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Is your mind filled with anxiety? Maybe you’re suffering from sleepless nights and feeling nervous and upset all day. Perhaps you worry all the time, imagining the worst-case scenarios.

Maybe having an anxiety-free mind sounds impossible. Maybe you think anxiety is helpful and necessary. That it helps you solve your problems. But if you’re honest, what you really want is to relax and calm down.

You want to be free of anxiety.

It is truly possible to become anxiety-free – no matter what your situation is.

A few years ago, I was an anxious mess. A family situation had me in knots. I hardly ate, couldn’t sleep, and was consumed with worry all day. In the midst of my misery, I decided to do something about my anxiety. The journey to become anxiety-free was worth it!

Here’s what I discovered…

Your Mind Can Fabricate Things That Aren’t Actually True

It’s true! You can’t believe everything your mind tells you. Thoughts are just thoughts! You don’t need to trust every one of them. Not all thoughts are equal.

What to do: Examine your thoughts carefully.

Awareness of Your Thoughts Is Key

It’s important to be aware of your thoughts. This means pausing long enough to become mindful of the thoughts rolling around in your mind. Take a break from your whirlwind of thoughts. Stop long enough to sort out your thoughts and feelings. Identify the ones causing your anxiety.

What to do: Pause and identify the thoughts that cause anxiety.

It’s Important to Analyze Where Your Thoughts Come From

This is a reflective process that takes a bit of time but helps you understand the root of your thoughts. Thoughts come from a lifetime of experiences that have formed impressions or unconscious ideas about how life works and your place in the world. For example, individuals with anxiety might have unconscious thoughts like:

• I will always be a worrier.
• Life is unsafe and scary.
• I’ll never be able to calm down.
• Something must be wrong with me.

What to do: Figure out where your thoughts originate.

Core Beliefs Affect All Areas of Your Life

Unconscious thoughts affect everything you do. They influence your thoughts, feelings, decisions and actions. Why? Because they form the foundational system of beliefs by which you live.

They are called CORE BELIEFS. For instance, someone living with the core belief that anxiety is the way to cope with problems, experiences a mind automatically filled with anxious thoughts and feelings when something happens.

An event could even be neutral but those of us with anxiety will interpret it as being negative and dangerous. While someone else operating from a different set of beliefs might interpret the event as a positive opportunity.

What to do: Consider how your core beliefs affect your current situation/mindset.

Limiting Beliefs Cripple Us, and We Must Change Them

Core beliefs become LIMITING BELIEFS when you trust and act on them. Hanging on to the core belief, for instance, that life is unsafe and scary, holds you back in life. Fear and anxiety control your thoughts, feelings, decisions and actions.

The key to reducing limiting beliefs that cause anxiety is to allow and accept them. Be aware of your limiting beliefs and decide to do something about the ones that cause anxious thoughts.

What to do: Identify your limiting beliefs and actively eliminate them.

Remember: You don’t have to believe everything your mind tells you!

Change Is in Your Hands

You always have a choice to change negative thoughts and limiting beliefs into positive thoughts and empowering beliefs. Here’s how.

Replace old beliefs with new beliefs. For instance, someone with the old belief, “I will never be able to calm down,” could change it to the new belief, “I can calm down. I can do what it takes to calm down.”

Repeat the new belief to yourself every day! Even several times a day. Make it a habit. This will start to reprogram your mind and create new neural pathways in your brain.

You can reprogram your mind and become anxiety-free!

I hope you follow these 5 steps to become aware of your limiting beliefs, change them to new empowering beliefs and repeat the new beliefs often.

If you need some help on your path to becoming anxiety-free, check out this video.

Let’s Have a Conversation:

What limiting beliefs cause you anxiety? Where do they originate? Have you taken a pause to analyze your thoughts?

Do you ever feel like the universe, or God, or whatever your belief, is trying to tell you something? I’m having that moment right now. First, I listened to a podcast by Dr. Leaf about 5 steps to align your conscious mind with your subconscious mind. Then I had lunch with friends and part of our discussion was around how short life is and acknowledging how important it is to choose to be happy in the moment.

And then came my pastor’s most recent sermon about how life is a series of mountaintops and valleys and how to handle that. My favorite line was a quote he shared from a football quarterback who said, “You’re always either in the penthouse or the outhouse.”

Life can be a rollercoaster of happiness extremes so what should you do about it? Let’s break down these three messages a little more closely.

