Margaret Josephs’ Blue and White Floral Top and Skirt

Real Housewives of New Jersey 2023 Instagram Fashion

Margaret Josephs’ is looking adorable in her blue and white floral top and skirt. She was promoting a little meet and greet she had with Marge for the mocktail drink a few days ago. And she was also unknowingly promoting the outfit she wore. So join for a little soiree in the links and Style Stealers below.

Sincerely Stylish,

Jess

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Ariana Madix’s Green Cargo Pants on Instagram

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You guys asked and Dynamite Clothing delivered by letting us know they carried Ariana Madix’s green cargo pants (shout out to our follower Sydney for the heads up). She wore them showing up to The Clubhouse *trying* to look not hot. But sorry Ari you looked good and totally rocked the pants. And guess what we can too because there are a few pieces left in stock along with amazing similar styles once you cargo below.

Sincerely Stylish,

Jess

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We have all seen commercials like this one before… Three older women in an empty restaurant, confused and asking, “Where is the bacon?” I wanted to shout, “Where’s the representation?” Is that how companies think older women should look and behave? As an older woman, I was pissed off! This is another offensive commercial!

Age Representation

It’s no secret that ageism is the last big prejudice that’s socially acceptable. I’ve seen women labeled as stupid, but this ad just goes to show how unrealistic the advertising world is and how completely out of touch the people behind it are. I think it’s a result of forced retirement, which is degrading to seniors, especially when they have no say in it.

While there has been progress in the diversification of the workforce at every level, age is rarely a part of the inclusion conversation. This is often based on the assumption that older people lose cognitive abilities, which is simply not true. Many people remain able to contribute well into their 80s and 90s. Consider Jane Goodall or Frank Gehry. Both are fortunate to have worked for themselves rather than being packaged at 65. 

Older people are the fastest-growing demographic on the planet. In 2020, the majority of European countries’ populations aged 65 and over accounted for 20% or more of their total population, outnumbering those aged under 14 years.

Older residents made up nearly 17% of the US population in 2020. This growth of the world’s older groups will continue as life expectancy improves around the world. Life expectancy in most developed countries is greater than 80 years, with Monaco and Hong Kong at the top, where life expectancy is 87 years and 86 years respectively.

Why Is No One Paying Attention

With the growing opportunity of potential customers and workers, why has there been so little action to recognize the value of these resources? Some of the issues driving ageist attitudes are…

Lack of Awareness of Longevity

Half of the people over 65 now will live into their 90s, meaning these lives have at least 25 more years of purchasing power.

Assumptions of Physical Ability

Aging comes with changes in physical ability. But, with breakthroughs in research and science, activity remains well into our 80s and 90s.

Implicit Association of Older Age and Loss of Mental Acuity

While Alzheimer and Dementia are mostly found in older adults, these are extreme conditions. For example, only 7.1% of Canadians are affected by these conditions. The idea that our mental ability declines with age has been debunked in books like Strength to Strength.

Author Arthur Brooks points out that our mental capacity changes as we age. We go from fluid, fast thinking intelligence to crystalized intelligence which is slower but integrates experience and could be called wisdom. Our mental capacity is different, not worse.

Changing Ageist Attitudes

If logic and trends suggest that ageism is outmoded thinking, why does it still persist? Are older people guilty of reinforcing stereotypes that are being used to limit them? How many times have you heard older people attribute forgetfulness or physical aches and pains to “getting old”? As if younger people never forget or have aches. If there is going to be a movement to fight ageism, it must start with older people refusing to accept the stereotypes thrust on them.

There are signals of real change about ageist attitudes. It has started with change makers like Jane Fonda, who has been outspoken all her life despite being involved in one of the most ageist, sexist industries. She has now become actively vocal about making sure that older women are portrayed with dignity and respect.

Using her clout in the entertainment industry she is creating real stories about their lives. What she is doing is critical to changing attitudes. By making the message entertaining, it is much easier to get it across.

In addition, there is new messaging on social media about anti-ageist attitudes and new books that challenge the conventional thinking that a person’s value to society diminishes as they age. Strength to Strength by Arthur Brooks and ROAR into the Second Half of Your Life by Michael Clinton present proof that people’s lives can become more useful as they age if society learns to value their input.

With trends in longevity leading to an increased lifespan of 100 years, Stanford Centre on Longevity’s New Life Map suggests a lifelong approach rather than the segmented life stages used in the past. Rather than confining learning to our early years, we can learn intensely in several stages throughout our lives.

Our career years should not be limited to the currently assumed “working age” of 16 – 64 years. It goes well beyond that. The working age should be not only expanded but less linear. The New Life Maps envision gaps between working – where a learning stage may occur but working continues throughout our lives.

In a world where older women are respected and treasured, the Wendy’s commercial would feature women arriving from their walking or cycling group asking for something healthy while they talk about their latest project to save the planet. When that happens, we will know real change has taken place.

