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Let me ask you something. When you think about menopause, what words come to mind?

Hot flashes. Brain fog. The end of fertility. Decline. Oh – and possibly the mysterious urge to stand in front of the open freezer at 2 a.m. and call it self-care.

Now let me ask you something else. What if every single one of those associations was wrong – or at least, wildly incomplete?

That’s the challenge Dr. Mindy Pelz throws down in her groundbreaking books and coaching practice. And once you start seeing yourself through the lens she offers – an evolutionary one – you may never look in the mirror the same way again.

The Story We’ve Been Told

For most of modern medicine’s history, menopause has been treated as a deficiency. A malfunction. Something to be managed, medicated, and endured. The cultural narrative isn’t much kinder: perimenopause and menopause mark the point where a woman becomes less relevant, less vital, less herself.

But here’s what strikes me every time I hear that story: it’s extraordinarily recent. And it’s almost entirely a Western, industrialized invention. Our great-grandmothers weren’t handed a pamphlet about the change and told to power through.

They had something far more powerful – a completely different story about who they were becoming.

What Evolution Actually Says About You

Here is a remarkable fact that rarely makes it into mainstream conversation: humans are one of the few species on Earth where females live decades beyond their reproductive years.

Chew on that for a moment. Nature is ruthlessly practical. It doesn’t keep anything around just for sentimental reasons – not even us. If post-reproductive women were simply a footnote in the human story, evolution would have written us off at the end of our fertility. Instead, it did the opposite. It went out of its way to keep us here.

Scientists call this the Grandmother Hypothesis – a theory gaining serious traction in evolutionary biology. Women who stopped reproducing and redirected that energy toward their grandchildren dramatically increased their family’s survival odds. Grandmothers who could gather food, pass down knowledge, and help raise the next generation while younger mothers had more babies? They were the secret engine of human civilization.

In other words, your post-menopausal years weren’t an afterthought. They were the whole plan. That, in itself, is incredibly amazing!

Your Body Isn’t Breaking Down – It’s Upgrading

Dr. Pelz takes this lens and brings it into the language of modern science in one of her books, Age Like a Girl. What she describes isn’t decline – it’s a deliberate biological pivot. Your hormones aren’t disappearing; they’re redistributing. Your body is moving away from a chapter defined by reproduction and into one defined by something else entirely: clarity, energy conservation, and a kind of inner sharpening that women who’ve crossed this threshold know exactly what I mean.

The hot flashes, the sleep disruptions, the mood shifts – these aren’t your body staging a dramatic protest. They are signals that something real is happening. And if we worked with it instead of white-knuckling through it, the entire experience might look completely different.

What stopped me cold when I first discovered these ideas wasn’t the science – though it is genuinely thrilling. It was the reframe. What if the discomfort of perimenopause and menopause isn’t punishment? What if it’s simply the labor pains of your next chapter?

The Cavewomen Had It Right

In traditional and indigenous cultures around the world, the older woman – the elder, the grandmother, the keeper of stories – holds a position of profound respect and authority. She is the one the community turns to when things get hard. Her years of lived experience don’t make her obsolete. They make her indispensable.

That’s not just a lovely idea. According to the Grandmother Hypothesis, it’s biology in action. Our value to the people around us was so essential that evolution literally selected for our longevity. We were built to last because we were built to matter.

Somewhere along the way, modern culture lost that memo. We traded reverence for dismissal. We took one of nature’s most intentional designs and called it a problem to be solved.

I think it’s time we reclaimed the original story.

This Is Only the Beginning

These ideas have been living rent-free in my head ever since I first discovered them – and they’ve quietly reshaped how I talk about my age, understand my body, and imagine what’s still ahead.

In my business, I’m on my own journey of growth – and I’m soon completing my certification as a coach for women navigating exactly this chapter. The science Dr. Pelz shares and teaches is one of the most powerful tools I’ve found for that work – because once you understand what your body was actually designed to do, everything changes.

In the next article in this series, we’ll go deeper into what’s actually happening inside your body before, during and after menopause – and how working with your biology, rather than battling it, can transform your energy, your clarity, and your sense of self. I can’t wait to share all of this and more with you!

For now, take this one idea with you: you were not designed to disappear. You were designed to matter more.

Over to You

Has the story you’ve told yourself about menopause ever held you back from fully stepping into this season? And when you imagine yourself as the wise, essential woman you were meant to be all along – what comes up for you? I’d love to keep this conversation going in the comments below.

When was the last time you felt confident with your sexuality?

If you are like many of us who are over 60, the question can leave you scratching your head, wondering how far back in the rearview mirror of the past you have to look to locate the last time you felt confident with your sexuality.

There are many limiting beliefs and outdated stories about sexuality that can make you feel your inner flame is all but gone as you age.

But what if you could radically improve your lifestyle by boosting your sexual confidence and embracing your sexuality after 60?

This article and the accompanying video begin a new, 10-part exclusive series for Sixty and Me readers titled “Improve Your Lifestyle After 60 by Boosting Your Sexual Confidence.”

Limiting Beliefs and False Stories

Feeling confident about your sexuality is not just a matter of sexual pleasure with yourself or a partner.

