Jackie Goldschneider’s Black Cashmere Outfit on Instagram

Real Housewives of New Jersey Instagram Fashion 2021

Cute in cashmere! Needless to say Jackie Goldschneider totally makes staying home look as appealing as possible in her super cute black cashmere lounge outfit on Instagram. Especially if it involves chilling in a room like the one she’s standing in which totally has us saying Na-damn.

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I literally just got my skin to calm down from an awful winter burn that plagued my skin for much of the latter half of 2020. You know, when your face gets chapped for seemingly no reason aside from mother nature’s elements taking a turn for the worse? To calm down the irritation and restore balanced moisture levels to my compromised complexion, I spent days slathering on all the oils and moisturizers, and when it finally healed, I was ready for a new skincare routine. That’s when I heard about a new skincare ingredient: chebula.

True Botanicals (Olivia Wilde’s fave) just dropped a topical glow-boosting serum infused with chebula (a powerful antioxidant derived from Terminalia chebula Retzius fruit that boasts impressive anti-inflammatory superpowers) that promises to tackle dullness, hydrate dry skin, soften the appearance of fine lines, and even improve skin’s elasticity. Since my skin was ~finally~ rash-free and I wasn’t battling any breakouts, it seemed like the perfect time to give it a test drive.

Here’s how it works: Basically, every day your body fights off free radicals (pollution, smoke, debris, etc.) When your body is exposed to too much of them, it can cause oxidative stress, which can contribute to everything from a weakened immune system to premature aging. Antioxidants work to counteract oxidative stress in the body. For your body’s health, it’s best to eat antioxidant-rich foods like blueberries or leafy greens like spinach or kale. But when it comes to your skincare, you might consider incorporating a topical treatment that does double duty. Enter Chebula.

Chebula is a cascading antioxidant, which means that once it clears a free radical, its absorption is not lost on your skin after just one application. Instead, it keeps working all day long, to clear free radicals and protect your skin. In fact, chebula’s ORAC antioxidant score is 60% greater than acai — another trendy ingredient that’s had its time in the limelight over the past few years.

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True Botanicals Chebula Active Immunity Serum

While I’ve only been using it for about a week, I’ve already noticed how hydrating it is (my skin’s not begging for moisturizer like it usually is after just one serum application), and you only need about two drops each time you use it, since it spreads quickly all over the skin. Now that chebula is dipping its toes into the mainstream skincare market, you’re likely to see it popping up more and more in products. It’s currently available for presale on the True Botanicals website for $90 and will be available for sale at additional retailers on January 12.

It took me 50 years to discover the power of a childhood friend. It all started when I was shipped off to sleep away camp in the summer of 1969 and met Betsy Brown. By 1975 we were already too old for camp.

Would we still be friends without that sacred month of August spent in the White New Hampshire Mountains? There was no Facebook, cell phones or emails. Betsy in Rhode Island and me in Long Island. How would we find each other?

Was it kismet in 1984, on my first day in the US Senate, when I realized I now had the job that very same Betsy Brown just left? Even then Betsy was always ahead of me. Does it even matter?

What I didn’t know is that this relationship would be so defining five decades later. Not because of the time we spent together. Instead, due to the spans of time we didn’t.

A Message from Betsy

Three months ago, Betsy Brown texted me that she had breast cancer. She asked me to be ‘one of her six’ and spend a Chemotherapy treatment with her.

I was floored. All these years later, her loving family, friends and network at her back, and she wanted me! This alone made me feel loved, seen and appreciated.

As I sat across from Betsy Brown, with the toxic drugs dripping into her, she gave me the most incredible gift. I saw myself how she saw me. How she knew me before life got busy and messy.

Her thoughts, my soul. Her words, my story. Her love, so powerful. I saw my authentic self through her eyes. I thought I had lost little pieces of myself over the years. Betsy Brown showed me they were still there.

What were the defining characteristics of my Betsy Brown relationship?

Time Doesn’t Matter

Over the years, we met for coffee, had drinks, and a few catch-up calls. But now was different. This was real time. Sleeping at her house, staying with her family, watching her in one of her toughest hours.

I was so nervous. Would she still like me? But from the moment I stepped through the door, it was just the two of us. No time had passed at all and we were in sync. Laughing, talking away, feeling comfortable together.

Your True Authentic Self

Dorothy had to go all the way to OZ to figure out what was important. There are no right or wrong answers. It’s just how you show up with people.

In many situations, I people-please or feel like I am walking on egg shells. Not with Betsy Brown. Without trying, my best self came out to play. Just as it should. I’d like all the people in my life to make me be my best self.

Agreeability

I wasn’t sure if the things that had been important to me at age 10 would be the same at this age. With all that time apart from Betsy Brown, would we still have the same opinions and likes? Would we be in sync?

