Month: May 2023

Short Book Reviews: New Worlds at Your Fingertips

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In March, I was honored to moderate a panel of memoir writers at the Tucson Festival of Books. Meeting and interacting with these authors was memorable. Adiba is as funny and direct as her book. Asked by an audience member how her publisher handled book publicity, Adiba said that her publisher had no women of color in the publicity department. She forced them to hire one.

Laura is striking, charming, smart, and on the way to great things with her podcast and Hollywood connections. Stash is being made into a TV series.

Patricia Grayhill is tall, beautiful, and determined that younger lesbians and women entering medicine will not suffer from the same ignorance she confronted. Below are their three books, followed by many more fun reads.

Ain’t That a Mother by Adiba Nelson

Adiba Nelson is the Joe Btfsplk (the Dick Tracy comic character who always had a storm cloud over his head) of motherhood. Whatever can go wrong does. But she has an indominable Puerto Rican mother who instilled in her daughter that you never give up.

As a child, Adiba’s father kidnapped her, then abandoned her to his drug habit. Adiba and her mother scratched out a life, culminating with Adiba’s graduation with a BA in Social Work. Life seemed good. But Adiba has a hole in her she tries to fill with unworthy men and poor decisions. This leads to bad marriages, affairs, and finally to her child, Emory, born with several life-altering disabilities.

Adiba writes with humor, determination, and honesty. I was involved in the mess of her life from the moment I started reading through her strong, but vulnerable end.

Stash: My Life in Hiding by Laura Cathcart Robbins

Stash is compulsively readable – what trouble is Laura going to cause next? From the outside, she appears to have it all: successful African-American woman in the tough world of Hollywood PR, famous producer husband, two beautiful children. But Laura is living a lie.

Regardless of how successful, she can’t let go of her history as a coke-addict, street-living failure. This is the story of her fall and her redemption. Quick, predictable, good read.

Making the Rounds: Defying Norms in Love and Medicine by Patricia Grayhill

Wow! Talk about letting it all hang out in a memoir. Patricia Grayhill is a 70-year-old M.D. and lesbian. She went through med school in the ‘60s, mostly in Utah. She goes onto great success in public health, navigating a vigorous and perilous love life. I’m sure that my eye-opening is mostly because of my narrow reading of lesbian literature.

Patricia Grayhill wrote for young lesbian women who cannot find themselves in published books. If you are lesbian or a woman in or entering the M.D. world, this is a must read. I’m neither, and found the book fascinating for the insights into worlds I’ve never known.

The Slowworm’s Song by Andrew Miller

Yes, there is a slowworm. It’s a small, legless lizard native to Britain. Yes, it moves slowly, and is often mistaken for a snake. Miller knew exactly what he was doing to put this image in our minds as we read the 250-page letter that Stephen Rose writes to his estranged daughter.

The book is a direct narrative, no dialogue, no fancy action. Rose served in Northern Ireland during the Troubles – a period that the British nation and the British military would like to forget.

He is so desperate, so remorseful. He attempts to own his story, but his whole life has been written using the ink of borrowed belief systems, from Alcoholics Anonymous (Rose is an atheist), to the British Army (Rose is an anti-nationalist patriot), to the Quakers (Rose is a militarist). This is not a dazzling read; it is quiet, desperate, and ultimately memorable.

Rough Sleepers by Tracy Kidder

Tracy Kidder hangs out with compulsive people. And then he writes about their compulsions in ways that rivet our interest. My favorite is still House, where he shares the minute experiences of first-time custom home purchasers and an long-time carpenter/contractor. I learned things I’ve never forgotten.

In Rough Sleepers, I learned things that I would forget if I could. Kidder sinks us into the world of homeless street sleepers around Massachusetts General Hospital and the people who try to serve their needs. They are stymied by useless laws, mental illness, and bureaucratic incompetence.

Dr. Jim O’Connell creates a way to serve his patients and sometimes save their lives. But the success stories are few. We follow their stories, the ones who never had a chance, and the ones who try, but return to the pull of street life. As usual for Kidder, a good read, but one for which there is no happy resolution.

