I am
a writer and I am an extrovert – not the usual trait combination. Most of my
writer friends are introverts. When we go to a gathering of any kind, I look
out into the crowd, think “new friends,” and plunge in with joy and gusto. They
look for a quiet corner and begin to plan their escape.

It
is not that I don’t also enjoy being alone; I do. Every writer needs long
periods of solitude to get the work done, but I savor the energy of a crowd and
come away fueled with ideas to explore during those quiet times.

A Writer’s Confession

So,
while we are advised to practice social distancing, my introverted colleagues
are in their happy place. I am feeling isolated in a not-so-happy way. I miss
being in public places where I can practice a trick every writer uses for
inspiration: eavesdropping!

In
lines, restaurants, grocery stores, on public transportation, well everywhere
really, people talk to one another and say the juiciest things! I always have
my phone and a small notebook with me to either dictate a voice memo or jot
down what I overheard.

Then
I use these as prompts to inspire the muse when stuck or as the basis for the
story triggered in my mind. For example, “As soon as I met his mother, I knew
why he needed fixing.” Plenty to build on there! I miss that inspiration.

Video
chats, Facebook, Netflix, and hugging my dogs helps but after a week of
seclusion I am starting to feel not
myself and my productivity is plummeting. What to do?

Time
for a mindset shift! I realized I need to change the way I perceive this
isolation. So, I did a little self-coaching and came up with these three tips to
shift my thinking.

See the Love

This
isolation is an act of love. All around the world people are staying in their
homes with the sole purpose of stopping the spread of the virus. That is
beautiful! A literal global circle of people united for one purpose.

I am
leaning into the energy of that!

It
is helped by the videos of people singing from their balconies in Italy, the
thunder of clapping at 8 PM in Spain every night to thank and encourage the
health care providers, by the dolphins back in the canals in Venice, by the
pollution reduction in large USA cities, and by the thousands of ways people
are stepping up to make masks, set up phone calls for people living alone, and switching
Tiny Libraries to Tiny Food Banks.

So
much love! I am grateful and inspired. With this shift, my mood lifts and my
creativity surges.

Savor the Silence

I replace
the eavesdropping with attention to silence. I’m turning off the television, the
radio, and the computer, even my play lists. Now, I listen. What I used to
believe was silence, is not. I hear the birds singing outside my window and I am
reminded that spring is here, the time of rebirth and renewal.

I
hear sounds in my home that I do not usually process. I am aware of my furnace
and the reassuring sound of warm air being gently pumped into every room. I
hear one of my dogs whimper softly and look up to see her paws moving. She is dreaming.

Those
soft sounds remind me of her devoted companionship and unconditional love. She
is always at my feet as I write. I hear a truck in my cul-de-sac and know mail
and deliveries are still happening. I am not alone. Living creatures surround
me, and I am safe and warm. My home is my atelier.

Change One Word

This
is one of the simplest mindset strategies yet one of the most powerful. Change
just one word, change have to get. When you make that substitution,
the thought that follows shifts. Here are a few of my changes:

“I have
to stay home because of forced isolation
policies.”

became

“I get
to stay home and help stop the spread of
the virus.”

“I have
to cancel all my outside appointments.”

became

“I get
to reschedule all my outside appointments
and now have huge blocks of time for
my writing.”

“I have
to stop eating out with my friends.”

became

“I get
to order delivery and support my favorite
restaurants.”

We
can’t pretend there is not a worldwide pandemic. We can’t change that our lives
are altered. We can’t deny that it will take time to recover.

But we
can choose how we think about it, how we frame it, what our mindset is. And in
choice there is power. I am choosing to see the love, savor the silence, and
change one word to open the door to the muse, beckon her in, and write.

How
about you? What mindset shifts are you choosing? How do they affect you? Please
share your thoughts with our community.

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Even if the majority of your days are spent working from home, any attempts at relaxation can feel like a side hustle. First, you have to rearrange the space in a way that separates work from play. Next, you have to create a daily schedule that keeps one task from running into the other. And finally (after the many to-dos I probably failed to mention), you have to declutter your mind of whatever is making it difficult to slow down. Thankfully, when all else fails, something as simple as a gang of relaxing bath products (and many, many bubbles) remind us to pencil in some self-care too.

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Bath & Body Works Linen and Lavender Candle

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Lush Twilight Bath Bomb

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L’Occitane Lavender Foaming Bath

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Haven Teak Bathtub Caddy

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Need your book and cellphone nearby? You might as well set it on a conveniently-placed bath tub caddy where you can also hold snacks and a glass of wine.

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This Works Deep Sleep Bath Soak

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This sleep-inducing bath soak is a combo of lavender and chamomile that will leave you so relaxed, you’ll barely want to do your skincare routine after draining the tub.

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Lexon MINO X Floating Bluetooth^® Speaker

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If you need to pump the jams to get into a relaxing mood, this small Bluetooth speaker is waterproof so you can let it float in the water next to you.

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Dr. Teal’s Pure Epsom Salts and Bath Bombs

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Philosophy Fresh Cream Shampoo, Shower Gel & Bubble Bath

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Epica Luxury Spa Bath Pillow

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The Astor Shhhowercap

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SheaMoisture Coconut & Hibiscus Bath Body & Massage Oil

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Leah McSweeney’s Tie Dye Sweatshirt With Tinsley

Real Housewives of New York Season 12 Episode 1 Fashion

Considering Leah McSweeney’s sweatshirt in this flashback scene with Tinsley is by a brand we’ve seen her wear a couple of times already (the first time being at BravoCon), I think it’s safe to say that she definitely has a thing for the edgy-cool label. And after last night’s episode I think it’s safe to say that we definitely have a thing for Leah McSweeney, whose edgy-cool personality and style is totally to dye for.

Fashionably,

Faryn

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