Easy Peasy. We had the same likes and kept the same easy rhythm. With the same thoughts we re like kindred souls. And yet, she was still ahead of me, bounding up the stairs at the Chemo center as I slogged along.

We Reminisced and Built Anew

We all know that what keeps a relationship interesting is not only old memories, but also the present we live in. The new, freshly shared experiences bond us. Building on the past while simultaneously starting new traditions keeps us connected.

The things we have in common and never even discussed are so many. For instance, we both want to go to Alaska. Not on a cruise, ferry hopping.

We also want to see Iceland. We love a good coffee house. And of course, laughing at the same things while others would just cock their heads and say, “Huh.”

What’s next?

Find your Betsy. Hug her tight and don’t let go for the rest of your life! Watch Beaches and cry your eyes out. Remember the best line, “I know everything about you and my memory is very long.”

Watch the Natural, and remember the signature line, “I believe we have two lives. The one we believe we will have and the one we end up living with.”

Success is figuring out how to have no regrets and learning to walk the path between those two lives to make your inner peace. Your Betsy Brown will guide you.

Have you reconnected with a friend from your childhood? Tell us about your experience and how you found each other. Please join the conversation below.

With your children gone, who are you now? So many women believe their identity is firmly wrapped around being a mother. I, too, am a woman of a certain age – proud to say I am fabulously 56! I’ve been married for almost 32 years, and my adult children have flown the coop… so now what?

With the children grown up and living on their own, who are you now? Who are you as a partner and lover?

In these times of great change in our family structure, we may feel lonely, alone, unoccupied, unloved, or losing value as a person. But WAIT! The children have moved out of the house, not your heart and mind.

It is a slippery slope when you lose all self-worth and purpose because your role in life becomes different. So, what can you do?

Write a List of “What Nows?”

• “What Now” would you like to address in the next 3 months?
• What do you need to do these 3-month “What Nows”?
• “What Now” would you like to do in the next 6 months?
• What do you need to accomplish these 6-month “What Nows”?

Armed with this list, you can start to shape your future into something concrete. Go for it! And remember, it is a list, not a law – you can always alter it!

Reclaim Your Space

Many of us still keep our children’s bedrooms as such for years after they have moved away. But why? Why do we keep shrines to adult children who live elsewhere? Have you thought about putting that space to better use for you and your partner, if they haven’t also flown the coop, now that it is unoccupied?

It is perfectly okay to use a smaller room/space to create a bedroom for visiting children. That will make them feel welcome without bringing concern that you are living in the past. Give yourself permission to take ownership of your entire home.

Have a “I Want to Know You, Now” Conversation with Your Partner and Then Get to Know Them, Again!

Ask questions and listen. These can include things like:

• How do you feel about the kid(s) being out of the house?
• Are we still working as a couple?
• How can we strengthen our connection?
• What would be a perfect day for us?
• What do you need in this partnership to feel safe and secure?

Take Care of Your Physical and Mental Well-Being

Consider the following questions:

• Have you had all the appropriate physical checkups?
• Do you take care of yourself as well as you took care of your children?
• Are you doing things that bring you joy?
• Have you nurtured your friendships? Sometimes they are the longest lasting relationships that we have but are often neglected.
• Are you giving your all to your career or has it lost its excitement?
• Would you benefit from a mental check-up from a professional?

Put in the Work Rebuilding a Nest

I think that is enough to start with, right? When my last child left the nest, I went through this process myself. I never realized, nor understood, how deeply entangled my personal identity was with my children. While I enjoyed them living at home, I thought it was sacrilege to enjoy them living elsewhere.

However, what I realized after doing some work on my other relationships was that I could have a totally different bond with my children that was based on mature interests and activities. Our relationship has matured and deepened in the last few years because I now interact with them as my adult children, not my children, an important distinction.

Everyone Goes Through This

Friends have also weighed in on having an empty nest. Lisa signed on for travel with her husband – as much as they could manage and afford after their two adult children moved out.

“We did many vacations with kids when they were at home living with us, usually domestic travel, but even that is hard when you have a teen boy and teen girl and need to book a motel/hotel. (…) It became much simpler and cheaper when it was just the two of us. We paid for their college and then we traveled as much as we wanted, without them, and opened a new phase of our lives. Our travels allowed us to grow together in a new way without the kids. We then could come home and talk travels with the kids and others.”

Another couple took advantage of the “freedom” by digging into their work lives. Lis, a college educator, shared, “I accepted the position of chair of the department. I didn’t feel the need to be home after school. I was able to go to meetings and not stress about what time I got home. We also didn’t worry about being home and making sure there was dinner on the table, which meant that we were free to meet in town for dinner.”