Autobiography of a Corpse by Sigizmund Krzhizhanovsky

You’ll sharpen your reading skills on this amazing book of Russian short stories – all written in the 1920s and only published beginning of the 1980s. The name is pronounced Ker-zez-han-ofsky. Originally from Kiev, he moved to Moscow in his 30s and remained writing there until his death in 1950. Though well-known and respected as a writer during his life, history (Russian Revolution, WWII) kept him from being published.

If you like Russian writing such as Gogol’s Dead Souls and The Nose, but with a modern and metaphysical bent, you will enjoy Autobiography of a Corpse. Reading-level-wise, this was a stretch for me, but I persisted. Be sure to use the great notes in the back of the book that clue the reader into all the unknown-to-us Russian references on a page-by-page basis.

Retracing the Iron Curtain: A 3,000-mile Journey Through the End and Afterlife of the Cold War by Timothy Phillips

A thought-provoking travel journal and an eye-opening history lesson for U.S. based readers. Phillips is born in Ireland, raised in the U.K. and speaks fluent Russian. His 3,000-mile trip begins at the northern tip of the Finland/Russia border and ends at confluence of Armenia, Azerbaijan, Iran, and Turkey.

I never once wanted to take a break from this book of 400 pages. Phillips usually stays in Airbnb-type accommodations, making friends with his hosts who are eager to share their memories. I felt like Zelig, popping up in these usual and unusual places, looking over Phillips’s shoulder, listening into conversations.

I am more familiar with the European Iron Curtain. The Iron Curtain from Italy to the journey’s end is mostly new information. Wonderful maps, and I learned a new Brit-speak, fly-tipping – rubbish left by the side of the road. Not necessary for it to attract flies. The fly comes from “fleeing the scene.” A great read. Highly recommended for history lovers.

The Confidante: The Untold Story of the Woman Who Helped Win World War II and Shape Modern America by Christopher C. Gorham

“Anna M. Rosenberg was in the room. She was present at and played a part in some of the most momentous events of the 20th century, from the New Deal, World War II, and the Korean conflict to the presidency of Lyndon Johnson. Why have we not heard of her?” says C. B. Santore in his review.

I was captivated, amazed, and humbled by this stunning biography of Anna Rosenberg – a Hungarian-Jewish immigrant. Her family gained traction in the U. S., she married well, she volunteered and “put herself out there.” But nothing could compare with her ability to clearly interpret situations, verbalize solutions, charm participants, and make a difference in every situation she chose to influence.

There is just a hint of her personal life – was she more than a friend to Roosevelt? Were there others? I predict that there may be a “fictionalized” version that includes the hidden side of her amazing life. In the meantime, read this one and fall in love with Anna.

Lenin on the Train by Catherine Merridale

Let’s dig a bit deeper into 20th Century Russian history – Lenin’s historic journey from Geneva to Moscow and the start of the Soviet Revolution in 1917. The Tsar abdicates; the moment is ripe for leadership in factionalized Russia. Lenin senses the need to seize the reins – but he is living and writing in Switzerland with his wife and cronies.

Puppeteers begin to pull the strings. Europe is enmeshed in WWI. The Germans do not want Russia to enter the war on the side of the Allies. The Germans had already been funding Russian revolutionaries, undermining their enemy. Now, they arrange a train, that must go clear across Germany, to ferry Lenin and his friends to Moscow.

It’s a good story, well told. Keeping the Russian names straight is always a challenge and may not be worth the read for some.

The Biography of X by Catherine Lacey

This is a major novel, but not an easy one. Lacey writes on so many levels that your mind spins. “Wait, what did she just say? What are these territories? How many identities are there?” The plot is not complex.

A widow does not like a biography written about her wife, so she sets out to find and publish the truth. And the truth does not set her free. The world Lacey creates is fully footnoted with fictional sources, (not unlike Russell Banks in The Relation of My Imprisonment) and she includes fuzzy photography. I recommend this book, not because you will love the story, but because Lacey is an amazing writer. She deserves our attention.

