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Why You Should Commit to the Carry-On and Tips for Making it Easy

Why You Should Commit to the Carry-On and Tips for Making it Easy

The world is divided into two different kinds of people: overpackers and underpackers. If you fall into the first category, don’t turn away yet! Give me a few minutes to try and convince you that there is a better way to travel.

As you might already suspect, I am an underpacker. My measure of a packing fail: Coming home with even one thing in my suitcase that I did not need, use or wear during my trip. I do fail sometimes, but not often anymore.

Here’s how to pack lighter – all lessons I learned the hard way.

Start with an Attitude Change

It helps that I don’t really care how I look. I don’t mean I would travel in ripped or dirty clothes. But I don’t need to be the glammed up center of attention. In fact, when you’re traveling, the more you can blend in, the better. You’re less likely to be targeted by pickpockets and local scammers.

Spend a little time researching what the locals wear and try to pack like that. This is the lesson I learned when I wore my electric blue winter coat to Romania, a former Soviet block country where there were two colors of winter coat: grey and black.

So if you simply must be a fashion plate, try to pare down the clothes to a capsule wardrobe of items you can mix and match and pieces that will do double duty.

Use a Packing List

These printable packing lists will give you a feel for the things you’ll need. If the list includes something you don’t think you’ll need, don’t pack it. If there is something missing, make a note on the printed sheet so you don’t forget it.

Check the Weather Forecast

I make this recommendation because I live in Chicago. We like to say, “If you don’t like the weather, wait 10 minutes.” Here, the calendar might say May, but the thermometer might say March. Or July.

So check the forecast for your destination. It will tell you whether to pack a raincoat, sunhat, shorts, or sweaters.

Start Packing Early

If you have a spare bed, room, couch or some other spot to hold the things you want to pack, start a week early and put everything on the bed that you think you might want on your trip.

Then walk away.

Come back the next day and look it over. Is there anything missing? Is there anything you think you might not need on the trip? Make adjustments accordingly.

Then walk away.

Come back the next day with the intention of making choices. If you have two pairs of pants on the bed, take away one pair. If you have four shirts, take away two. And so on, until you have cut in half the things on the bed.

Then walk away.

The next day, it’s time to pack. Start with the pieces of clothing you absolutely MUST have with you.

If you run out of suitcase before you run out of clothes to pack, you get to make a choice: Leave something else behind or pay $40 or more to check a bag.

Buy Packing Cubes

I resisted buying this travel essential for years. Now I can’t believe I ever traveled without them.

Packing cubes are flexible pouches with a brilliant zipper system. You pack them with the clothes you want to take, and zip them shut. Then – this is the brilliant part – you zip a second zipper to compress the insides flat. (Think of it like your expandable suitcase, when you open that second zipper, it gives you an extra inch or two of suitcase space. When you zip it shut, everything inside is compressed.)

As a bonus, the clothes you lay inside the packing cube are much more likely to stay wrinkle free. I don’t know why. But it’s true.

Stick with One Basic Color

When I head to a Caribbean resort, that color will be white. But most of the time, it’s black – black pants, a black skirt, a black dress. Then I add color in the tops I will wear with the pants and skirt. Finally, I pack a few scarves and funky costume jewelry to dress everything up or down and add more color.

Wear the Heavy Stuff on the Plane

There are plenty of TikTokers and travel hacker influencers who will tell you to wear layers and layers on the plane to save suitcase space. Or to pack a pillowcase with your stuff and pretend it’s a pillow, not a suitcase, so it doesn’t count as a carryon.

While that might be useful info for travelers on uber-budget airlines that charge for anything that doesn’t fit under your seat, you really don’t have to go that crazy. Just use a little common sense.

If, for example, you’re flying from Florida to Colorado, you know you’ll need your winter coat, hat, gloves, hiking boots and heavy jeans. Wear the jeans and hiking boots on the plane, stuff the hat and gloves in the coat pockets and carry the coat on the plane rather than packing it in a suitcase.

I do this anyway because I’m always chilly on a plane. I’m always surprised when I see someone boarding a flight in shorts and flip flops. I would be blue by the time I landed!

Think Layers, Not Bulk

Thin layers are always the right answer, no matter where you are. Even a Caribbean vacation requires preparing for chilly evenings or overly air-conditioned restaurants. Layers are the answer to staying warm and packing light.

