Kameron Westcott’s Tie Dye Sweats on Instagram / TikTok

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According to social media Kameron Westcott has been taking the quarantine tie dye trend very seriously lately, like with this super cute sweatsuit she wore the other day while filming a TikTok. And although there’s only very limited stock of the pants left (and the sweatshirt’s completely sold out), no worries because we’ve included some similar Style Stealers down below that are perfect for TikToking sweating it out.

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My friend Susan stared at me in disbelief. “You’re going to do what?” She was incredulous. “Go to Africa alone and climb Kilimanjaro at sixty?” She paused for a deep breath.

“ALONE?”

I nodded. “Why not?”

My other friend Lori shook her head. “You’re crazy.”

“Perhaps,” I countered. “But the snows are melting. In a few years, the fabled snows of Kilimanjaro will be gone. If I don’t go now, I never will.”

Susan shuddered. “I could never do that.”

She’s right. She can’t. She’s not even willing to give it a try, so of course, her mind, soul and body are in alignment with her statement.

Living in Adventure

None of us has to be an athlete to create an adventurous life. It begins with asking the question, “What would I most love to go do, that I haven’t done yet?”

As soon as the naysaying thoughts rise, squash them. They may come from parental or societal condition, or long habits of saying “Well, that’s just not me.” How do you know?

On November 17^th of my 60th year I reached the top of Kilimanjaro. Not in a million years would I have imagined it, but there I was. The clear blue skies stretched in all directions as I stood on wobbly legs, starved for air. But I had made it. That year redefined what I thought I could do and who I thought I was.

Today I do adventure travel all over the world, because it constantly challenges my definition of who I am. But this isn’t just about physical adventure.

Your Adventure Is Unique to You

I have a dear friend who for years has talked about writing a children’s book called The Gillygaloo, which would be based on her grandfather’s stories. She’s the only one who can write this book.

She’s bright and funny and today she has a growing gaggle of grandkids for whom such a book would be a loving legacy. After I published my first two books she asked me for ideas. I pointed her towards all kinds of groups and materials to get her started.

Yet she won’t. Despite all the discussions we’ve had, the resources I’ve shared with her, how to get involved with a children’s book writing group, my buddy refuses to even try. The Gillygaloo is going to die with my friend. To me, that’s a loss.

It’s not my place to judge her for not giving it a shot. However, I strongly believe that each of us has a unique gift that the world deserves to enjoy. Fear of failure keeps us from sharing that precious gift. Procrastination guarantees good excuses like “But I’ve got my hands full with the grandkids.”

Resources at Your Fingertips

With access to the Internet, we have more at our fingertips than ever. I can research a location to find out what kind of gear to take. You can find online support systems for writing that book you’ve always discussed. You can get inspired by other women’s stories about starting late in life.

And to that point, precisely when is it time to begin?

Eleanor Roosevelt once said to “Do something every day that scares you.” For me, that may be leaping out of an airplane. For you, that may be starting that book about your family that you’ve long dreamed about publishing.

A mentor of mine did just that in her late 80s. She went about and published Deep Family: Four Centuries of American Originals and Southern Eccentrics in 2005. It was a work of love and sustained her for years, and was a great gift to many.

So many of us are far wiser, our perspectives deeper and our resilience far greater than ever before. I found my inner athlete at 58.

Others discover deep wells of creativity and competence by simply trying out something new at a local community center. However, if we state flatly, “I can’t do that,” we can be right about limiting ourselves.

The Magic of “I Don’t Know”

What would happen if we said, “I don’t know. Let me try?” How would your life change if you embraced a new direction in your 60s or later? What doors might open for you?

When computers first came out, my father said that he and my mother were “too old to learn computers.”

Nonsense. He was scared to try and fail.

So are we all. But those who do try discover new worlds and see themselves with new eyes. All kinds of groups have formed to help us women do just that.

Have you tried something new – an activity, sport or hobby – recently? What have you experimented with that led you to a new direction in your 60s and beyond? Where did your adventure take you? Please share your experiences with the community and how they inspired you to do even more.

Today, I thought that I would take a break from serious topics and focus on something a bit more fun – makeup! After all, we could all use a little cheering up!

In today’s video, I will share my latest makeup tutorial, featuring Believe Beauty makeup. Best of all, the items that I used are less tan $5 each! So, if you are looking for a little break, today’s video is for you.

Let’s age beautifully, inside and out! Check out our own “Aging Beautifully” affirmation cards. They will inspire you to live your life to the fullest and enable you to find joy and passion in the decades ahead.

How are you feeling today? What are you going to do today to feel happier and more relaxed?