What often gets in the way of cultivating your sexual confidence comes down to false myths, outdated stories, and limiting beliefs.

Therefore, feeling sexy at this stage of life is a mindset issue.

To develop a healthy and confident mindset will require you to first get clear on the limiting beliefs that frame the stories you tell yourself about sex and intimacy. When you identify what is holding you back, the easier it will be for you to shift into a more empowered state of mind.

To get started, I want to share with you five of the more common limiting beliefs about love and sexuality that women and men over 60 have. I will also reveal the corresponding false story linked to the limiting belief.

1) Limiting Belief: “Sexuality fades with age.”

Outdated Story: “I’m past my prime, so my sex life will never be as good as it was when I was younger.”

2) Limiting Belief: “My body is no longer attractive or desirable.”

Outdated Story: “Only youthful bodies are sexy. My wrinkles, weight, or changes make me unworthy of intimacy.”

3) Limiting Belief: “If I don’t have a partner, there’s no point in embracing my sexuality.”

Outdated Story: “Sexuality is only for people in relationships. Self-pleasure or personal sensuality is unfulfilling.”

4) Limiting Belief: “Talking about my needs and desires is embarrassing.”

Outdated Story: “Expressing what I want is selfish or shameful.”

5) Limiting Belief: “It’s too late for me to experience passion and romance.”

Outdated Story: “Real love and pleasure happen when you’re younger. At my age, it’s about companionship, not passion.”

Installing New Beliefs and New Stories

Even if some of these limiting beliefs and stories are not directly related to you, being aware of them can still help reframe your perspectives and further integrate new narratives about your sexuality into your mindset and lifestyle.

Here are five new, empowering beliefs and corresponding stories that can replace limiting beliefs or false stories that no longer serve you.

Also read: 7 Steps to Turn Up the HEAT on Your Love Life

New Belief #1: “My Sexuality Is Timeless. I Have the Power to Cultivate Passion at Any Age.”

New Story: “Passion is not limited by age for it evolves and deepens with experience. My desires and pleasures are uniquely mine to explore. I embrace them with curiosity and joy. Every stage of life offers new ways to experience intimacy. I welcome the unfolding of my sensuality with an open mind and heart.”

2) New Belief: “My Body Is an Evolving Masterpiece. I Embrace My Sensuality with Confidence and Love.”

New Story: “My body tells the story of my journey. It is strong, wise, and worthy of love and pleasure. I celebrate its curves, changes, and unique beauty. Instead of seeking perfection, I choose to honor and appreciate my body for all the ways it allows me to experience life, love, and intimacy.”

3) New Belief: “Sexual Pleasure and Self-Discovery Are My Birthright, Regardless of Relationship Status.”

New Story: “I do not need permission or validation from anyone to embrace my sensual self. My pleasure is for me first. Whether I am single, in a relationship, or rediscovering intimacy, I have full ownership of my sexuality. I give myself permission to explore what brings me joy and fulfillment.”

4) New Belief: “I Deserve to Express My Desires Openly, Knowing That My Voice Matters.”

New Story: “Speaking my truth about what I desire is a gift to myself and those I share intimacy with. I am a confident communicator, knowing that my needs, boundaries, and pleasures are valid. Love and intimacy flourish when I allow myself to be fully seen, heard, and understood.”

5) New Belief: “Love, Intimacy, and Passion Are Always Available to Me, and I Welcome Them with an Open Heart.”

New Story: “My heart is open to love in all its beautiful forms, from self-love and romantic love, to deep friendships, and sensual connections. I do not chase love; I attract it by being fully present, embracing who I am, and allowing connection to unfold naturally.”

Next Steps:

Now that you have clear examples of what kind of new beliefs and stories you can apply in your life, in our next article and video, you will learn how you can turn yourself on and enjoy pleasuring the most beautiful, sensual person in your life – which is YOU!

I invite you to join me in the video, where I will guide you through a five-part, step-by-step process for reinforcing your new beliefs and stories. I will also guide you through three journal prompts to help you integrate what you are learning.

Let’s Have a Conversation:

Is sensuality part of your mindset? Do you live in a way that embraces your sensuality? What limiting beliefs have worked in your life?

Somewhere along the way, I realized I had spent much of my life listening to everyone except myself.

Parents. Teachers. Friends. Husbands. Society.

Everyone seemed to have an opinion about how life should be lived and how I should fit in.

What surprised me was not that I listened. That was expected. It was that I listened for so long.

Like many women of my generation, I grew up believing that being a good person meant keeping the peace, meeting expectations, and avoiding disappointment.

We learned to be agreeable. Responsible. Thoughtful of others. To smile and be happy, no matter how we felt inside.

Those are not bad qualities.

But somewhere along the way, many of us also learned to ignore ourselves.

We stopped listening to that quiet inner voice that knew when something did not feel right. The voice that whispered that a choice was not really ours, that it wasn’t who we truly were. The voice that wondered whether we were living from our hearts or from everyone else’s expectations.

The First Time I Chose My Own Path

I remember learning that lesson early.