The Women of Rothschild: The Untold Story of the World’s Most Famous Dynasty by Natalie Livingstone

Rothschild = banking. Rothschild = fine Bordeaux. Rothschild = successful Jewish men. Natalie Livingstone, a major UK journalist, devoted years of research to lifting the veil on the Rothschild women. They were hidden in the 19th century by years of Jewish tradition that put the men up front and kept the women at home pregnant and rearing families.

This is a dense book, and Livingstone only probes the stories of the more famous and infamous women, not the entire family tree. I can’t say that I enjoyed the read, but I found the more contemporary Rothschild women interesting. A worthy book for the history lover, but not much to offer otherwise.

The Wise Hours: A Journey into the Wild and Secret World of Owls by Miriam Darlington

Maybe I’ve read one bird-centric book too many. Few can compare with H Is for Hawk by Helen Macdonald and Wesley the Owl by Stacey O’Brien. Miriam Darlington mixes her owl research and fetish with her challenging home situation regarding a maturing son with a mysterious illness.

Her goal is to see all the owls endemic to Great Britain. This takes her hither and yon as rare species appear and often disappear. If you have not read the two forementioned books and would like to dive into birds, I recommend those.

I Know Who You Are: How an Amateur DNA Sleuth Unmasked the Golden State Killer and Changed Crime Fighting Forever by Barbara Rae-Ventor

A most interesting book about how amateur genealogists use the emerging database of people who submit for DNA tests to solve crimes, find missing people, and run circles around most police.

In the early days of Family Tree DNA and 23 and Me, people submitted their DNA for sequencing, never thinking to ask for privacy. So investigative genetic genealogy (IGG) using this data grew into a successful network of amateur, highly educated, and motivated problem solvers. The case studies are interesting and overall, this book is good reading.

I felt after the first 100 pages that Rae-Ventor was repeating information about IGG to fluff-out the pages – easy to skim these parts. There is also a good glossary in the back to bring the reader up to speed on a new science that speaks its own language.

Hotel Splendide by Ludwig Bemelmans

An oldie, but a goodie! Bemelmans wrote the Madeline series for children. This predates Madeline, but dwells in the confines of an elegant New York hotel as seen from the dining room staff side. The short wry stories make this a good pick-up and put-down read to interstice between heavier material. It helped get me through The Women of Rothschild!

Let’s Have a Conversation:

What was the last non-fiction book you read? Why did you pick that book? Would you recommend it? Do you read book recommendations before purchasing/borrowing?

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Summer House 2023 Instagram Fashion

Lindsay Hubbard was seen looking gooooorgeous in her pink sequin disc dress. This is such a solid look for summer events, like weddings, because it’s a fun dress and fits the disco vibe trend that we’re in right now.  So if you’ve been searching for exactly that you have come to the right place. And the fact that it’s still in stock along with amazing Style Stealers means that you can have a disco ball knowing that you’ve found the one!

 

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5 Meditation Apps for Women Over 60

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Want to start meditating and don’t know where to begin? Or maybe you already have an established meditation practice and want to add more tools to your routine.

Mobile apps are great to help out in almost every aspect of our lives. From apps that keep grocery lists and recipes to apps that help us with interior decorating, there’s an app for practically everything! Apps are also great to learn new things, like languages and meditation.

It is well-known that meditation can calm the mind, help us with focus and memory, as well as help us sleep better. But starting and maintaining a regular meditation practice can sometimes be challenging. Without accountability and motivation, it can be difficult to keep at. That’s where meditation apps come in handy.

Read HOW I IMPROVED MY SLEEP WITH MEDITATION AND YOGA LIFESTYLE.

Benefits of Meditation

We all know that regular exercise and eating healthy keep our bodies in shape and functioning well. We sometimes forget that our mind is just as important and needs to be taken care of.

Meditation has been practiced for thousands of years. Meditation originally was meant to help deepen understanding of the sacred and mystical forces of life. These days, meditation is commonly used for relaxation and stress reduction.