Make the Best Use of Your Under-Seat Bag

Finally, remember that you get not one, but two things to carry onto the plane – a bag that goes into the overhead and a smaller bag that fits under the seat in front of you.

Don’t waste the space in that second bag!

My go-to is a roomy backpack because I travel with a lot of electronics – laptop, Kindle, phone, ear buds and all of the cords and accessories they require. But those only take up two zippered compartments. That leaves two more compartments for other things – makeup bag, an extra pair of shoes, etc.

The other thing that works for me is a big striped bag that is super flexible. I can cram a lot into it and still stuff it under the seat. The downside of that is it is heavy to carry, unlike my backpack which easily distributes the weight across my shoulders.

Practice, Practice, Practice

I know. This isn’t easy. Especially if you’ve always been an overpacker. But practice will make perfect. Try it on your next quick weekend trip. That will give you a chance to see how it feels to only pack what you’ll need for 2-3 days, how much you like being able to lift that light carry-on bag and how happy you are not worrying about whether your suitcase will show up at the other end of your flight.

Just remember to pack one more thing: a credit card. That way, if you find you truly can’t live without something for a few days, you can head to the store to buy it.

Let’s Have a Conversation:

Are you an overpacker or an underpacker? What’s your favorite packing hack? Share with us in the comment section below.

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Liz McGraw’s Season 1 Reunion Look

Liz McGraw’s Season 1 Reunion Look / Real Housewives of Rhode Island Season 1 Reunion Looks

One thing that I noticed over the course of #RHORI season one is that Liz McGraw does love a free and flow-y look. So I wasn’t shocked to see her in this style of dress for the reunion. I am absolutely obsessed with it and the designer thankfully makes it in about every color and print imaginable. So even if you can’t get your hands on her particular shade, be sure to snag another before you’re left feeling blue about not having one. 

Sincerely Stylish,

Jess


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How to Make Your Own Essential Oil Blend for Mature Skin (Recipe)

A Basic Essential Oil Blend for Everyday Mature Skin Care

With all the wonderful natural facial serums on the market today, it can be a little overwhelming choosing the correct formula with safe, non-toxic ingredients, all at a reasonable price. The good news is that it’s easy and fun to make a quality product on your own using the miracle of nature – essential oils. 

When I started working with skincare formulas in 2003, one of the first products I was excited about making was an essential oil-based facial serum. My skin needs were changing, and a moisturizing oil made perfect sense for dry, maturing skin.

I decided to work with four wonderful healthy aging essential oils I had discovered: Lavender, Frankincense, Rose Geranium, and Carrot Seed.

The natural and highly effective nature of essential oils makes them perfect for skincare. When blended for their various properties and used with a carrier oil that matches your skin type, you can create a serum tailor-made for your skin.

What Are Essential Oils?

Essential oils are the essence of plants. Hidden away in many parts of the plant, like the flowers, seeds, and roots, they are very potent chemical compounds. They can give the plant its scent, protect it from harsh conditions, and help with pollination.

The benefits of essential oils on humans are diverse and amazing. Lavender flower oil, for example, contains compounds that help soothe skin irritation and redness, while the scent reduces feelings of anxiety and stress.

The beautiful Rose essential oil is hydrating to the skin and sometimes used to treat scarring, while the scent is known to help lift depression. 

There are many essential oils to choose from for specific skincare needs. I have used a myriad of different combinations but keep coming back to the tried and true blend from my very first serum.

The four essential oils used are the workhorses of skincare for mature skin, as well as being wonderfully uplifting for mind, body, and spirit. 

The Base Oil Blend Formula

Here’s what you’ll need:

Bottle

1 oz. amber dropper bottle. You can find those in pharmacies or online.

Base (Carrier) Oil

As a base, you can use one of the oils below or a combination of several that meet your skin’s needs:

  • Jojoba oil is my base oil of choice. It’s incredible for most skin types: it’s extremely gentle and non-irritating for sensitive skin, moisturizing for dry skin, balancing for oily skin, ideal for combination skin, and offers a barrier of protection from environmental stressors. It also helps skin glow as it delivers deep hydration.
  • Rosehip oil smooths the skin’s texture and calms redness and irritation.
  • Argan oil contains high levels of vitamin E and absorbs thoroughly into the skin leaving little oily residue.
  • Avocado oil is effective at treating age spots and sun damage, as well as helping to soothe inflammatory conditions such as blemishes and eczema.
  • Olive oil is a heavier oil and the perfect choice if your skin needs a mega-dose of hydration. Just be aware that olive oil takes longer to absorb and leaves the skin with an oily feeling. This may be desirable for extremely dry, red, itchy skin.

