At 58 years of age, I confess that my
career and business activities have been my major focus as I’ve worked
alongside my husband to do my part to support the family, enjoy today, and save
About a year ago, while eating
breakfast on a cold and rainy day during what was supposed to be a
sunshine-filled vacation, my husband asked me a confronting question.
What Would I Do with My Time If Work Wasn’t Such a Big
Focus in My Life?
It’s one thing to know how much money you need to fund an abundant retirement.
That’s a question we’ve considered
carefully since he works as a CERTIFIED FINANCIAL PLANNER Professional. Doing
the right thing by our money has always been a core value.
It’s another thing to know what you
will do with your time when work isn’t your primary activity. That
single question started me on a path to add new roles to my life for which I
had not previously made time.
It’s a question you may want to ponder
at least five years before retirement catches you by surprise.
Think back to all the invitations
you’ve received to serve on non-profit boards, neighborhood associations, and
other worthy causes.
Were you always too busy to say yes? Could
now be a time to reconsider taking on one or more of those roles?
Is there a skill, talent, or passion
you’ve put on the shelf for years that you’d like to revisit like an old
friend? Could now be the time to dust off the sheet music for the piano, learn
to swim, or join a local theater company to reignite your passion for
Is now the time to start teaching at
the local community college or university to mentor young people who can
benefit from your wisdom and professional experience?
Have you always felt too rushed to
meet with friends for coffee, walk the dogs in the neighborhood, or participate
in the local book club? Could now be the time to nurture those relationships
that can serve as a treasured circle of support in this new stage in your life?
These are all questions I’ve asked and
started to answer for myself, especially since my husband is nine years older
than me. He’s likely to retire before I do. Figuring out how to navigate that
as a couple is something we talk about more and more.
It Takes Courage to Step out of the Busy Zone
It’s not easy to be deliberate about
creating a richer, more fulfilling life that gives your commitment to the world
of work a more balanced role in the grand scheme of things.
Since pondering these questions, I
have taken on a board position for my neighborhood association, joined a local
Toastmasters group to refine and enhance my speaking and leadership skills, and
devoted more of my time to give back to worthy causes that speak to my heart.
These are roles I can play for as long
as I find them fulfilling, regardless of the role work plays in my life.
As I review my social media profiles every
day, I learn about the health challenges, career upsets, and other life
accidents that continue to visit the lives of the people in my extended circle
of family and friends.
Now more than ever, I am present to
the fact that life is what happens while we are
making other plans.
Waiting Longer to Work the Bucket List Doesn’t Feel Right
Do I still work hard as I run my
business and aim high to do great things with it?
I’m also very mindful that work is
just one role that I play and not the only one. What we do with our time, where
we live, and who we spend time with determine how happy we are – whether we’re
retired or not.
The intersection of those things is
where the seeds to lasting happiness take root to grow. Now is the time to tend
to that garden.
One way to do that is to divide time
into three buckets:
- Fun – These are activities that bring joy
for no other reason than we enjoy taking part.
- Useful – These are tasks that need to be
done to keep the house working, groceries in the fridge, laundry done, etc.
– These are activities
we engage in that make the world a better place.
After all, there is only so much golf,
tennis, working out, etc. a person can do.
Research shows that spending seven
hours a week doing something important is a key to retirement fulfillment. It
brings purpose. Spending more than seven hours a week doing something important
makes it a job.
Consider how you would divide your
time if work wasn’t such a big focus in your life.
Answering that question caused me to start
paving a path to a purposeful, satisfying life of community, caring, and
connection that will likely sustain and comfort me for many years to come,
whether I work or not.
What would you do with your time if
work wasn’t such a high priority? Please join the conversation and get inspired
to take steps to get started today.