Even though clumpy, overdone lashes are definitely a trend in the beauty world right now, not everyone wants a piece of that particular action—sometimes you just want perfectly long, dark, voluminous lashes sans spider leg action. And that’s where we come in: no matter what type of eyelashes you have or what you’re looking for in a product, we’ve got a brilliant, non-clumping mascara for you. These are the very best mascaras that don’t clump—prepare to find your future favorite.

Choose Marc Jacobs Beauty‘s new mascara for long lashes without the heaviness, Clé de Peau Beauté’s for a truly waterproof formula or Buxom’s for all the curl. CoverGirl‘s Crump Crusher mascara is one of the best drugstore choices out there and does exactly what the name promises. If you’re looking for a more natural vibe, like your own lashes but darker and longer, try Glossier’s Lash Slick. It’s water-resistant but comes off with any cleanser.

Shop some of our favorite non-clumping mascaras, below. And remember, the key to no clumps is in how you apply it. As you layer, don’t wait for the formula to dry in between. Just keep swiping until you see the desired length and volume.

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Marc Jacobs Beauty At Lash’d Lengthening and Curling Mascara

If the brand’s iconic Velvet Noir Major Volume Mascara is too clumpy for your liking, this new lengthening mascara will be right up your alley. Biotin peptides condition so lashes feel lightweight.

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CoverGirl LashBlast Clump Crusher

The curved, plastic brush with angled teeth really helps get every single lash covered in mascara, even those difficult little corner ones. But the best part about this mascara is the formula; it’s truly smudge-resistant and builds beautifully without ever giving you that spider-leg look.

Photo: Buxom

Buxom Sculpted Lash Mascara

This mascara has an S-shaped brush and a formula that actually delivers on the promise of curlier lashes. The polymer-rich formula lifts lashes at the root, then coats them in thin, blacker-than-black mascara.

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M.A.C. Haute & Naughty Lash

The big, fluffy brush probably clues you into the fact that this mascara is going to build mega volume, but until you try it, you really have no idea how big and thick your eyelashes can actually be. A single coat of this mascara is like applying three coats of anything else, and unlike many other volumizing mascaras we’ve tried, this doesn’t dry out your lashes.

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Clé de Peau Beauté Perfect Lash Mascara

If you need something truly waterproof that doesn’t even think about clumping up on you, Perfect Lash is it. The incredibly rich-but-not-clumpy formula holds on with everything you have.

Image: Benefit.

Benefit BADgal BANG! Volumizing Mascara

This smudge-proof, water-resistant and volumizing mascara makes lashes look ultra-long without the clumps. Plus, it lasts up to 36 hours without flaking.

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Glossier Lash Slick

For natural-looking length, Glossier’s Lash Slick is your jam. Tiny fibers coat lashes from root to tip, while film-forming polymers lift and lock each fiber into place—without clumps.

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Braunwyn Windham-Burke’s red snake print bikini was hard to hunt down for two reasons. One reason was that I must not know my colors very well because initially I thought it was pink. The other reason is that it’s actually reversible!

It has a cute and colorful striped back (see cute hubby pic below) so when I first saw the top I thought I was crazy because it was the same, but different! It had a striped front and a pink red snake print back. I’m still crazy, but now just for this bikini because it’s like a two for one. So get them it while you can because they are still fully stocked and ready to be rocked!

Sincerely Stylish,

Jess

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Just before lockdown, I ran into a student whom I’d worked with a year ago. She was in the office of a local university where I coach PhD students on how to write their dissertations. She was there to pick up her diploma.

When I first met this woman, she’d been trying to write her thesis on and off for a decade. Her original academic advisors had long ago left the building. She was on her own now, with a newly assigned advisor, who wasn’t even in her field, and struggling with debt, deadlines, and concomitant mental health issues.

“Working with you was transformative,” she told me when we met. “You were the first person to talk to me about my work for more than 15 minutes in 10 years.” She was beaming. The slouching person near tears I’d worked with a year earlier had morphed into a confident and accomplished vision of health.

Coaching as Empowerment

I’ve written before about why I enjoy being a writing coach. Unlike editing, where you basically fix a person’s writing, coaching is about cultivating that ability in the writers themselves.

This support can take all kinds of different forms. One client I worked with was an undiagnosed dyslexic. We spent six weeks going over the basic rules of grammar, devoting one entire session to the comma.