Essential Oils

  • Lavender essential oil is very versatile and healing. It helps reduce inflammation, kill bacteria, and clear pores. Its scent is also calming and soothing.
  • Frankincense essential oil helps to tone and strengthen mature skin in addition to fighting bacteria and balancing oil production.
  • Rose Geranium essential oil helps tighten the skin by reducing the appearance of fine lines, helps reduce inflammation and fight redness, and offers anti-bacterial benefits to help fight the occasional breakout. The scent is also known to be soothing and balancing.
  • Carrot seed oil is a fantastic essential oil for combination skin. It helps even the skin tone while reducing inflammation and increasing water retention.

The Recipe

Let’s start with a simple recipe:

  • 1 oz. Jojoba oil (or carrier oil of your choice)
  • 10 drops Lavender
  • 10 drops Frankincense
  • 10 drops Rose Geranium
  • 10 drops Carrot seed oil 

Place the essential oil drops in the amber dropper bottle then fill with Jojoba/carrier oil. It’s that simple!

Applying Your Homemade Serum

Use this serum morning and evening as part of your regular skincare routine. Serums work best when applied after cleansing your face. You can cleanse with Coconut Oil or a mixture of oils for enhanced hydration (we will cover this in the next article) or use your regular facial cleanser.

Essential oils will not interfere in any way with your normal skincare products.

Keep in mind that the serum is concentrated. Use only a pea-sized amount, work it into your fingertips, and apply evenly over the face without tugging or pulling.

If your skin feels tacky, reduce the amount on the next application. Your skin should feel soft, not oily. Follow with your regular moisturizer if you like. 

Making your own facial serum is fun and rewarding! I look forward to hearing your thoughts and ideas on essential oils and making personalized serums and skincare.

What facial serum do you use? Have you made one yourself? What is your favorite essential oil for skin care? Please share your thoughts with our community!

Liz McGraw’s Season 1 Reunion Look

Liz McGraw’s Season 1 Reunion Look / Real Housewives of Rhode Island Season 1 Reunion Looks

One thing that I noticed over the course of #RHORI season one is that Liz McGraw does love a free and flow-y look. So I wasn’t shocked to see her in this style of dress for the reunion. I am absolutely obsessed with it and the designer thankfully makes it in about every color and print imaginable. So even if you can’t get your hands on her particular shade, be sure to snag another before you’re left feeling blue about not having one. 

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The Difference Between Being Safe and Feeling Safe

The Difference Between Being Safe and Feeling Safe

A woman once told me something that has stayed with me ever since. She said: “I know I’m okay on paper. I just don’t always feel okay.”

At first, I thought she was describing a financial problem. But she wasn’t. She had retirement savings. She owned her home. She had Social Security income and no major debt.

By most measures, she was financially secure.

Yet she still worried.

She still wondered whether she would have enough. She still hesitated before spending money on herself. And she still found herself lying awake occasionally thinking about the future.

The more we talked, the more I realized something important: Being safe and feeling safe are not always the same thing.

When the Numbers Say One Thing and Your Heart Says Another

Many women spend decades doing exactly what they were taught to do.

  • They work hard.
  • They save.
  • They avoid unnecessary debt.
  • They prepare for retirement.

Then retirement arrives, and something unexpected happens. The habits that helped create financial security don’t automatically create peace of mind. In fact, some of the same instincts that helped us save and prepare can make it difficult to relax and enjoy what we’ve built.

We become so accustomed to protecting our future that we struggle to trust it.


“Financial security lives in the numbers. Peace of mind lives in the heart.”


Why Feeling Safe Can Be Harder

The challenge is that retirement comes with uncertainties that no spreadsheet can completely eliminate.

None of us knows exactly how long we’ll live.

None of us knows what future healthcare needs may arise.

None of us knows what the economy will do next year – or 10 years from now.

So even when the facts are reassuring, our minds sometimes continue searching for potential problems.

It’s not because we’re doing something wrong. It’s because uncertainty can be uncomfortable. And retirement introduces a great deal of uncertainty.

The Stories We Tell Ourselves

Sometimes feeling unsafe has less to do with money and more to do with the stories we’ve carried for years.

Perhaps you grew up during a time when money was tight.

Perhaps you watched your parents struggle financially.