Conscious vs Subconscious Mind

Dr. Leaf is a neuroscientist and Mind Management expert. In books, podcasts, speaking and coaching she shares science-backed strategies to take control of your thoughts in order to live your happiest life. I find her research to be fascinating and helpful in my own life. She talks about what she calls “thinker moments” which I call a “forced pause.”

Our brains are wired for survival which doesn’t really apply to our lives today. We don’t have wild animals and hunting our own food to contend with yet our brains tend to react quickly without pausing to “think” unless we force a pause to allow the conscious mind to engage and our brains to reboot and heal. That would’ve gotten you eaten in the past but not today.

I encourage you to listen to her words of wisdom, sign up for her enlightening newsletter, and treat yourself to her free download on her five tips for switching on your brain. And spoiler alert, she also has a recent podcast about the new GLP-1 drugs and what they actually do to our brains – worth a listen!

Happy in the Moment

My lunch discussion with girlfriends was maybe similar to conversations you have had as well. After sharing stories and supporting each other with ideas, we often nudge each other to take that new step, go on that next trip, enjoy an opportunity, or just appreciate today… while we can.

It seems every time we turn around, someone we know has just lost… a brother, a friend, a parent, a spouse. What are we waiting for? Those losses are our reminder that today is a gift that we, too, often take for granted. The minute our feet hit the ground as we get out of bed each morning, are we grateful for this new day?

Mountains and Valleys

Lastly, the pastor talking about peaks and valleys wasn’t just talking about faith. He noted how extreme life can feel, with highs and lows, almost as if there seems to be nothing in between (hence the quarterback quote). And he too encouraged a “head game” to consider.

When you are on the mountain top, “look out in gratitude,” he said. When you are in the lowest valley, “look up with hope,” he encouraged. No matter the circumstance, there is a positive framework our mind can focus on. But we have to choose it.

Life by Design

I have come to believe that awareness is a superpower, but only if you choose to act on it. I know my Health and Financial Wellness for Women group probably gets tired of me reminding them that the speakers and topics I bring to the group have an ulterior motive: actionable education. Education is NOT helpful, unless we put it into practice. So, my challenge to them is to write down three interesting or new things they learned at each meeting. And then circle the one they will take action on.

We can choose to break the cycle of learning and not doing, of reacting and not pausing first, or of going through our days without gratitude. I have seen women and couples choose a positive head game after loss, career curveballs, upending life events, and toxic people in their lives.

It sounds so simple to remind ourselves how moving forward in life is a choice. But it’s actually good news, that our minds are the ONE and ONLY thing we really can control in life. So it behooves us to become more aware, learn about our most amazing organ (our brains), and choose positivity in this head game of life.

Let’s Reflect:

Have you experienced a mindset shift in your life? How do you deal with mountains and valleys? Any tips that you have found helpful to “force a pause” to engage your conscious mind rather than habitually just reacting? Let’s share our thoughts.

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In my first Dental Hygiene 101 article I focused on how the teeth and the oral cavity affect our overall health, the importance of keeping our teeth, and some of the challenges associated with age.

There are two ways that most of us lose teeth: either from the breakdown of the tooth structure from dental decay (cavities) or from periodontal (gum) disease. Today, let’s focus on tooth decay; how it occurs and how it can be prevented. While the process of dental decay is the same, much has changed since the early radio and TV advertisements promoting dental health.

Many of our generation in the United States may remember Crest toothpaste’s “look, Mom, no cavities” advertisements of the 1950s, with a young boy running in to tell his mom the good news that he didn’t have cavities, or Pepsodent’s jingle “You’ll wonder where the yellow went, when you brush your teeth with Pepsodent” (these can be found on YouTube for a good laugh).

Tooth Anatomy

Teeth are made up of three layers: the enamel, the tooth’s strong protective outer surface, the dentin, the softer middle layer of the tooth, and the pulp, which contains the tooth’s nerve and blood and lymph vessels. (Did you know each tooth has tiny lymph vessels?)

Think of the enamel as you do your skin; the skin is the body’s physical first line of defense in keeping bacteria out of the body. The enamel is the tooth’s physical first line of defense in keeping bacteria out of the dentin and pulp.

Decay Process

Acid is the enemy of the tooth! Whether acid is produced by the bacteria in the mouth OR from ingesting acid in products such as sodas, it is the cause of the enamel losing minerals (calcium and phosphate).

