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Heather Dubrow’s Season 19 Reunion Look

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Emily Simpson’s Season 19 Reunion Look

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Gina Kirschenheiter’s Season 19 Reunion Look

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They don’t prepare you for this part of parenting in any baby book. Nobody tells you that decades after you’ve stopped cutting grapes into quarters and checking for fevers, you might face the hardest parenting decision of your life.

I was in my 60s when my phone rang with my daughter calling from county jail. In my wisdom years – when I should have had this parenting thing figured out. In my 60s, when I’d already survived the terrible twos, turbulent teens, and terrifying 20s.

But here’s what I’d learned: Sometimes wisdom looks like doing absolutely nothing.

The Pattern I Couldn’t See

For years, I’d been caught in what therapists call “enabling.” I prefer to call it “loving my daughter to death.” Every time she stumbled, I caught her. Every time she fell, I built a safety net. Lost her apartment? Move back home. Lost her job? I’d make some calls. Lost her way? I’d find it for her.

I thought I was being a good mother. I was actually being a barrier between my daughter and her own life.

I’d spent the last several years in a constant state of anxiety. Would she be okay? Would this be the crisis I couldn’t fix? I was pouring from an empty cup, and we were both drowning.

The 2 AM Choice

When she called from jail, my first instinct was pure mama bear. I was already mentally calculating bail money, rehearsing what I’d say to the judge, planning how I’d get her back on track – again.

But then something different happened. Maybe it was exhaustion. Maybe it was the clarity that sometimes comes at 2 a.m. Maybe it was grace. But I paused.

In that pause, I saw our future if I kept rescuing her: more crises, more calls, more years of both of us locked in this painful dance. I saw that my “love” was actually destroying her chance to grow up and my chance to have a life of my own.

So, I said the words that tore my heart out: “I love you. But I’m not coming.”

What the Pause Technique Taught Me

That night marked my introduction to what I now call The Pause Technique. It’s not about being cruel or punishing our adult children. It’s about creating space between their crisis and our response – space for them to grow and for us to breathe.

Here’s what the pause gave us:

• For her: The opportunity to face consequences without my buffer. To call a public defender instead of Mom. To reach out to the recovery community she’d been ignoring. To discover she was stronger than she knew.
• For me: The chance to remember I’m not just her mother – I’m Christine. I have dreams, friends, a life I’d put on hold for years of crisis management. I learned that loving her didn’t mean destroying myself.
• For us: A relationship based on reality instead of rescue. Today, we talk as adults. She’s proud of what she’s built, and I’m proud of her – not despite the struggle, but because of what she did with it.

The Pause at Our Age

There’s something particularly difficult about practicing tough love in our 60s. We’re acutely aware that time is precious. We wonder: What if this is the last chance? What if something happens and I wasn’t there?

But here’s the truth I learned: Being there doesn’t mean doing everything. Being there can mean stepping back so they can step forward.

At our age, we’ve earned the wisdom to know that some lessons can only be learned the hard way. We’ve lived long enough to see that character is built in struggle, not cushioned in comfort.

How to Start Your Own Pause Practice

If you’re caught in the rescue cycle with an adult child, try this:

• Recognize the pattern. Write down the last five “emergencies” you solved. Do you see a theme?
• Calculate the cost. What is constant rescuing costing you – financially, emotionally, physically?
• Start small. You don’t have to start with jail. Practice pausing before you respond to smaller requests.
• Build your support. Find other parents who understand. You need people who will hold you accountable to the pause when everything in you screams to rescue.
• Remember this: You can love them fiercely and let them struggle. These aren’t opposites – they’re partners.

The Life After the Pause

It’s been years since that phone call. My daughter is 36 now, living in her own apartment, working a job she’s proud of, building a life on a foundation she laid herself.

And me? Late in my 60s, I’m finally living my own life. I work. I travel. I write. I have energy for my friends, my interests, my own dreams. I’m not waiting for the next crisis call.

Our relationship is built on truth instead of rescue. She knows I love her. But she also knows I trust her to handle her own life.

The pause broke both our hearts. But sometimes things need to break before they can heal properly.

If you want to dig deeper into the rescue-and-regret cycle and how to get out, please look into my program, The Marriage and Motherhood Survival Method.

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Have you struggled with letting an adult child face consequences? You’re not alone, and it’s never too late to change the pattern. Have you been able to practice the Pause?

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Arthur C. Brooks’ From Strength to Strength: Finding Success, Happiness, and Deep Purpose in the Second Half of Life is a compelling guide for navigating the challenges and transitions of life as we age. Drawing upon a rich tapestry of personal stories, psychological insights, and actionable wisdom, Brooks crafts a narrative that resonates with anyone grappling with the idea of aging, purpose, and fulfilment.

Two Types of Intelligence

Brooks describes the concept of two types of intelligence:

• Fluid intelligence – which peaks in early adulthood and refers to the ability to solve new problems quickly and think abstractly, and
• Crystallized intelligence – which grows and deepens over time as one gains knowledge and experiences.

He argues that recognizing the shift from fluid to crystallized intelligence can empower individuals in their later years to find new avenues for success and happiness.

He’s Not Afraid to Get Personal

Brooks skilfully blends personal anecdotes with research and philosophical insights. And I appreciated his humility; he openly shares his own fears and realizations as he navigates the complexities of his own aging process. By doing so, he invites readers to reflect openly on their lives, encouraging a mindset – that I believe is vital – which embraces change rather than resists it.

Redefining Success Is Vital

The practical advice in the book is grounded in Brooks’ rigorous understanding of psychology and human behavior. He emphasizes the importance of redefining success in meaningful terms—shifting the focus from personal achievement and recognition to leadership, mentorship, and legacy.

This reframing allows readers to explore how they can contribute to the lives of others, fostering a sense of purpose that transcends conventional markers of success. This importance of finding purpose as we age, was highlighted in my previous article on SuperAgers.

Brooks gently addresses the emotional and psychological hurdles that often accompany life transitions, such as loss of identity or purpose. His strategies for cultivating resilience and well-being, two vital aspects of living well as we age, are both accessible and actionable, making the book not just a theoretical exploration but a practical toolkit for navigating the second act of life.

A Lot Hangs on Relationships

From Strength to Strength also touches on the importance of relationships and community in fostering happiness as one ages, another very important aspect of SuperAgers! Brooks provides a gentle reminder that connection is paramount, and he offers insights on how to nurture relationships that can bolster one’s sense of belonging and joy.

The Key Is Acceptance

Brooks’ From Strength to Strength is a thought-provoking and uplifting read that ultimately encourages a graceful acceptance of life’s inevitable changes. It serves as a powerful reminder that each stage of life offers unique opportunities for growth, impact, and connection.

This book is a must-read for anyone facing the realities of aging or seeking a deeper understanding of what it means to live a fulfilled life, regardless of age. With its blend of wisdom, research, and heartfelt encouragement, this book is indeed a guide for realizing the goal of a life well-lived.

If you are interested in articles about staying vibrant and embracing change as you age, you can find more on my Website or my Substack Page. I love hearing from people, so please let me know your thoughts about this book or any other subject that came up as you read this review.

Let’s Have a Conversation:

Have you read From Strength to Strength? What were your thoughts about the book? What do you think of the idea of ‘Fluid Intelligence’ versus ‘Crystallized Intelligence’? Does that ring true to you? Do you believe that we have to embrace change rather than resist it as we age? Why or Why Not?