Perhaps you’ve experienced a divorce, job loss, illness, or other unexpected setback.

Experiences like these can leave lasting impressions.

Even when circumstances improve, those old fears sometimes remain.

The numbers change.

The feelings don’t always keep up.

A Reader’s Question

Not long ago, a reader asked: “How do I know when I can stop worrying?”

I thought about that question for quite a while. Because I don’t think the goal is to eliminate worry completely. The goal may be learning to recognize when worry is no longer helping us.

There comes a point when caution serves us well. And there comes a point when caution quietly becomes fear. Understanding the difference can be life-changing.

Building Confidence, Not Certainty

One of the most comforting realizations in retirement is that confidence doesn’t come from certainty. It comes from trust.

Trust in the planning you’ve done.

Trust in the decisions you’ve made.

Trust in your ability to adapt if circumstances change.

Most retirees who successfully navigate challenges don’t do so because they predicted everything perfectly.

They do so because they’ve developed resilience, flexibility, and perspective.

Those qualities are every bit as valuable as financial resources.

Giving Yourself Permission

Sometimes the hardest part of retirement isn’t saving enough. It’s giving yourself permission to believe you’ve done enough.

  • Permission to enjoy a dinner out.
  • Permission to take the trip.
  • Permission to make the home improvement.
  • Permission to use some of the resources you spent years building.

For many women, that’s a much bigger adjustment than they ever expected.

Final Thoughts

Being safe and feeling safe are two different experiences. One comes from preparation. The other comes from confidence. The good news is that confidence can grow.

It grows when we acknowledge our fears without letting them control us. It grows when we recognize how much we’ve already accomplished. And it grows when we begin to trust ourselves as much as we trust the numbers.

Because retirement isn’t simply about creating financial security. It’s about creating the peace of mind to enjoy it.

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When you think about it, does being safe and feeling safe overlap in your life? In which areas do you struggle to equate one to the other?

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The World Doesn’t Need Younger Versions of You – It Needs Your Wisdom

The World Doesn't Need Younger Versions of You – It Needs Your Wisdom

Have you ever noticed that as we get older, we tend to spend more time talking about what we’re losing instead of what we are gaining?

The conversation often centers on wrinkles, retirement, slowing down, or staying relevant in a rapidly changing world. Everywhere we look, we’re encouraged to maintain our youth, preserve our energy, and hold on to who we used to be.

But what if we’ve been asking the wrong question?

What if aging isn’t about becoming a better version of your younger self?

What if it’s about becoming more fully yourself?

A Path of Tragedy

As I’ve grown older, I’ve come to believe that the world doesn’t need younger versions of us. It needs the wisdom that can only come through a life fully lived.

I know this not because I read it somewhere, but because my own life taught it to me, one hard chapter at a time.

At age five, I lost both parents – my dad died in a plane crash, my mom disappeared into grief and work. At 19, a near-fatal car accident left me disabled and weak. At 20, my mother died of cancer.

For me, this isn’t a theory. It’s a lived truth – one forged through some of the most difficult seasons a person can face.

To hide the pain, I lived in my head. To feel safe, I abandoned myself and learned to morph into what I thought others expected of me.

The Dark Night of the Soul

I felt very lost. I had no confidence or sense of self.

In midlife, I entered a healing crisis. Some call it The Dark Night of the Soul. That’s what it felt like to me.

When the pain became unbearable, I started seeking help. That led me onto a spiritual journey.

Over time, I started to heal and better understand myself. I began to appreciate my strengths.

I don’t know if there’s a shortcut – but I certainly took the long way.

Even though I would not want to repeat a single one of them, I can honestly say that I am grateful for every learning opportunity.

Wisdom Is Earned Through Living

Our culture values information, expertise, and achievement. Yet wisdom is something different.

Wisdom cannot be downloaded, purchased, or learned from a textbook alone. It is formed through experience.

It grows through life’s unexpected turns.

Through heartbreak and healing.

Through mistakes and second chances.

Through loss, resilience, and the courage to begin again.

When you look back over your own life, can you see how you’ve navigated challenges you never expected? Or how you’ve adapted to changing circumstances?

How many of us have made difficult decisions? And learned lessons that no one could have taught us in advance?

Every chapter of your life has contributed to who you are today.

Even the chapters you would never choose to repeat.

The Hidden Gift of Growing Older

One of the unexpected gifts of aging is perspective.