Stage One: Tooth Demineralization

The first stage in the decay process occurs when the enamel is first compromised by bacteria which produce acid, causing the tooth enamel to lose minerals. Early demineralization appears as white or chalky spots. At this stage, decay can often be stopped or reversed!

Stage Two: Enamel Decay

If the acid attacks continue, the enamel breaks down further, creating a hole or cavity. This damage is irreversible and is treated with a filling.

Stage Three: Dentin Decay

The decay moves through the enamel and into the dentin. Because dentin is less resistant to acid than enamel, the decay spreads faster and moves to the pulp. This damage is irreversible and is treated with a root canal or extraction.

Preventing and Reversing the Decay Process

Like many things we thought we’d “outgrow” (hello, adult acne!), tooth decay can become more of an issue as we age. The effects of a high carb/high acid diet, dry mouth, and exposed roots can lead to an oral environment prone to decay. A change in our dexterity can make cleaning our teeth more challenging.

Here are some easy preventative strategies you can start today:

Diet

If you enjoy occasional acidy drinks or sticky carbohydrate snacks, go ahead and enjoy them but be smart. Solutions include:

• Consume cavity producing drinks (i.e. soda) and foods (i.e. sticky carbohydrates) all at once rather than sipping and snacking on them all day. This is so the “acid attack” on your teeth is for a shortened period of time. Once you have consumed the cavity producing drink or food, rinse your mouth with water.
• Do not brush right after consuming an acidy drink. Allow 30 minutes to pass so that you don’t scrub the acid into your teeth.
• Use Xylitol gum or lozenges. Xylitol is a natural anti-bacterial agent that targets the bacteria specific to cavities, Streptococcus mutans.

Dry Mouth

While dry mouth caused by low saliva production is uncomfortable and makes chewing and digesting food more difficult, saliva also plays a protective role against tooth decay. Saliva both flushes debris off of our teeth and neutralizes the acids in the mouth. Solutions for a dry mouth include:

• Proper removal of sticky plaque from teeth on a daily basis using a toothbrush and another aid to get between the teeth (this is not always floss!).
• Use toothpaste containing Hydroxyapatite. A calcium-phosphate product (which is what teeth are made of), it will repair early demineralization! Hydroxyapatite can be found in toothpastes with or without fluoride. NOTE: The debate on the pros and cons of fluoride are beyond the scope of this article.
• Use baking soda rinses to neutralize acids. One teaspoon of baking soda to 8 ounces of warm water.
• Use saliva substitutes. These over-the-counter products mimic natural saliva and can be found in lozenges or sprays or gels. The gel-based products work well if dry mouth wakes you up at night. While saliva substitutes won’t neutralize acids or re-mineralize enamel, they do make chewing and swallowing easier and food doesn’t stick to the teeth. Try a few different products to find the one that works for you.

Exposed Roots

Often the roots of the teeth, which in health are inside the jaw bones, become exposed in age due to gum recession. Without the protective covering of enamel, roots are more susceptible to decay. Solutions include:

• Using a toothpaste containing Hydroxyapatite for cavity prevention and to reduce the sensitivity often associated with exposed root surfaces.
• The more gum recession around the teeth, the more space between them; thin floss doesn’t remove the debris and plaque in these spaces. The use of thicker “interdental” cleaners helps. Examples are Proxabrushes, Superfloss and Stimudents.
• Waterpiks are helpful as the pulsing water helps flush debris from larger spaces between teeth.
• Since roots are covered by cementum, which is much softer than enamel, a soft bristled toothbrush is a must. A great manual choice is the Swiss made Curaprox.

Dexterity Changes

Even if you don’t have dexterity challenges, an electric (also called power) toothbrush provides better plaque removal than a manual toothbrush. Solutions include:

• Choose the brand you buy based on budget; you don’t need to purchase the most expensive high-tech brush to improve effectiveness over a manual brush!
• Consider the brush head size. If you have a small mouth or limited ability to open, look for a small brush head size, often the round brush head is smaller.
• As with manual toothbrushes, look for a soft bristle head.
• Change the toothbrush head at the correct interval or it will lose its effectiveness.

Next month Dental Hygiene 101 will cover gum disease.

Join the Conversation:

What dental concerns or questions do you have? What practices have made a huge difference in your oral health?