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Close your eyes. I know it may seem a little silly when you’re just starting to read an article, but for a moment, imagine it’s a Tuesday, and you’re 85 years old.

Society often puts older women into stereotypical boxes: frail, dependent, out of touch, irrelevant, and declining.

But what if you were fiercely independent, engaged, still curious, evolving, and living life on your own terms? How would that be different? How would that make you feel?

To ensure your life isn’t one of recliners, pill organizers, and adult children making decisions for you, it’s important to start now. Your future does not arrive by accident. It arrives with habits. The woman you will be at 85 is quietly shaped by what you practice today.

Now I’m not pretending that you’ll be your “same self.” There will be aches and pains, serious setbacks, loss of loved ones, and some roadblocks in doing the things you used to love to do.

Yet women who thrive later in life aren’t the ones who avoid hardship. They’re the ones who learn to adapt and find lessons in adversity. They practice flexibility and don’t cling to others’ opinions or act the way they think they “should.” They learn to reflect, accept, and reframe, with dignity and even with humor. And they never stop being curious.

Begin practicing that now, and your Tuesdays may look very different.

Here are five actions you can start today to help aging be more expansive than debilitating. More lively than lonely. And more meaningful in years to come.

1. Expand Your Mind Now

Stay curious. Curiosity keeps people vibrant, interesting, and moving forward.

Learn something new every day. When you stop learning, you shrink – and so does your brain.

Teach yourself technology rather than avoiding it. Used wisely, it can be a powerful tool for connection and growth, especially for seniors.

Step out of your comfort zone – take a leap: join a class, learn a new language, or try something you’ve always wanted to do but were afraid to try. The important thing is to keep “becoming.”

2. Invest in Two to Three Deep and Meaningful Relationships

Loneliness at 85 rarely happens at 85. It accumulates over time when you quietly withdraw and isolate.

Maintain or build a few steady connections. Real friends and confidants. People you feel safe with who lift you up. Friends who will be there through the good and the bad times and with whom you truly enjoy spending time. Start those friendships now – or work to nourish them – and the rewards will extend far beyond companionship.

We now know that loneliness takes a real toll on both our mental and physical health, while strong social connections are consistently linked to longer, healthier lives.

3. Protect and Increase Your Physical Strength

Move according to your ability – not to look younger but to preserve independence.

Include balance exercises in your daily routine. Falls aren’t random. They’re predictable and often preventable.

Lifting light weights increases bone density, improves balance, and makes everyday tasks such as climbing stairs or carrying groceries easier. It also helps prevent age-related muscle loss.

4. Start Financial Planning Early

Organizing finances in advance reduces stress and provides a clear picture of what you can afford after retirement, helping you maintain quality of life without fear.

Starting early, even in your 50s, allows investments to compound, which strengthens your nest egg.

Early financial planning allows you to budget for or purchase long-term care insurance, which can prevent debilitating out-of-pocket expenses later in life.

Paying off mortgages and reducing debt before retirement ensures you can live comfortably on a fixed income.

5. Develop an Inner Life

Faith, reflection, journaling, therapy, meditation, gratitude, and humor have all been shown to increase happiness in later years. They provide a framework for navigating the physical, emotional, and social changes that come with aging.

None of this is about chasing youth. It’s about continuing to become the woman you want to be – at every age.

So, it’s Tuesday …

Here’s my perfect 85-year-old self on a Tuesday.

I wake up when I want to – because I can.

I stumble out of bed – yes, my arthritic knees make me wobbly.

I eat a healthy breakfast because I’ve learned to love delicious, healthy food.

I take a leisurely walk along the river, come home, jump on the computer – well, maybe not jump – write, read, or do something that expands my mind.

An afternoon nap is possible …without guilt. Then I meet friends for early cocktails or dinner and laugh all night with my favorite people. Maybe a good TV lineup or a movie. Then a luxurious sleep, dreaming of my next vacation.

Let’s Have a Conversation:

It’s Tuesday. You’re 85. Think again about what that means for you. Write it down. Look at it often. What do you want your day to look like? How do you want to feel? Who do you want to become? The future version of you is quietly forming. What choice will you make today?

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If you keep “fighting yourself” around food and exercise, it’s usually not a willpower problem – it’s competing motivations in your brain, and the one with the strongest feeling wins in the moment.

TL;DR (Read This If You’re Standing in the Kitchen)

• You’re not broken. Your brain is doing what brains do: conserve energy and chase comfort.
• The problem isn’t that you don’t know what to do – it’s that you have two (or more) believable thoughts at the same time.
• When you learn to spot the “competing models,” you stop shaming yourself and start making choices that actually stick.
• You don’t need a stricter plan. You need small, repeatable follow-through skills.

If you want a quick “why am I not doing what I know?” check, download my updated 8 Habits That Healthy People Do (and why they don’t stick) Guide + Checklist at the end of this post.

Why You Can Know Better… And Still Do the Opposite (Midlife Edition)

If you’re a smart woman, this is the part that makes you feel extra irritated:

You know walking helps your mood.

You know sugar messes with your energy.

You know strength training matters after 50.

And yet… somehow you’re eating pretzels out of the bag while telling yourself you’ll “start tomorrow,” like tomorrow is a magical land where no one is tired or overstimulated.

Here’s what I see all the time with midlife women: you’re not inconsistent because you’re lazy.

You’re inconsistent because your brain is running two different stories at once – and one of them feels more urgent in your body.

Not more true.

More urgent.

