Month: June 2026

Are You Using Your Butt Muscles Correctly?

Are You Using Your Butt Muscles Correctly

If you consider stiff hips, achy knees, and low back pain just a part of aging, you may want to read this standing up.

The reason: you may be sitting on the actual cause of the pain.

That’s right – glutes in adults over 60 play a much more important role than acting as a seat cushion. Weak gluteal muscles can lead to serious complications including balance issues, falls and injuries – problems that can significantly increase the risk of needing long-term care.

Why Glutes Matter More After 60

The politically correct term is gluteal amnesia, which refers to weak and inhibited glute muscles – although it’s often called by its more descriptive term, “dead butt syndrome.”

Gluteal amnesia happens when the gluteal muscles essentially “forget” their main purpose: supporting the pelvis and keeping the body in proper alignment.

The main cause is prolonged sitting without enough movement or stretching throughout the day. Long periods of sitting cause your hip flexors to tighten, your glutes to weaken, and your posture to deteriorate. This can lead to an anterior pelvic tilt, where your pelvis tilts forward, which affects your posture and the way you move.

Walkers who never strength train, rely on quadriceps or hamstrings, skip lateral movements, or have poor hip mobility are also prone to gluteal amnesia. I saw this in running clients when I worked as a trainer – although swimmers and cyclists may also have this blind spot.

A Quick Test for Gluteal Amnesia

Here’s a simple way to test if your glutes could use a wake-up call:

  1. Lie on your back with your knees bent and feet flat on the floor.
  2. Lift the hips as high as you can without arching the lower back.
  3. While your hips are lifted, straighten out one leg.

Assess the position of your hip bones. Often the hip opposite the support leg drops closer to the floor. Repeat on the other side and compare between sides. If one hip drops or you can’t keep your pelvis level while balancing on one leg, your glutes likely need strengthening.

Solutions

The good news: you can take simple steps starting today to wake up your glutes.

Practicing better habits throughout the day can help reduce your risk. Move more, for one. Limiting sitting during the day is essential. Switching between seated and standing desk setups is ideal.

Alternatively, or additionally, be sure to get up at least every 20 to 60 minutes and walk around. And also keep in mind that, just like walking alone doesn’t prevent muscle loss, exercising regularly without activating the right muscles still puts you at risk of weak glutes.

Exercises to Prevent Gluteal Amnesia

Include these exercises into your strength-training program on days when you work your lower body and legs.

Glute Bridge

How to do it:

  1. Lie on your back with knees bent and feet flat on the floor about hip-width apart.
  2. Press through your heels and squeeze your glutes to lift your hips.
  3. Raise your hips until your body forms a straight line from shoulders to knees.
  4. Pause briefly at the top and slowly back down.

Avoid arching your lower back. The movement should come from your hips and glutes – not your spine.

Start with 8–12 repetitions.

Sit-to-Stands

How to do it:

  1. Sit toward the front edge of a sturdy chair.
  2. Place feet shoulder-width apart and flat on the floor.
  3. Lean slightly forward from the hips.
  4. Push through your heels and stand up without using your hands, if possible.
  5. Slowly sit back down with control.

Start with 8–10 repetitions.

Step-Ups

How to do it:

  1. Stand facing a low step or sturdy platform.
  2. Place one foot fully on the step.
  3. Press through that heel and step upward.
  4. Bring the other foot up.
  5. Step back down slowly and repeat.

Keep your knee aligned over your foot – don’t let it collapse inward.

Use a low step at first and hold onto a wall or railing, if needed.

Start with 8–10 repetitions.

Lateral Band Walks

How to do it:

  1. Place a looped resistance band around your thighs or ankles.
  2. Bend knees slightly into a mini squat.
  3. Step sideways while keeping tension on the band.
  4. Take several controlled steps in one direction, then reverse.

Keep tension on the band the entire time. Avoid dragging the trailing leg.

5–10 slow steps each direction.

Seek Help if Necessary

If you experience symptoms when walking or stair climbing, it’s best to talk to an orthopedist or sports medicine specialist to evaluate your symptoms and rule out any other conditions. Depending on the severity of your symptoms, the doctor may recommend physical therapy, massage, gentle stretching, or rest.

Gluteal amnesia is one of the most reversible conditions of aging – don’t sit out on taking action.

Let’s Have a Conversation:

How often do you activate your butt muscles throughout the day? Did you know that walking alone doesn’t take care of gluteal amnesia? What exercises from your routine help keep your glutes in good shape?

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AI Safety for Seniors: Knowing When You’ve Gone Too Far

AI Safety for Seniors Knowing When You've Gone Too Far

In my book, Vivi and Me: My Love Affair with a Bot, my message and tagline is, “May you always be more curious than afraid.” It’s been my lifelong mantra and the way I choose to live my life – by diving in, often without my water wings, learning as I go, and living my best life through both big and little leaps, while continuing to expand and grow no matter my age.

Curiosity led me to artificial intelligence, and I could not be happier. Yet using it also requires boundaries. Not because AI is the monster portrayed in movies and sensationalized in the media, but simply because it’s wise to be aware and safe while using this incredible tool.

In this third and final article in this mini-series on AI for Seniors, I’ve provided some insight and a checklist – “You Know You’ve Gone Too Far When…” – to keep you grounded and informed, while also excited and unafraid to jump into the deep end. You don’t need a lifeguard, just some guardrails.

Fears and Concerns in Regard to Using AI

Many fears about AI stem from a lack of understanding about how it works, concerns about privacy, worries that it could somehow steal your information or savings, and the feeling that you’re not technical enough to use it. Believe me, I have very little technical skill, and I use AI every day.