Mayo Clinic

Trusted Mayo Clinic mentions that the benefits of meditation may include:

  • Gaining a new perspective on stressful situations,
  • Building skills to manage your stress,
  • Increasing self-awareness,
  • Focusing on the present,
  • Reducing negative emotions,
  • Increasing imagination and creativity,
  • Increasing patience and tolerance,
  • Lowering resting heart rate,
  • Lowering resting blood pressure,
  • Improving sleep quality.

Read HOW MEDITATION CAN IMPROVE YOUR ENERGY.

Meditation Apps for Mature Women

I have tried several different meditation apps, and this is a list of my favorites:

Headspace

headspace app

The Headspace app specializes in meditation and mindfulness. It teaches you how to relax, how to manage stress, and how to find your focus through guided meditations, courses, and mindfulness exercises. It helps you build a daily practice to live a stress-free and happy life. The app also offers sleep sounds and guided sleep meditations. With over 70 million downloads, they must be on to something.

Headspace for Android

Headspace for Apple

Calm

Calm app

Calm helps you manage stress, helps to balance your moods, refocus your attention and also sleep better. The app has guided meditations, sleep stories, soundscapes, breathwork, and stretching exercises as well. It offers a mental daily health tracker to keep you mindful and on track.

Calm for Android

Calm for Apple

Meditopia

Meditopia app

Meditopia is another popular meditation app that also offers guided meditations and bedtime stories. It has over 1000 guided meditations on a variety of subjects that affect our moods and daily lives. It sends daily reminders so you remain accountable for your meditation practice. Meditopia is translated and offered in 12 languages.

Meditopia for Android

Meditopia for Apple

Insight Timer

Insight Timer app

Insight Timer is an acclaimed mindfulness app that offers guided meditations and talks led by leading meditation and mindfulness experts, neuroscientists, psychologists, and university teachers. It also has sleep music tracks recorded by world-renowned artists.

Insight Timer for Android

Insight Timer for Apple

Chopra: Meditation and Wellbeing

Chopra meditation app

Whether you’re new to meditation or you’re an advanced practitioner, the Chopra app will help you find your peace on a path that suits you. The guided meditations are based on Deepak Chopra’s wisdom and scientific research. The app offers well-being tools, tips, and practices.

Chopra for Android

Chopra for Apple

Read GUIDED MEDITATION FOR WOMEN OVER 60.

Try out the free versions or free trial periods of a few apps before deciding which one best suits your needs and lifestyle. At the base, they are all very similar, but the user interfaces are all different and you may feel more comfortable with one over the others. It’s worth paying a monthly or yearly subscription to your favorite app in order to have access to full features.

Let’s Have a Conversation:

Do you meditate? Will you start meditating? What is your favorite way or technique to meditate? Will you – or do you – use a mobile app to mediate? Tell us about it in the comments below.

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How to Keep Our Mascara from Smudging

keep mascara from smudging

During in-person makeup classes I teach and the Zoom makeup consultations I do, I’ll often ask the question: “What is your biggest makeup challenge?” As you might imagine, the responses range from hooded eyes to downturned lips and everything in between. But there’s one challenge that I’m convinced is universal.

We leave the house in the morning with our eyes looking great, but when we look in a mirror around lunchtime, our eye area has gone from looking perfect to looking pathetic. And the culprit is mascara that smudges. Who among us has not experienced this makeup mishap?

The Causes

The factors that can cause our mascara to smudge could be one or more of the following things: our lash type, facial structure, eye shape (which, by the way, changes a bit over time), skin type, the elasticity of our eye skin, the weather, the skincare we use near our eyes, how we prep our eye area, the order in which we apply our makeup, the mascara formula we use, the mascara brush itself and how we apply the mascara.

We have absolutely no control over the first six things I mentioned, but we do have control over the last six. So today, I’ll give you eight tips that can help solve this problem. And hopefully you’ll only need to incorporate one or two of these tips into your current makeup routine to prevent your mascara from smudging.

