I haven’t shared this story very often, but today, it feels especially appropriate.
That forgotten basket had been sitting in the corner of my basement storage closet for years. It was a plain white plastic laundry basket – the kind you might pick up at a big box store for $9.99.
When I saw it again, it was cracked in one corner and covered in dust. It wasn’t beautiful, sentimental, or even especially useful anymore. But still, I couldn’t bring myself to let it go.
That laundry basket once lived in the corner of my son’s bedroom. I used it to gather little boy socks, grass-stained jeans, and soft pajamas that smelled like shampoo… and their childhood.
I used it every day during those sleep-deprived mornings – those messy, magical years when life was loud, full, and chaotic.
I found the basket during a major decluttering session. My boys were grown, both married with children of their own. The house was quieter. My life had changed.
But There It Was – the Laundry Basket
Why was I holding on to it?
I picked it up, fully intending to donate it. After all, it was just a cheap plastic basket. But the moment I touched it, I was transported. I was suddenly standing in my old house – the one where my boys grew up.
I could hear the hum of the dryer, the giggles coming from a nearby room, and I saw my younger self folding tiny T-shirts while thinking about what’s for dinner and reminding myself to sign those school permission slips.
That basket held more than clothes. It held memories. It held a version of me who was needed, present, and deeply connected to her role as a mom.
I wasn’t just holding on to a basket.
I was holding on to her.
The Aha Moment
There I stood – frozen in time, clutching the basket, tears welling up. That’s when it hit me.
The basket had served its purpose. It had done its job. It held socks, shirts… and so many memories. But it didn’t need to hold me anymore.
I realized something powerful that day: We don’t keep things because we need them. We keep them because we haven’t fully honored what they meant to us.
It was never about the basket. It was about giving myself permission to let go – with gratitude, not guilt.
How Ordinary Objects Hold Us Back
We all have a “laundry basket” in our homes.
It might be:
- A chipped mug from an old relationship.
- A drawer full of sympathy cards you haven’t read.
- A dress that hasn’t fit in years.
- A stack of books you meant to read “when you had more time.”
These everyday objects seem harmless, but they carry emotional weight. They remind us – quietly – of who we once were, who we hoped to be, or what we’ve lost or left unfinished.
Without realizing it, we surround ourselves with emotional noise.
And that noise can keep us stuck in grief, guilt, or an identity we’ve outgrown.
A New Way to Declutter: The Laundry Basket Method
Inspired by that moment, I created what I now call the Laundry Basket Method – a gentle, heart-centered approach to decluttering that honors the emotional ties we have to our things.
Here’s how it works:
Choose One Object
Start small. Pick just one thing.
Ask Yourself:
- Why am I keeping this?
- What does it represent?
- Who was I when I used it?
Honor the Story It Tells
- Let the memories surface.
- Let the emotions rise.
- Cry if you need to.
- Write about it.
- Share the story. (I told my boys, and they thought it was kind of funny!)
Decide: Past or Future?
- If it belongs in your past and not your future, it may be time to let it go.
- Thank it. Donate it. Pass it on.
Repeat with Grace
- This isn’t about tossing everything.
- It’s about intentionally releasing, layer by layer…
- One laundry basket at a time.
What Letting Go Made Possible for Me
Letting go of that old basket didn’t make me feel empty. It made me feel free.
- Free to remember the good times without clinging to them.
- Free to release the guilt and emotional weight.
- Free to make space in my home – and my heart – for the woman I am now, and the life I’m designing next.
Decluttering isn’t just about tidying or organizing.
It’s about transforming your relationship with the past – and stepping into your future, lighter, wiser, and more open.
Now It’s Your Turn
You don’t need a massive cleanout or a whole weekend to feel the shift. Just start with one thing.
Hold it.
Honor it.
Let it go.
Notice how even the simplest, most ordinary object – like a laundry basket – might hold the key to your next chapter.
Because letting go isn’t losing something. It’s choosing freedom.
It’s choosing you.
Also read, Top 10 Red Flags That Tell You It’s Time to Ditch the Clutter (And How to Get Started).
Let’s Have a Conversation:
What’s one ordinary object in your home that holds an extraordinary amount of emotion or memory? Have you ever tried to declutter something but found yourself stuck because of what it symbolized? What was it? What part of your identity do you think you’re holding onto through your stuff?