The other benefit of putting in the work to investigate how to refill the nest, was rebuilding our intimate relationship. This connection has been especially fulfilling. With a renewed interest to enjoy each other, my husband and I have found new, thrilling things about the mature us.

If all else fails, get a pet to fulfill your nurturing spirit! Let’s talk about it and good luck empty nesting!

When did your last child leave the house? For how long did you keep your children’s rooms intact? When did you decide it was time to move on and rebuild the nest? How did you go about that? What are the results? Please share your wisdom with the community!

While there’s undoubtedly been a major cultural shift in the collective perception of mental health and treatment for psychiatric disorders, finding a therapist that you click with—whether you’re looking for cognitive behavioral therapy or emotion-focused therapy still isn’t exactly a seamless or judgment-proof process. As the growing effort to remove the stigma that’s shadowed the discourse surrounding mental and psychological health for ages continues to widen, teletherapy (therapy sessions conducted via phone calls, video conferences, and chat) has become increasingly available and desirable, thanks in part to more convenience and flexibility with appointments, along with the current social distancing measures in place due to the pandemic.

Aside from that, many patients simply feel more comfortable and relaxed during sessions when they’re in the comfort of their own home rather than a potentially intimidating clinical setting. As a side note, even if you don’t have a mental health diagnosis under your belt, we have our ups and downs, and frankly, it’s just nice to have an outsider’s prescriptive—yes, your friends and family are not only trained professionals, but they can also be (lovingly) biased.

Even when you’ve finally taken the plunge and decided to give therapy a shot, finding the right therapist or mental health care provider can be a struggle—whether you’re looking for in-person or virtual care. Often times, it’s a grueling process of trial and error, and the first one or two candidates don’t quite feel like the best fit. This process can be pretty discouraging, and can often leave those in need exhausted (because no one wants to re-hash their life story again and again to new people before meeting “the one”) resulting in giving up in therapy altogether. In fact, it’s kind of like using dating apps—you give your new date the same “best version of yourself” shpeal as if you’re on a job interview, only to discover the chemistry is off, or you get ghosted and have to move onto the next match.

Fortunately, just like dating apps (and first-time dates held over a Zoom call), most online therapy platforms make choosing the right therapist for you, your lifestyle and concerns pretty easy by asking you a series of questions and taking intel on your personal preferences (i.e. which gender you prefer and what type of symptoms or experiences you’re looking to work on). Sure, it’s not a foolproof process, but you are able to choose between a few recommended professionals that meet your criteria. In my experience, there is absolutely nothing more isolating than suffering from a mental health episode and feeling as though you’re alone in the harrowing journey to simply feel like yourself again — let alone feel happy.

While medication is often a necessary part of treatment, talk therapy has really helped me identify common thought patterns (for me, they’re anxiety-fueled cognitive distortions) which has helped me become more self-aware and able to distinguish when it’s my anxiety (I like to think of “her” a separate entity rather than an imbalance of mood-modulating neurotransmitters in my brain) talking versus my logical mind. Of course, one common critique of telemental health is that the therapeutic benefits will be lesser than face-to-face sessions. While this will vary for each person, some studies have indicated that virtual therapy can be just as effective as in-person care.

Finally, although it sucks to say it, therapy can be downright expensive—especially if you don’t have insurance or government health care assistance. Ahead, we’ve outlined some online therapy resources for a variety of different budgets to help you get the care you need (and 100 percent deserve) without having to step foot in a daunting medical office.

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Talkspace

Talkspace gives you access to thousands of licensed and background-checked professionals without having to leave the comfort of your own home. Depending on which medium you choose to use for your sessions (video, cat. call, etc) will dictate the pricing, but it starts at just $69 per month (prices vary depending on the service you select) if you want to give it a risk-free shot. The one advantage I found with TalkSpace is that I could vent via chat whether it was early morning or late night when a situation arose, rather than having to wait around to see my therapist at our set appointments on Friday. The ability to just type out the situation that had occurred and how I felt about it immediately (although you can’t expect an immediate response at midnight) was also helpful in and of itself.

Amwell.

Amwell

Regardless of whether you’re dealing with symptoms related to hormones (i.e. postpartum depression) or a lifelong battle with Bipolar disorder, Amwell is here to help. They have a huge network of licensed and experienced professionals trained to deal with not only hormonal-based “phases,” but also OCD, life transitions, PTSD, chronic insomnia, and even couple’s therapy.

Pride.

Pride Counseling

Specializing in specific LGBTQ+ concerns, Pride Counseling gives you access to trained doctors, therapists, and psychiatrists to talk to remotely. Whether you’re struggling with the idea of coming out to your family or simply having relationship issues, Pride Counselling offers a forum of non-judgemental professionals to help you get through, and learn better coping mechanisms and communication skills along the way.