Have you ever heard the saying, “The brain is the sexiest organ in the body”? For as long as I can remember, I’ve been physically attracted to intelligent, well-spoken men.
Don’t get me wrong. I enjoy looking at a silver fox with well-sculpted abs as much as the next gal, but if a man really wants to set my heart aflutter, all he has to do is ‘talk purdy’ to me… because I’m a sapiosexual.
A Sapio – What?
If you are wondering exactly what a sapiosexual person is, the simple definition is that sapiosexual is someone who is sexually attracted to intelligent people.
As soon as I heard the term, I knew I was one! I am attracted to men who have incisive and inquisitive minds. Does this describe the kind of man that you are attracted to?
“Sapiosexual,” according to Merriam-Webster’s blog, “is a hybrid word. It is a word made up of parts of other words, typically from Latin or Greek. Sapio comes from the Latin verb sapere, meaning ‘to be wise’ or ‘to have sense.’”
So, combined with the word sexual, we have the combination of complete mind and body attraction.
I’ve always had a soft spot for men who are well spoken. When I was single and dating in my 20s, I met some frogs in my quest for a prince. But the men who I remember all these years later are those who were inquisitive and well read, who made me laugh and think.
I always fell for the guy who used ‘50-cent words’ as my girlfriends and I would usually put it. I appreciated a guy who valued his intelligence and wasn’t afraid to show it and express it.
A Lover of Knowledge
When I found myself single again in my early 50s, I was in college working toward an undergraduate degree. There’s nothing like a college campus to stimulate a sapiosexual… but I wasn’t into guys who were young enough to date my daughter, so I never considered that I might meet someone in a class.
I did meet someone close to my own age in one of those college classes, and we have been life partners for more than a decade. Since the day we met, our conversations have been filled with everything from politics to social issues.
We have always discussed every topic in great detail – from our childhood dreams to our fears about aging, from work frustrations to family celebrations. For me, this provides a complete relationship experience that stimulates my mind as much as my body!
He keeps me on my toes intellectually, and his encouragement is a major reason why I overcame my fear of calling myself a writer.
I love words and everything you can do with them, and I love a man who loves words as much as I do. He and I are proud sapiosexuals!
Are you attracted to intelligent people? Does intellectual interaction fire you up? Does the term sapiosexual describe you, too? Please share your story in the comments!