Caregiving can often feel like a full-contact sport, and all too many caregivers find themselves under siege by other family members and even the ones to whom they provide care. This sense of attack drives caregivers either into despair or eventually erupts in rage.

Both of those avenues compound the heartache of caregivers and pile on guilt, depression, and other dark thoughts. While caregivers desperately desire to defend themselves, they often feel overwhelmed and outmatched.

However, by incorporating a few principles learned through martial arts, caregivers can regain their footing and learn to better direct the seemingly endless barrage of criticism leveled at them. My friend and colleague Peter Rosenberger joined me for my Caregiver Summit to offer concrete solutions.

Peter was speaking in Alaska to a group of nurses and caregivers, and he asked on a lark how many of them had ever been choked or grabbed by a patient or a loved one. The answer? All of them.

That made him think about how many caregivers feel like the life is being choked out of them by their loved one and by the circumstances. He was determined to find and share ways in which caregivers could defend themselves physically and emotionally.

It Starts with Self-Esteem

Self-esteem is not about ego. It’s about you as a caregiver recognizing the value that you have as an individual and as a caregiver. It is a window into what your heart looks like; what it means to you to willingly and knowingly put yourself in a vulnerable situation and sometimes even disaster.

Caregivers often berate themselves and look at themselves with disdain because they see their failures but don’t see their attendance record, which is perfect.

Peter says that when you have more self-esteem, you’re going to care better for yourself, and that’s going to have health implications and all kind of other useful benefits.

It’s OK to Say NO!

As Peter points out, NO is a complete sentence. NO!

We have permission to say no and not capitulate to every demand that’s put on us not just by our loved ones, but by family and friends, by medical staff, and so forth. Peter actually employs self-defense principles in tackling caregiver issues.

So, for example, balance is a key element of self-defense. What does it look like for caregivers to keep their balance while taking the balance of those who seem to attack them? One of the first rules he studies in hapkido is keeping your balance.

Don’t let your shoulders go over your hips. That’s physically what it looks like to keep your balance. Emotionally this looks like learning to recognize that it’s okay to say no. It’s okay for you to not go to every fight that you get a ticket to.

If you’re defensive you’re reacting. But if you are defending, you can move away and keep control. On a broader level, it’s about staying secure and in control of your own thoughts, words, and deeds and not have someone else take that from you.

Fight What’s Closest – First Things First

Peter urges us to focus on the immediate tasks at hand. What’s the first immediate thing that you have to deal with? Prioritize!

When his wife had a horrific accident at 17, first responders had to prioritize the line of events. First, they had to put out the fire. Then they had to stop the bleeding to get her to safety.

That’s a good lesson for caregivers. Let’s put out the fire. Let’s stop the bleeding, and let’s get to safety. Let’s don’t try to do complicated surgery in the midst of a burning car.

You often don’t realize it when things are coming at you a hundred miles an hour. And sometimes there’s so many of them that you just break down and don’t do anything. It’s important to tackle what’s in front of you but also what’s under your control.

Peter cautions that you have to constantly remind yourself of these lessons and practice them – otherwise you get rusty.

Anticipation Makes Things Worse

Just like worrying about things you can’t control gets you nowhere, you can’t create all these “what if” scenarios and have them floating around your head. Tomorrow’s not here. Anticipation builds-up fear, angst, and anxiety – even before a problem occurs.  

Let’s wait for the issue to unfold before we decide how we’re going to respond. It’s probably not going to be as bad as we think or as good as we hope it will be. It’s going to be what it’s going to be, and we’re in a better situation to respond to it once we face it.

See the Big Picture, Slow Down, and Take a Breath

By looking at the big picture, caregivers can push back against this rush to fix things. Sometimes it’s as simple as taking a breath.

Have you ever received an email that really ticked you off? I did once and made the mistake of responding to it immediately with how I really felt. Boy was that a mistake!

So, I learned to take a proverbial breath. Sometimes I would draft a response email just to blow off steam and never send it. Now, when I read such an email, I would stop to digest it, and come back to it the next day with logic and reason.

Real breathing is important. So, take a breath in for four seconds through your nose. And then breathe outwardly in a controlled breath. It doesn’t cost you anything.

Calm yourself down and think through the issue. Is it something that you have to rush to right this moment? Is it something that you have to torture yourself about? Is this going to matter in 10 years?

Slow your heart rate and slow your mind. The last guy in the room to freak out is usually the leader. A 300-hitter in baseball is a fine player. That’s hitting three out of 10 times and it puts you in the Hall of Fame.

So, we don’t have to get it right every single time. And rest assured, you are in the Caregiver Hall of Fame already!

How about you? Do you employ some of these techniques to stay calm and in control of your caregiving? Let us know.