When I was young, I remember feeling like every setback was permanent and every decision would determine my future. I often struggled with regret. But after decades of living, I see life so differently.

I realize that difficult seasons eventually pass.

I’ve discovered strengths I didn’t know I possessed.

Can you relate?

Here’s some of what I’ve discovered and value:

  • Presence is more important than perfection.
  • Being respected is more important than being nice.
  • Being yourself is more important than proving yourself.

Many of the qualities our world needs most – compassion, patience, discernment, resilience, and understanding – tend to deepen with age.

Those aren’t signs of decline.

They’re signs of growth.

When the Desire to Contribute Begins to Grow

As I talk to others, I sense a shift from what we thought our golden years would be like to how we truly are experiencing them.

Instead of wanting less from life, many of us tap into a strong desire to contribute more.

Not because we need recognition.

Not because we’re looking for another career.

It’s because we recognize that our life experiences give us something valuable to share.

A lesson.

A perspective.

A story.

A hard-earned truth.

Sometimes that desire appears as a longing to mentor someone.

Sometimes it’s volunteering.

Sometimes it’s writing, teaching, creating, or simply having deeper conversations.

Whatever form it takes, many women discover that the desire to make a difference doesn’t retire.

It grows.

I felt that pull myself – even when, from the outside, everything looked like success.

In my early 40s, I entered that world to bring security to my family.

After a few years, I realized that I felt successful professionally and financially – but never at the level that truly mattered to my soul.

As a data scientist, I was well compensated – but I never felt at home in that culture. I knew I wanted to do more. But I felt trapped.

Today, I have the freedom to contribute in a way that feeds my soul. I feel that opportunity is available to all of us if we yearn for more meaning in our lives.

Five Reminders for This Season of Life

As you reflect on your own journey, consider these reminders:

1. Your Experiences Have Value

The lessons you’ve learned may be exactly what someone else needs to hear.

2. Your Challenges Were Not Wasted

Even difficult experiences can become sources of compassion, strength, and insight.

3. Wisdom Grows Through Reflection

The more you honor your journey, the more clearly you can see what it has taught you.

4. Contribution Takes Many Forms

You don’t have to write a book, start a business, or become a public speaker to make a difference.

5. Your Voice Matters

The world benefits when people share what they’ve learned through living.

The World Needs What Only You Can Offer

The years have given you something precious.

Not just memories.

Not just experiences.

Wisdom.

The world doesn’t need you to chase youth or prove your relevance.

It doesn’t need you to become someone else.

It needs what only you can bring.

Your perspective.

Your compassion.

Your courage.

Your understanding of what truly matters.

Perhaps the invitation of this chapter isn’t to hold on to who you used to be.

Perhaps it’s to embrace who you have become.

Because the world doesn’t need younger versions of you.

It needs your wisdom.

A Question for You:

Have you discovered lessons, insights, or wisdom through your life experiences that you wish someone had shared with you earlier? I’d love to hear what growing older has taught you.

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Kelsey Swanson’s Printed Crop Top and Maxi Skirt

Kelsey Swanson’s Printed Crop Top and Maxi Skirt / Real Housewives of Rhode Island Instagram Fashion June 2026

Kelsey Swanson posted a mirror selfie on Instagram of her #OOTD in a printed crop top and maxi skirt that are giving total Dolce vibes. This stunning set is giving vacation, so if you want to make a statement this season like this coordinated cutie, scroll below and snag a set you won’t regret.

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Stassi Schroeder’s Yellow Cropped Trench Coat and Bag

Stassi Schroeder’s Yellow Cropped Trench Coat and Bag / Vanderpump Villa Fashion June 2026

Stassi Schroeder recently went on a family vacay and packed the cutest yellow finds in her suitcase. We’ve been obsessing over this chic color, and her cropped trench coat paired with a matching clutch is exactly the vibe we’re going for this summer. So if you’re looking to add a little sunshine to your style, scroll below and snag Stassi’s stunning pieces. 

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The Eight-Pound Life Coach I Never Hired 

The Eight-Pound Life Coach I Never Hired

I’ve always been quite quick and efficient. Quick to understand. Quick to act. Quick to respond. Then the “slow life” hit me full force on a beautiful fall day not too long ago. Not in the form of an inspiring book or a yoga retreat in India, but in the form of Fuji, a little Scottish Straight cat who’s now three years old. Since I didn’t want her wandering around outside alone, I started walking her on a leash when she was about 18 months old. I naively thought I was walking the cat. Beginner’s mistake. Fuji quickly showed me that, in this relationship, I was really just the bodyguard tied to the other end of the leash.