In high school, I loved art and design and dreamed of becoming an engineer. My school offered mechanical drafting classes, but girls were not allowed to take them. I was told those classes were reserved for boys because they would be the ones expected to earn a living someday.

Instead, I was steered toward home economics, which I disliked from the very first day.

But something inside me refused to accept that answer.

I complained to counselors, the principal, and anyone else who would listen. Eventually, the issue made its way to the school board. The following year, the rules changed, and I became the first girl allowed to take drafting.

I loved it. I excelled at it.

Years later, when I entered engineering classes in college, I was often the only woman in the room.

Sadly, I understood why.

For a long time, I thought that experience was about drafting. Looking back, I think it was really about learning how easy it is to lose yourself when everyone around you is telling you who you are supposed to be.

For years, I did exactly that.

The Freedom That Arrives with Age

And then, somewhere in my 60s, something began to change.

I started to realize that every bit of energy I spent worrying about what other people thought was energy I could have spent creating a life that felt authentic to me.

At this stage of life, I have learned that energy is far too precious to waste.

In finding that freedom, I no longer feel the need to explain every decision about my life, my work, my finances, or how I spend my days.

I do not need everyone to understand my choices. I only need to understand them.

I do not need approval for the things that bring me joy. I only need to know that they genuinely bring joy to me.

That does not mean I have become selfish. It does not mean I have stopped caring about others. In fact, life feels more precious these days, and caring runs deeper.

It simply means I have learned there is a difference between true kindness and self-abandonment.

One comes from generosity.

The other from fear.

As the years have passed and life has slowed, I have realized that most people are thinking far less about me than I once imagined. They are busy worrying about their own lives, their own problems, and yes, what other people think of them.

There is something wonderfully freeing about that realization.

Learning to Trust Myself

These days when I am making a decision, I find myself asking a very different question.

No longer, “What will people think?”

But simply, “Does this feel right to me? How does it feel in my gut? What is my own heart telling me?”

These days, a quiet afternoon with Buddy and Leo feels more meaningful to me than trying to impress anyone.

That question has guided many of my choices in recent years. Instead of building my business around what I thought I should be doing, I have found myself rebuilding Dancing Dingo around what feels meaningful to me. I have chosen a quieter life, one with less striving and more purpose. Some opportunities I have said yes to. Others I have quietly declined because they no longer felt like mine.

For perhaps the first time in my life, I have become more interested in following my own instincts than in meeting someone else’s expectations.

That small shift has changed me more than I ever expected.

Life feels quieter. Simpler. More honest. More spiritual. More genuinely me.

Oddly enough, it has also made me more giving, more compassionate, more expressive, and less inhibited. When you stop spending so much energy trying to be who others expect you to be, you have more energy left to simply be yourself.

And perhaps that is one of the greatest and most unexpected gifts of growing older.

We begin to understand that we have earned the right to be ourselves – unapologetic, whole, and infinitely more joyful.

After all, if we are lucky, we spend decades learning who we are. It seems a shame to spend the rest of our lives asking permission to be that person.

What Do You Think:

Have you found it easier to be yourself as you’ve grown older? What is one decision you’ve made recently because it felt right to you, regardless of what others might think?

Summer is coming. And if you’ve been thinking about finally doing something about your arms – you’re not alone.

But before you grab a pair of weights, there’s something I want to highlight because it’s the reason so many women work hard, feel frustrated, and wonder why their arms still aren’t responding the way they’d like.

The secret isn’t heavier weights. It’s what you do before you pick them up.

Before You Tone, You Realign

I’ve been teaching movement to women 50+ for 10 years. And the pattern I see almost every time is this: we rush to get strong before we’ve addressed the compensation patterns we’ve spent decades building.

Years of desk work, carrying bags on one shoulder, old injuries we’ve long forgotten – by the time we’re ready to “get toned,” most of us aren’t actually moving from a neutral, aligned place. One shoulder sits higher than the other. We grip through our neck without realising. We favour one side so consistently it just feels normal.

When you add weights on top of that? You’re building on a crooked foundation. And that’s where the frustration lives.

The good news? It’s completely fixable.

Try This First

I put together a summer arm routine on YouTube that follows exactly this formula – release and realign first, then strengthen. It’s designed specifically for women who want to build strength and support through the shoulders and upper body.

Why Slowing Down Is the Real Secret

Here’s something a new student said to me recently that I often think about.

She noticed that slowing the movement down made her feel her muscles activate in a way she never had before. That rushing through reps meant she wasn’t getting the muscles to activate properly – but moving slowly meant she felt everything.

That’s your brain and body having a real conversation. And for toned, functional arms that actually work for you all summer – that conversation is everything.

Light weights. Slow and intentional movement. Realigned foundation. That’s the formula.

What You’ll Notice

Once you start moving from a more neutral place, something shifts. Muscles that were quiet start to wake up. The work gets easier to feel and harder to cheat. And the results – the kind that show up when you’re reaching overhead, carrying groceries, or just moving through your day – start to follow.

Give the routine a try, subscribe to my YouTube channel so you never miss a new video, and drop a comment below.

About You:

What does “feeling strong” mean to you? Have you noticed a difference in your upper body strength? What is your favourite exercise to build upper body strength?