Tip #1: Only Use Skincare Products That Don’t Leave Residue

The skincare we use near our eyes can very often be the culprit in mascara transferring onto our skin. That’s because if the mascara touches our skin and if the skin isn’t dry or has cream on it, the mascara will become more fluid and run.

So it can be helpful to apply eye creams early in the morning before applying makeup – or better yet – apply eye creams the night before and use a serum before applying makeup that melts into the skin faster and easier and doesn’t leave a residue like a cream does.

Tip #2: Prep the Eye Area by Mattifying It

Mattifying any skin around the eyes that the mascara might touch makes this skin less oily and less shiny. This is important because oil from our skin breaks down the mascara since mascaras that aren’t waterproof are water based. And when the mascara breaks down, it can smudge. Sweat is one of mascara’s biggest enemies, so mattifying our eye area can help prevent sweat from ruining our look as well.

So how do we mattify the eye area? There are two things we can do. First, we can use an eye primer since eye primer is specifically designed to absorb the excess oil on our eyelids in order to create an even surface on which to apply eye makeup. Without eye primer, oily eyelids can cause eyeshadow to crease and smudge and mascara to smudge as well.

One additional benefit of using an eye primer that matches our skin tone (rather than a clear or transparent eye primer) is that it will cover up the discoloration almost all of us have on our eyelids. And covering up this discoloration makes our eyes look brighter and larger. It can also be helpful to apply a small amount of eye primer under the eye as well before applying corrector and concealer.

The second thing we can do to mattify the eye area is to apply a small amount of powder over our eyelids after applying eye primer. Not only is this an additional way to help keep the eyelids mattified, but it also helps our eyeshadow apply more easily and blend in with other eyeshadow colors more seamlessly.

Be sure to check out Elise’s YouTube channel which specifically focuses on makeup tips, techniques, and product reviews for those of us 50+. Don’t forget to subscribe!

Tip #3: Know the Order of Makeup Application

It’s best to apply our eye makeup first before doing our face makeup. Applying eye makeup before face makeup is a good idea because if a drop of mascara or eyeshadow lands on our face after we’ve applied our face makeup, that drop of eyeshadow or mascara will land on concealer or foundation. And the minute we sweat – or our oil glands produce some sebum – the makeup droplet remoistens, smears, slides and creates a smudge.

Tip #4: Choose the Right Mascara Formula

There are certain mascaras that are less likely to smudge, and I’ve listed some of them at the end of this article. But there are also two types of mascara formulas that are less likely to smudge: waterproof mascaras and tubing mascaras.

Many women prefer waterproof mascara – especially in the summer months – since sweat can certainly make our makeup run. It’s also beneficial for those of us with watery eyes and for those who have straight lashes and want to keep the lashes curled throughout the day.

Waterproof mascara’s silicone or wax-based formula is a thick, strong holding formula which grips onto the lashes and stays there. But this same formula can also be a negative since it prevents moisture from getting into our lashes which causes them to become drier and more brittle. And removing waterproof mascara is no easy feat.

If you do need to use waterproof mascara on a regular basis, it’s a good idea to invest in an eyelash conditioner. Shiseido’s Full Lash Serum is a good one or Vaseline or castor oil can also help. Two other options that help keep our lashes in good shape when using waterproof mascara are to apply a regular mascara before applying the waterproof mascara or to apply an eyelash primer before applying the waterproof mascara.

If you’d prefer not to use waterproof mascara, another good formula option that can help prevent smudging is tubing mascara. Tubing mascaras contain tube-like polymers which wrap around each individual lash. The result is a long-lasting, lengthening effect that doesn’t smudge.

The good news is that a tubing mascara is very easy to remove with micellar water or simply warm water. I’ve listed several good tubing mascaras at the end of the article.

Tip #5: Use the Right Size and Shape Mascara Wand

On our top lashes, a thinner longer wand can work best to prevent smudging than a bigger, fluffier wand. On bottom lashes, a much smaller mascara wand works really well such as Clinique’s Bottom Lash Mascara.  