Another client wanted help crafting essays for his business school applications. The schools wanted him to tell stories about himself, but he’d never written in the first person before and felt uncomfortable.

Most of the people I coach are at some stage of writing their doctoral dissertations. With them, it might be about helping them re-think their introductions so that these provide a roadmap for the entire paper. Or showing them how to construct a literature review that won’t bore the reader.

Most of the time, it’s simply about asking them a series of questions to help them articulate their core argument in one sentence and explain why it matters.

As a coach working with someone over time, you don’t just help the person with their writing. You help them to feel confident about doing all these things on their own.

Coaching During Lockdown: The Power of Connection

Lockdown has intensified my relationship with the people I coach, especially the students. Writing a PhD can be a very lonely process. Most of the time, you’re holed up in a library, poring over a bunch of obscure texts and trying to make sense of them.

Occasionally, you go visit your advisor for feedback, and their job is to make you feel even worse about your writing.

But during lockdown, students are stuck in their bedrooms. They can’t derive comfort from an impending coffee break with their friends or from the shared struggle of looking up and seeing a hundred other people tapping on their keyboards in a library. Worse, most of the feedback from their advisors now arrives via email.

So when I talk to them, it often feels like I’m the first human being they’ve spoken to in ages. This connection is good for them. But it’s also good for me.

I’m finding that one of the silver linings of lockdown is how much I’m enjoying my daily, face-to-face connection with students. It’s become a high point in my day.

Giving Back as We Age: Wisdom and Crystallized Intelligence

I wonder sometimes if I would enjoy my coaching work as much if I were younger. I doubt it. A recent episode of Adam Grant’s fantastic Work Life podcast probed the difference between “fluid intelligence” and “crystallized intelligence.“

The former refers to the ability to solve problems in novel situations and tends to peak when you’re young. The latter, which emerges when you’re older, is the ability to use knowledge acquired through experience.

I think the reason I’m enjoying coaching so much right now is that it affords me this ability to transfer the knowledge about writing that I’ve acquired through 30 plus years of experience.

As someone who’s spent a fair bit of her life in a classroom, the rush is no longer so much about how I come across to the students or how I perform. It’s increasingly about what they take away from our interactions.

Research suggests that the difference between older and younger managers is that whereas younger managers are all about self-advancement, older workers are much more other-directed. They are more collaborative, more empathetic, and more inclusive. They listen better and delegate more.

I think this is what Robert Rauch calls wisdom in his book The Happiness Curve: Why Life Gets Better After Midlife. Wisdom is not only, or even primarily, about knowledge and expertise. It’s about cultivating a greater ability to focus away from ourselves and towards our community.

What is your experience with coaches, councilors, and advisors? In which stage of your life did you need them? What did you learn from them? If you are a coach, at what point in your life did you enjoy your work the most? Please share your thoughts with the community!

We’re used to seeing Cardi B totally glam wearing all different colors of wigs in various lengths and textures. Lately, she loves ultra-straight styles all the way down to her waist. But that’s not the hair that’s making headlines today. It’s actually Cardi B’s hair mask for natural hair that has everyone talking. The rapper showed off her texture on Instagram while showing us how she makes a DIY hair mask for healthy strands for both herself and her daughter.

“So this is really how my hair is. My hair gets like this when you blow dry it and two days later it just gets puff up like this,” Cardi says on Instagram stories. “This is my hair texture. It’s not curly. My daughter’s hair is curly…but my shit just don’t get curly at all. It’s straight like this but I still needed moisture. This is a good hair mask to help your hair grow. All the good things you put in your body, you’re going to put in your hair.”

Source: Instagram

She then proceeds to make a mask for her and Kulture out of avocado, castor oil, olive oil, eggs, honey and a banana. She puts it all into the blender so there are no “avocado chunks” in your hair. She applies it to her and her daughter’s hair.

Image: Instagram.

The results are seriously impressive. Look at that shine! All the dryness and frizz are gone. And this is just one treatment.

Source: Instagram

It looks like Cardi is going to be the next big beauty blogger. We’ll be watching.

I am known for exposing the “elephant in the living room.” Those things everybody knows but nobody is talking about. Not every mother-daughter relationship reads like a Hallmark card, and our culture makes that a shameful secret to bear.

Dr. Christiane Northrup suggested that the bonding hormones that flood a mother’s blood stream at childbirth stay with women for about 28 years.

