Month: July 2024

How to Bring Grace into Your Sacred Space

Sixty and Me_How to Bring Grace into Your Sacred Space

From humankind’s earliest days creating sacred spaces has been a part of all cultures. Not only in churches, or temples, but also in homes worldwide, we’re drawn to establish personal sanctuaries for devotion, reflection, meditation, and prayer.

In my home, I have an altar set up on a small table in a corner of my bedroom. This holds my mala (Indian rosary), dried rose petals blessed by a saint, sacred images, flowers, and an essential oil diffuser, which also gives off a faint glow of light. It’s simple, but over time has taken on a feeling of deep, meditative calm.

Personal Sanctuaries

Increasingly, people are creating sacred spaces in their homes – places of rest and renewal apart from the fast and often discordant pace of life. These can be a corner, a table, or a room that contains objects sacred to the individual; a space that invites both a pause for reflection, and a place to meditate and pray. These dedicated spaces bring the sacred into everyday life instead of compartmentalizing it as something we attend to on Saturday or Sunday.

Home altars offer a place of transition, between the mundane and the sacred. Small rituals like lighting a candle, or burning incense signal our intention to connect with spirit. Over time these rituals grow in their potency and ability to ease us into prayer and meditation. As well, the spaces we occupy for our devotional practices take on a spiritual charge that can aid us by building up a sacred atmosphere.

Throughout the Globe

Throughout the globe there are some similarities in home altar arrangement. While traveling in India years ago, I found the practice of setting up sacred space was commonplace, and every home had an altar to display the family’s Isha Devi (the favorite divine figure) as well as other inspirational images. These might include pictures of the many Indian gods and goddesses, or images of saintly figures.

Altars displaying the Buddha’s image are widespread throughout much of the world even in the west. With the Tibetan diaspora, images of the Dalai Lama are frequently placed on home altars.

While not strictly altars, it’s common to see images of Jesus and Mary, as well as crucifixes, in many Christian homes which offer a constant reminder of the occupant’s faith.

Home altars can be small and humble, occupying only a tiny nook, shelf, or table, while others are more grand, often taking up an entire room, lavishly decorated with gorgeous art: imposing statues and ornate paintings, bells, or singing bowls.

What an Alter Holds

Altars always include devotional images of beloved spiritual figures – Jesus, a guru, gods, goddesses, or a saint – and sometimes a photo of a loved one who has passed on. Instinctively, we bring objects from nature that reflect the beauty of creation into our sacred spaces.

Incorporating the five elements of earth, air, fire, water, and space is both a common practice, and simple one: a feather, wind chime or incense for air; for water it can be as uncomplicated as a container of clean water, or a vase of fresh flowers. (Be mindful to keep the water fresh and dispose of dying flowers).

The earth element can include a rock, a shell, crystals, and semi-precious stones, even a piece of bark. Fire is represented by a candle, an aromatherapy lamp, or incense. A flat surface in the middle of the altar represents the space element. A plate or small dish will do for this. You can then put the written words, or a symbol of your spiritual intention, or prayers upon this.

Basic Guidelines

The Chopra Center advises that the ancient Indian practice of correct directional placement of objects in the shrine area is important, and bringing in items to feed the five senses is recommended as well. For example a bell or singing bowl for the ears, incense, a scented candle, or essential oils to feed the sense of smell, and the cushion upon which you sit, or perhaps a special shawl, only worn in meditation, reflect the sense of touch.

Beautiful, sacred images that invoke the divine feed the eyes and prasad, the sacred offering of food, feeds the sense of taste.

A home altar can be as simple, or as ornate, as each person desires. After all, it’s not the space, or the items, as much as the sense of devotion the space evokes that is important, and this is personal. For some, a small, holy image, or prayer written on a piece of paper placed before a candle may be all it takes to invoke the divine. And this, of course, is the point.

Let’s Have a Chat:

What practices do you bring into your home to connect more easily with your chosen path? Do you find it helpful to have a dedicated space or ritual that aids you to slip into a meditative state or prayer? I’d love to hear what works for you.

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Heather Dubrow’s Prada Cardigan

Heather Dubrow’s Prada Cardigan / Real Housewives of Orange County Season 18 Episode 2 Fashion

Heather Dubrow was on fire (thankfully this time it wasn’t anyone’s hair) on last night’s episode of Real Housewives of Orange County with her Prada cardigan on a date out with Shannon Beador. Contrast trim has been making quite the comeback, kind of like things some other things in the “vault”. But one thing that you can always count on is me delivering an invite for you to grab her cardigan down below.