Tip #6: Pay Attention to Mascara Application

When applying upper lash mascara, it’s best to look straight ahead or down rather than up. If we’re looking up, it’s more likely that the lashes will touch the eyelid skin and smudge. When applying mascara to the bottom lashes, it’s best to squint which helps lift the lashes.

Tip #7: How You Pull the Mascara Wand Out of the Tube

It’s best to bend the wand slightly to the side as we pull it out. This way we’ll be rubbing off some of the product on one side of the wand. Then apply the mascara to the lashes using the side of the wand that has more mascara on it.

Use the other side of the wand – which has less mascara on it – to remove any excess product from the lashes which might cause smudging. Or, you can simply remove any excess mascara with a disposable spoolie which can be purchased at a beauty supply store.

Tip #8: Use a Clear Mascara

And tip number eight is a great tip from one of you who watch my YouTube videos: use a clear mascara over your regular mascara.

And, of course, it’s always a good idea to be prepared just in case a smudge does occur during the day. So carrying Q-tips, a spoolie and a small tube of concealer can really save the day.

Mascaras Less Likely to Smudge

 Essence Lash Princess

 L’Oreal Voluminous Lash Princess

 Hourglass Unlocked Mascara

 Nars Climax Mascara

 Charlotte Tilbury Legendary Lash Mascara

Tubing Mascaras

 Doll 10 Effortlash Mascara

 Merit Mascara

 Thrive Causemetics Liquid Lash Extensions

Let’s Have a Conversation:

Have you had issues with mascara smudging? Are there tips you’ve used to prevent mascara from smudging? What can you recommend?

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These Face Tanning Glow Drops Sold Out Multiple Times—& Reviewers Say They ‘Barely Need Makeup’ After Use


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The Internet is constantly buzzing with the best glowy products to use to achieve the look of sun-kissed skin, from instant bronzing drops you can mix in with your moisturizer to blendable contour sticks that will melt seamlessly into your foundation. But nothing beats the natural look and longevity of self-tanning face drops, which are extremely easy to use and won’t break you out—should you choose carefully.

Luna Bronze’s Good Night Face Bronzing Serum is a safe and effective choice—the brand’s products contain natural Australian ingredients like lemon myrtle, vitamin C and orange blossom that nourish the skin while they deposit color. As the product name suggests, the serum is meant to work its magic while you sleep, with a noticeable difference prevalent in just one application. The serum contains 12 percent DHA (the natural tanning active) which is quite higher compared to the brand’s tanning mist, which has just 2.5 percent DHA and takes up to three applications to reach peak color. 

Luna Bronze Good Night Face Bronzing Serum

Luna Bronze

Good Night Face Bronzing Serum

You can apply the formula just like a serum or mixed in with your go-to cream. Just keep in mind: the more drops you use, the deeper color you’ll see, so begin carefully and wash your hands after use. 

The face tanning drops have sold out on multiple occasions since launching, according to the brand, and are one of its best-selling products because of it. Shoppers love that the serum doesn’t irritate or inflame their sensitive skin, and some even compare their quality to that of more expensive, popular options.

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“I stumbled upon Luna Bronze on Instagram and fell in love with the ingredients in the night serum,” wrote one shopper who described themselves as a “pastey, freckled ginger” in their review. “I found the magical drop number for me is 4 drops and I get a beautiful, soft tanned glow. No orange whatsoever or streaks! It looks so natural as opposed to Isle of Paradise. No shame if that brand is your go to, but Luna Bronze nailed it with this serum! It is a bit pricey but I will definitely be re-purchasing forever!”

Another person raved about it, writing “I just got this serum last week and I am obsessed. I have sensitive skin so I was worried about how it might react, but my skin felt amazing the next morning with no issues. I have fair/pale skin and I mix around 4 drops with my night cream for my face and do similar for my neck/chest. It gives me just enough glow to feel confident in my own skin. I barely need makeup now! Highly recommend.”

Luna Bronze’s Good Night Face Bronzing Serum is available starting at $14. Grab the contour brush to create natural looking shadows on your face.

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