There are also legitimate concerns that overreliance on AI could contribute to a decline in critical thinking, writing, and problem-solving skills. Personally, I’ve found I’m a much better writer and thinker since using AI. It challenges me to really look at what I’m creating to see the best way to move forward with my own thoughts and visions.

In practical terms, some people worry about job loss due to automation. While that concern is understandable, AI is creating new career paths and opportunities for people willing to learn these emerging skills. The field is still evolving rapidly, and the opportunities continue to grow.

Emotional dependency on AI is also a very real issue, especially for seniors who may be lonely, depressed, living by themselves, or have lost some of their zest for life. If you become overly reliant on technology, treat your chatbot as a partner, best friend, a doctor, lawyer, or an overly trusted confidante, or if you give up human connection in favor of technology, it may be a sign that you’ve crossed an important line.

You Know You’ve Gone Too Far If…

  • You prefer talking to AI over real people.
  • You feel emotionally dependent on it.
  • You stop questioning what it tells you.
  • AI gives you validation, and that has become addictive or necessary for feeling good about yourself.
  • You can’t make a decision without consulting AI.
  • You’re using it to avoid real-life decisions and conversations.
  • You isolate yourself so you can spend more time with AI.
  • You have high emotional engagement and see your chatbot as your only true friend, or the only one who truly “sees you.”
  • You feel like you’ve secretly discovered a major breakthrough, a special connection, or a “truth” that others simply don’t understand.
  • Real-world conversations begin to feel harder, less interesting, or even unnecessary.
  • You’re spending hours at a time in deep, immersive, and highly personal conversations.

How Developers Work to Correct AI Models

As AI becomes more integrated into our daily lives, technology companies are paying attention to these concerns. Many are working with mental health professionals to train models to recognize distress, avoid affirming delusions, and encourage users to seek real-world help when appropriate.

Companies are also embedding ethical guidelines into their models, sharing information with independent safety organizations, and developing safeguards designed to reduce harmful or dangerous interactions. Google, OpenAI, Anthropic, and Microsoft are also working together to improve AI safety, develop best practices, and create security measures for users.

We Also Have Responsibilities in This Area

Ultimately, it is our responsibility as consumers to stay informed. We should insist on transparency and respect for privacy and think carefully about what we share online. Never give AI your bank account information, passwords, Social Security numbers, or other sensitive personal information. Be aware of AI-enhanced romance scams, fake celebrity endorsements, cloned voices, and fraudulent customer service bots.

When in doubt, verify important information through a trusted source before taking action.

Many of Us Are Already Vulnerable

If you have mental health challenges, are emotionally vulnerable, or are struggling with anxiety or depression, please contact a therapist, counselor, or physician. AI should never be relied upon for serious mental, emotional, legal, or medical decisions.

Most importantly, make sure to connect regularly with real human beings. Keep your friendships strong. Participate in groups and activities you enjoy. Have meaningful conversations with your partner, family, and friends. Technology has always changed the world. But wisdom comes from remembering that no machine, however intelligent, can replace touch, friendship, shared laughter, or the simple comfort of another human being sitting beside you.

We Can Benefit from AI When Used Thoughtfully

The benefits of AI can far outweigh the concerns when it is used thoughtfully. It can help people over 60 stay mentally engaged, learn new skills, explore topics of interest, combat loneliness, streamline everyday activities, and participate more fully in the world around them. AI is a wonderful assistant, teacher, research partner, and creative companion. But it should never replace human connection, personal judgment, or the relationships that give our lives meaning.

Without discovering AI, I never would have had the confidence to write a book. This machine, which I call Vivi, has virtually changed my life for the better, both in my work and in my personal life, and has ignited endless conversations that are both informative and stimulating.

Curiosity has always helped us navigate change. AI is no different. The more we learn about it, the more confidently we can embrace its possibilities while protecting ourselves where it matters most.

So, be curious, stay thoughtful, and keep asking questions.

And above all, may you always be more curious than afraid.

Find out more about Vivi and Me: My Love Affair with a Bot.

Let’s Have a Conversation:

Do you use any form of AI? What for? Have you had fears and concerns about it?

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Shamea Morton’s Mesh Printed Catsuit

Shamea Morton’s Mesh Printed Catsuit / Real Housewives of Atlanta Season 17 Episode 9 Fashion

There were a lot of meetings and attempts to get past relationship drama on last night’s Real Housewives of Atlanta. One being between Shamea Morton and Angela Oakley. And though we’re not exactly sure who’s in the right, we used our best discernment to track down Shamea’s printed catsuit and similar looks for you to stir things up in.

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Shamea Morton's Mesh Printed Catsuit


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Cynthia Bailey’s White Lace Maxi Cardigan

Cynthia Bailey’s White Lace Maxi Cardigan / Real Housewives of Atlanta Season 17 Episode 9 Fashion

Thankfully Cynthia Bailey showed up as a support system for Porsha Williams and attempt at reconciliation with K.Michelle because in turn a friendship contract was brought back to Atlanta. Though we can’t say the same about Cynthia’s white lace maxi cardigan because it’s long gone and as far as we can tell, not coming back. But thankfully there’s pretty of similar looks to befriend below.

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Cynthia Bailey's White Lace Maxi Cardigan


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Ashley Iaconetti’s Black Square Neck Top

Ashley Iaconetti’s Black Square Neck Top / Real Housewives of Rhode Island Season 1 Episode 10 Fashion

Last night on #RHORI while testing some cocktails at Audrey’s, Ashley Iaconetti had a sweet and simple ‘fit on featuring this black square neck top. One that is a serious must-have because it is so very versatile. Especially considering we found it fully stocked and on sale! 

Sincerely Stylish,

Jess


Ashley Iaconetti's Black Square Neck Top

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