And No, I’d Never Had a Cat Before…

I’d never had a cat. So I didn’t know she’d lead me wherever she wanted, whenever she wanted. That’s how I discovered what it means to spend 12 minutes gazing at the top of a tree, hoping to see a squirrel move. At first, I’d sigh and get impatient, but one day, I found myself looking up too.

Since then, I’ve started working from home, and we’ve gone on more walks, making those seemingly pointless stops that, in the end, aren’t so pointless after all. I’ve always loved trees, parks, and fresh air, and these daily walks have reconnected me to a source of well-being that our professional lives so often rob us of. Some call it the “slow life.” I call it being re-educated by an eight-pound animal who refuses to bow to the dictates of our overly hurried society.

What Exactly Is Slow Living?

When I noticed the change Fuji was bringing about in me, I immediately felt that I was truly slowing down for the first time, but I’d never been interested in the concept of slow living before that. It’s part of a reaction against the fast pace imposed everywhere and began with the concept of slow food – as opposed to fast food – in Italy in the late 1980s.

However, that doesn’t mean you have to start baking your own bread or meditating for two hours a day in a minimalist home. It’s not a TikTok challenge that demands you be perfectly zen, perfectly natural, perfectly slow – and, ultimately, perfectly boring! Rather, it’s a way to reclaim your attention and take back control of your time. As K. Bouskill said in the TED Talk linked above: “If you’re lucky enough to decide the pace at which you want to travel through life, it’s a privilege – use it!”

Slowing Down Doesn’t Mean Becoming Inactive

Slowing down doesn’t mean stopping or lacking ambition. Rather, it’s about choosing your own pace instead of getting swept up in everyone else’s. It’s about being more present in what you’re doing. Doing fewer things at once. It’s about stopping measuring the value of a day solely by the number of tasks crossed off a list. Sometimes, it takes a cat staring at a hedge for 10 minutes to remind us that there’s no rush!

Nature as an Antidote to Immediacy

Nature has a quality that is deeply frustrating in our time: it doesn’t rush. Nature works differently. It imposes a different kind of time – a time in which things appear, disappear, return, and change subtly. A time that doesn’t need to be monetized to exist. And when we spend enough time outdoors – even in a neighborhood park – we breathe more easily. We see more clearly. We think differently.

The Luxury of Not Being Productive

One of the most interesting aspects of the slow life is its relationship to productivity. We’ve internalized the idea that every minute must be put to use so deeply that the simple act of producing nothing becomes uncomfortable. We’ve been taught to make our lives profitable, but it’s precisely those moments free of performance – when no one is evaluating us, rushing us, or comparing us – that allow us to stay on our feet. Slow time is not wasted time.

Slow Living and Aging: Slowing Down Without Disappearing

There is also a very interesting aspect to explore regarding aging. In a society obsessed with youth, slowing down can be misinterpreted. We too often associate speed with relevance: responding quickly, understanding quickly, adapting quickly, producing quickly. But what if slowing down was an act of clarity?

As we age, we often gain a better understanding of what deserves our energy. We become more selective, better able to recognize false priorities. Slow living, in this sense, isn’t a withdrawal from the world. It’s a reclaiming of power. It means: I’m not going to disappear, but I’m also not going to let myself be consumed just to prove that I’m still “in the loop.”

What Fuji Taught Me

Fuji knows nothing about slow living. She doesn’t have a life coach. She doesn’t read essays on mindfulness. She doesn’t have a vision board. And yet, she’s taught me so much. She just wants to feel the fence, watch the birds, keep an eye on the squirrels, and decide she’s not ready to go back inside. She’s taught me that some things don’t offer immediate rewards, but nourish us all the same – or that a walk can be a memorable experience. I haven’t become a paragon of serenity, but now when Fuji stops to look at something, I stop too – without any impatience! Thoreau said: “If a man does not keep pace with his companions, perhaps it is because he hears a different drummer.” Slowing down doesn’t mean losing the rhythm; it’s more about choosing the music. But for me, my conductor often refuses to move forward.

What About You?

As you’ve gotten older, have you chosen to slow down, or did something lead you to do so? Are you now more selective about what’s worth your time? What seemingly “pointless” little moment really makes you feel good?

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