It is no accident, then, that the first round of truly adult separation (not teenage rebellion) begins to rear its head somewhere around 30 for women and the menopause years for their mothers. For the first time, the veil begins to lift and we see each other for the women we have become.

When it Comes to Your Adult Children, What is Normal?

Some estimate that 96% of American Families are dysfunctional in some way – making it the norm. But “normal” is not necessarily healthy, and it certainly falls short of the abundant life we’ve been promised.

Women are held responsible for the relational health of the world – at work, at home, family health and wellbeing, the sexuality, the promiscuity, the cause, the cure and the results. When a true perpetrator arises in a family, the mother protects ala Mama Bear. If she doesn’t die trying, she can later become a target.

Mom is apparently the one who knew (or should have known) what was happening at every moment of every day to their children – physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually. After all, moms have eyes in the backs of their heads and are equipped with the unusual ability to read minds, right?

What is Healthy When it Comes to Adult Children?

M. Scott Peck wrote, “Mental health is an ongoing process of dedication to reality at all costs.” The pinch point for grandmothers is that any loss of relationship with our adult children means strained relations – if not severed ties – with the grandchildren who now light up our lives.

I am a mother of three and grandmother to 11. I stayed with their father for more than 20 years believing that somehow I could make him feel loved enough to change.

Over time, each of my children has drawn close to me for healing, and pulled away for the same reason. I am, after all, the one they hold responsible for the shifting emotional sand in their psyche.

Ten years ago, I remarried a man whose children were also grown. We imagined that would alleviate the adjustments of step-families. In some ways, not having children in the home made it easier to forge our identity as a married couple.

Although we shared values, we didn’t share history with each others’ children. We each brought our traditions and expectations to bear. When I recently chose to divorce this man who had played “grandpa” to my children’s children, old wounds surfaced.

Had I known that to leave him meant I would lose my only local family, I probably would have stayed for the sake of the grandchildren. It’s that old programming baby boomer women still struggle with.

If something isn’t working, you try harder. Marital problems? Pray more, love more, give more, be patient, and wait it out. Suck it up, stuff it down, be quiet and don’t make waves.

What is Real?

I have identified four distinct stages in the journey to wholeness.

Desperate

Our lives become (or continue to be) a carefully constructed illusion based on how it looks, what people will think, and what we imagine will get us the love and security we so desperately crave.

This is why grandmothers continue to “make peace at all costs” rather than saying what they see, need and want. Some have called it the disease to please.

Distant

Pretending that everything is okay when in our hearts we know that is not true can only go so far. We go along to get along. We smile in public and cry in private. We live a lie, and it eats at our souls every day.

Women think if we ignore it, maybe it will go away or time will heal all wounds. The thing is, time doesn’t heal buried pain. It has to be unearthed and acknowledged before it will pass away. Pain that gets buried alive poisons the rest of our lives.

Divorce

Divorce is a harsh word when applied to our mother-child relationships, isn’t it? But it happens whether we acknowledge it or not. Divorce occurs when all communication has broken down and attempts at reconciliation fail.

It is the most painful dark night of the soul. With divorce comes all the drama of severed relationships, he-said she-said finger pointing, and drama triangles where people talk about each other, but never directly to one another so healing could occur. We might as well lawyer up and some do. It’s called Grandparent Rights.

Done

Last is the place of acceptance. There is no anger, no angst, no more bargaining. It is where we accept what life is handing out right now and the fighting is done.

You have decided what you do and do not want, what you will and will not stand for, and are making decisions to move forward with or without the resolution you may have hoped for. You are free to stay or go because you have become dedicated to reality at all costs.

What’s Next for You and Your Adult Children?

Do I wish I had capacity back then to do some things differently? Definitely. Do I regret what I allowed my children to endure because of the choices I made? Mm-hmm.

Is there anything I can do now to go back and change it? Not a damn thing. Does it serve anyone for me to live in remorse and regret? Nope. Not now, not ever. Never.

Nobody had a perfect childhood – at least nobody in my generational gene pool. We all did the best we could with what we had to work with at the time. That is as true today as it was generations ago.

The biggest healer for women in daughter divorces is to break the shame by breaking the silence. Let’s talk about what’s real and how to help live dreams without drama in our later years.

Where do you find yourself in the process of letting your adult children go? Where are you on the journey to finding yourself in your sixties? Please share your thoughts below!