Check out this blog New Image for Older Women for more conversation about this topic.

Let’s Have a Conversation:

What are the casual comments that you hear about the downside of being older? What comments have you said yourself that put you down? What are you doing that challenges ageist attitudes?

It really hurts when you’ve been betrayed by a man who has lied to you in some way. It betrays your trust which can leave you feeling shaken and unsure about men and your “picker of men” instincts. This can lead you to start second guessing yourself.

You may feel shame for not having seen the signs that something was amiss. Or you may feel angry with yourself for allowing a man into your life who had the capacity to break your heart.

What happens is you stop trusting yourself and the men you meet, making them jump hoops by testing them to prove they aren’t going to hurt you. You begin looking for perfection, which, by the way, doesn’t exist. And you go on dates looking for the person’s flaws because you are thinking no man is ever going to get the best of you again. Right?

Fear is holding you back as you try to keep yourself safe and that’s why I want to share 4 tips that can help you learn to trust yourself – and men – again so you can have the man and relationship in your life you desire.

Tip #1: Healing and Forgiving

When you’ve been hurt, you want to take some time to heal and get back in touch with yourself. It’s painful to think you played a part in attracting someone who could be so bad for you. But you did and the best way to start the healing process is through forgiveness. There is an amazing healing practice called Ho’opononpono that I’ve used with clients to help heal the pain in their hearts.

You repeat 4 simple sentences while focusing on forgiveness…

I love you.

I’m sorry.

Please forgive me.

Thank you.

You say these 4 phrases over and over again until you feel a release happen. The practice of Ho’opononpono is an amazing story you can check out by clicking here. As long as you hold onto anger towards yourself or a man from your past, you are still connected, and it keeps you from moving forward.

Sometimes, it can be hard to let go of negative feelings. If the Ho’opononpono exercise doesn’t help, you might want to consider reaching out to a therapist who can support you in releasing the negative emotions you’re feeling before you decide to date again.

Tip #2: One Bad Man, Doesn’t Make All Men Bad

I teach my clients to identify how they view the men they want to date using a tool called the Trust Glasses. When you wear what I call the grey stormy pair, it means you are looking at men with the mindset that a man is going to hurt you until he proves otherwise.

Out of fear of getting hurt again, you can end up making him jump hoops to prove his worthiness. This can lead you to losing out on a good connection with a potential partner who might be perfect for you.

Instead, consider wearing what I call the turquoise glasses. These glasses are like a calm ocean where you can see beautiful fish swimming close to the surface, yet you can also see the bottom and any dangers that might be lurking under your feet.

With the turquoise glasses, you go on a date to meet someone new and interesting. You take your time observing how a man acts around you and whether his actions consistently follow his words. Words are cheap. Actions are what count. Men who don’t follow their words with action are the ones who will break your heart.

Tip #3: Really Listen to What a Man Is Saying to You

If a man shares stories about having cheated on his wife or another girlfriend, end it right then and there. This is a huge red flag that spells TROUBLE. If he did it once, he can do it again but this time you’ll be the one who gets hurt.

I can’t tell you the number of clients who tell me in hindsight that they walked right past these types of words thinking this man would never cheat on them, yet he did. Pay attention to a man’s words. If you listen, you’ll know you can trust yourself to make the best decisions for you.

Tip #4: Get Clear on the Values That Are Important to You

For a relationship to work, you need to share the same values. I help clients identify 10-15 values that are important to them when they create their Quality Man Template, a tool that helps them identify the right man for them.

What’s so interesting about this exercise is that, when they look back, they are often shocked at how many values were missing in the men they’d dated in the past. Don’t skip over this. Knowing the values that are important to you will empower you and will help you trust and recognize whether or not you’re with the right man.

Let’s Have a Conversation:

Have you been hurt by a man you trusted? How has that worked out for you since? Did the experience turn into constant fear that you can never trust a man again? Or perhaps you think you can’t trust yourself to make good decisions regarding men?

Teresa Giudice’s Wedding and Bridesmaids Robes

Real Housewives of New Jersey “Teresa Gets Married” Fashion

Gone are the days of people like me wearing a matching Chicago Bears sweatsuit while getting ready for their wedding. To be fair, those days were probably never here for anyone but me. But thankfully now we have pieces like Teresa Giudice’s bridal and bridesmaids robe to look chic and cozy while getting ready for the main event.

Teresa’s off the shoulder style is perfect for getting makeup and hair done, I think it’s an amazing gift for any bride. And it even comes in other colors and styles for those not tying the knot. The feather trim styles her bridesmaids wore might not be quite and functional, I am obsessed with how fun they are. So whether there’s a wedding in you future or you just need the perfect getting ready robe, you can thank Teresa for the inspo.

The Realest Housewife,

Big Blonde Hair

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