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My 5 Unbreakable Rules for a Successful Multigenerational Family Vacation

My 5 Unbreakable Rules for a Successful Multigenerational Family Vacation

I’m blessed with a close family. We enjoy one another’s company so much that we vacation together as often as we can. Since travel is my business, the planning often falls to me. After a host of trips, I have learned a few things and created this list of unbreakable rules.

Be Flexible on Scheduling

This is self-evident if some members of the family are school-age kids, whether that means kindergarten or college. They are slaves to the school calendar and likely will only be able to travel on school holidays. If you want them on the trip, it has to happen when they’re available.

Not being beholden to the school schedule, however, does not mean you are home-free. Chances are there will be some member of the family who has limited vacation time – a young adult who has just started a new job, for example, or an hourly worker whose work schedule is unpredictable.

I think it’s easiest to start with an online scheduling tool like this free Doodle scheduling tool. Everyone can add their own availability to at least narrow down the choices. Then you can move to a group conversation in person or via Zoom to finish the discussion.

Be Honest About the Cost

There are many ways to pay for a multi-gen trip. I’ve heard of families where Grandma and Grandpa treat everyone to the trip – one friend’s in-laws celebrated their 50th wedding anniversary by paying for their three kids, their spouses and all the grandkids to go on a Disney cruise.

And then there’s the way we do it in my family: Everyone pays their own way.

Both approaches have their benefits and drawbacks.

When the grandparents pay, it can mean they expect something in return: that everyone will show up, be happy and do what the grandparents want them to do.

When you do it the way my family does, it means some people have to compromise. We set the budget to ensure that every family can afford the trip. The wealthier families can treat themselves by booking a suite at the resort or taking themselves out to a fancy dinner one night.

Accommodate Everyone’s Needs

My mother-in-law is blind, and my father-in-law had some mobility challenges toward the end of his life, so when we decided on a family trip to an all-inclusive in Mexico, we chose the smallest one with the shortest walk to the beach and the calmest surf.

It meant that the teens had to compromise on a resort that offered fewer activities and amenities. But they got more time chilling on the beach, and we arranged for an off-property trip to swim in cenote.

Plan for Time Apart

It’s tempting to think that everyone needs to spend every minute together when you’re on a multigenerational family vacation. That’s why you’ve planned a trip together, right? Wrong! You planned the trip to spend MORE time together, but that doesn’t mean you need to spend ALL of the time together.

Everyone should be able to have the vacation they covet. While that might mean they want to spend every minute with you, never assume that is the case.

Always build time into the schedule during which each family member has the option of doing something on their own. The athletes can spend time being active. The couch potatoes can spend time lying on the beach. The youngest and oldest can spend time napping.

Having said that, remember that is supposed to be a family trip. That means it’s reasonable to require everyone to spend some structured time together – dinner each night or one excursion or activity you all agree to do together, for example.

Don’t Make One Person Do All the Work!

This is a lesson I learned the hard way. We were headed to a niece’s wedding in Dallas, so I agreed to squire around my husband’s 82-year-old mom, his 80-year-old aunt, hubby and our two teens for a 3-day tour of Dallas after the wedding.

After three days of managing six people, ranging in age from 15 to 82 – everything from getting them through airport security to managing museum entries and local transportation – I was completely exhausted. They, however, loved it. As we were waiting at the gate to board our flight home, they asked where we could go next.

I dredged up one more smile and responded, “An all-inclusive resort.”

What’s Your Experience:

Have you taken a multigenerational family vacation? What worked best for your family? What would you never do again?

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Jennifer Pedranti’s Printed Mesh Dress on WWHL

Jennifer Pedranti’s Printed Mesh Dress on WWHL / Real Housewives of Orange County Instagram Fashion July 2024

Jennifer Pedranti was glowing in the clubhouse last night on WWHL in her printed mesh dress. While there might not have been much peace in the polls for her, she graced us with a pretty printed piece when it came to her look. The print of the city life on her dress mixed with the sheer mesh is the kind of stylish slay we strive for. So if you’re someone who is in the market to build your wardrobe up then keep scrolling for a look that will mesh perfectly in your closet.

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Amanda


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Emily Simpson’s Tan Pleated Leather Mini Skirt

Emily Simpson’s Tan Pleated Leather Mini Skirt / Real Housewives of Orange County Season 18 Episode 2 Fashion

Emily Simpson has been killing her outfits so far this season on the Real Housewives of Orange County whether they are for working out or going out. Sure it’s only episode 2, but still. I mean how cute is this tan pleated leather skirt look?! It’s giving a fun sophisticated preppy cheerleader vibe that we are totally putting at the top of the pyramid our shopping lists.

Sincerely Stylish,

Jess


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