pearl.

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Powerglass Plumping Lip Gloss in Pleased As Punch

A bright pink.

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Powerglass Plumping Lip Gloss in Plump Up the Jam

A cherry red.

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Powerglass Plumping Lip Gloss in Seriously Stoked

A bright neon orange.

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Fix+ Awaken

Infused with tea leaf and floral accords.

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Fix+ Balance

Infused with peppermint and bergamot accords.

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Fix+ Compassion

Infused with berry and rose accords.

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Fix+ Passion

Infused with strawberry and peach accords.

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Fix+ Play

Infused with lemon and orange accords.

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Fix+ Calm

Infused with blueberry and jasmine accords.

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Fix+ Vitality

Infused with apricot and tangerine accords.

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