The Simple Framework That Explains Almost Everything

I use a basic coaching tool that looks like this:

Circumstance → Thought → Feeling → Action → Result

The idea is that events (circumstances) are neither good nor bad, but what gives them meaning is our thoughts about them. Those thoughts that we have about things that happen in the world generate emotions (feelings) in our body, which impact the things that we do, or don’t do (actions). And over time, what we do creates the results that we get.

Here’s an example:

• Circumstance: It’s 6:00 a.m. Your alarm goes off.
• Thought A: “This will feel good later.”
• Feeling: Pride / determination.
• Action: Feet on the floor.
• Result: You move your body.

But also…

• Thought B: “I am too tired for this.”
• Feeling: Heavy / resentful / “leave me alone.”
• Action: Snooze.
• Result: You stay in bed.

Same morning. Same alarm. Different thought. Different feeling. Different outcome.

And here’s the key:

The thought that produces the strongest feeling wins.

If you feel like you’re fighting yourself, it’s not proof you’re weak. It’s proof you have competing thoughts – and the one that carries the strongest emotion will win in that moment.

Competing Models: The Real Reason Willpower Keeps Letting You Down

Most women try to solve this by arguing with themselves.

“Come on. You KNOW better.”

“Just do it.”

“Why can’t you be normal?”

That’s like trying to win a debate with someone who has snacks and a weighted blanket.

Your brain is not impressed by your logic when you’re tired and depleted.

It’s impressed by:

• comfort
• relief
• quiet
• pleasure
• “I just want to be done for the day”

If you’ve ever thought, “Why did I do that?” after eating past comfortable or skipping movement… the answer is usually:

Because there was an upside.

Cookies taste good.

Staying on the couch is easy.

Scrolling turns your brain off for a minute.

That doesn’t make it your best choice. But it does make it understandable.

This is exactly why I revamped my 8 Habits guide – it doesn’t just tell you what to do. It helps you figure out what’s getting in the way so you can stop recycling the same shame.

Most women don’t need more information about health. They need a way to follow through when they’re tired, overstimulated, and done with everyone – because that’s when real life happens.

The “Radical Honesty” Move That Makes Change Easier

Here’s a little rule I live by:

If a behavior didn’t work for you in some way, you wouldn’t keep doing it.

So instead of:

“I don’t know what’s wrong with me.”

Try:

“What is this doing for me right now?”

Not as self-therapy. As data.

Because the minute you admit, “This snack is giving me relief,” you stop treating yourself like a malfunctioning appliance and start asking better questions, like:

• “What else would give me relief that doesn’t leave me feeling gross?”
• “Is this hunger… or is this ‘I’m done with everyone’?”
• “Do I need food, or do I need five minutes alone in my room like a teenager?”

Radical honesty is not self-criticism. It’s saying, “This behavior has an upside,” so you can stop making it personal and start making it workable.

A practical checklist: triggers → swaps → simple scripts

Use this like a menu. Pick one.

If you want help pinpointing your biggest “competing models,” the updated 8 Habits guide + checklist is the fastest way to spot your pattern without overthinking it.

Your 3-Step Plan (Micro-Actions for Today / This Week / Next Week)

Step 1: Today (5 Minutes) – Name the Competing Thoughts.

Pick one sticky moment (evening snacking, skipping workouts, sugar at 3 p.m.).

Write two sentences:

• Thought that supports the habit: “I’ll feel better if I…”
• Thought that pulls you off track: “I don’t want to because…”

That’s it. No fixing yet. Just clarity.

Step 2: This Week (10 Minutes Total, Spread Out) – Add One “Pause Point”

Choose ONE place to insert a tiny speed bump:

• before seconds
• before the first bite of a treat
• before you open the pantry at night
• before you decide “I’ll start Monday”

Your pause can be as simple as: hand on chest + one breath.

Step 3: Next Week (15 Minutes) – Pre-Decide Your Easiest Version

Not your best version. Your easiest.

Examples:

• “My workout is putting on shoes and walking to the end of the block.”
• “My dinner is protein + produce, even if it’s rotisserie chicken and bagged salad.”
• “My treat is one satisfying portion, not five ‘healthy’ substitutes that don’t hit.”

This is how habits stick: not through intensity – through repeatability.

You don’t need the perfect plan. You need an “easiest version” you can repeat on normal days – especially the messy ones – so your brain learns, ‘Oh, we do this now.’

Make It Concrete: Turning Vague Advice into Something You Can Actually Use

Abstract: “Be more consistent with exercise.”

Concrete: “After I pour my morning coffee, I walk for 10 minutes – before I check my phone.”

Abstract: “Practice moderation with sweets.”

Concrete: “I put dessert on a plate, sit down, and eat it like it matters – no standing at the counter.”

Abstract: “Manage stress better.”

Concrete: “When I feel that chest-tight ‘I can’t handle one more thing’ feeling, I step outside for 90 seconds and breathe before I reach for food.”

Why it matters: your brain doesn’t follow slogans. It follows clear, specific instructions in real situations.

A pause point doesn’t have to be dramatic. One breath before seconds, one question before snacking, one tiny choice that gives you your agency back.

Download the free guide + checklist

If this post hit a nerve in the best way – and you want to stop doing the “I know what to do… why am I not doing it?” loop – download my updated 8 Habits That Healthy People Do (and why they don’t stick) Guide + Checklist.

It’s not a list of tips you already know. It’s a clarity tool that helps you spot why your follow-through breaks down – and what to do about it next.

Let’s Chat:

When do you reach out for food? Do you eat with intention? Move with intention? Do you create complicated rituals or do you try easy habits that could actually stick?