Hailey Bieber is back to work. The model is working on either a new project or maybe photos for one of her spokesmodel jobs, such as Bareminerals. Bieber is looking gorge with her new highlights and soft glam makeup. At least, it looks like she’s sporting new color. The superstar used to have blonde highlights right up to the roots but this new look has a seamless root melt that looks lived-in and natural.

We reached out to her colorist Cassondra Kaeding for details but in the meantime, here’s the 411 on root melting. It differs from a root shadow in that unlike just blurring the area at the roots where the highlight and natural color meet, there’s even more of a root-y look with no line of demarcation. It’s like grown-out highlights but the colors melt into each other in a really pretty way. It looks like Bieber has a few highlights that go to the roots around the front to brighten up her face.

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Because it takes a team to look this good, Priscilla Valles added extensions and Amanda Lee Hair was responsible for the styling.

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And if you’re someone whose eyes go right to the makeup instead of the hair, we have a few details for you. Because you might want to recreate this soft brown vibe at home. Makeup artist Adam Burrell revealed he used Precision Brow Gel in Glimpse ($25.91 at Illamasqua) for her wings (yes, brow gel!) and Charlotte Tilbury K.I.S.S.I.N.G Lipstick in Yes Honey ($34 at Sephora) on the lips. (The color used to be called Hepburn Honey.)

The rest? Well, that’s genetics.

I wish we had a different word to use here in the United States for our “status” after we lose a spouse other than the word “widow.” It’s the only box you can check on forms you need to fill out afterwards at the bank, doctor’s office, dentist, etc.

What I have learned in the past 20 years of helping women take care of all the paperwork that comes after a loss is that checking that “widow” box is especially painful for a variety of very understandable reasons.

It Implies Finality

One reason is that marking a box on a form identifying yourself as a “widow” makes it official with a new label. It’s not a label you ever aspired to, wished for, or likely thought much about. But now here it is, on what feels like almost every form you have to sign for a while, reminding you again and again.

You think of your important roles in life being a woman, mother, daughter, sister/sister-in-law, friend, grandmother, aunt, niece, cousin, spouse, or profession/job. Widow was never on your list. With or without any warning, that word changes your life permanently.

Uncomfortable for All

Another reason is that the idea of being a widow is not only uncomfortable for the survivor, but also for the friends and family who aren’t sure what to say. The death of a loved one is a life-altering experience.

Unless you’ve “been there and done that” yourself, it is impossible to comprehend what it feels like. So, what should you say to a widow?

Finding the Right Words

To find some answers, I visited with Charlotte Fox, local author here in Arizona. She wrote And Then There Was One, a comprehensive workbook guide for end-of-life preparedness and transitioning after the loss of a loved one.

Her personal experience with widowhood guides her to advise that women want to hear those cute and funny stories about their lost loved one from childhood and workplaces. It’s comforting to hear good memories coming from those who cared about and miss your loved one too. It helps you connect with the person who experienced the loss and know what to say in an uncomfortable situation.

I Wish I Would Have

Particularly with unexpected loss, it’s not uncommon for a widow to have thoughts like “I wish I would have… known more about the finances, asked about his wishes, understood where to find information, or made sure our estate planning documents were up-to-date.”

One woman I know reminisces the opposite way every time I see her, about how grateful she is that they did get all of their documents in order and titles/beneficiaries updated before her husband passed. She had seen many friends go through much stress after losing their husbands, but hers was a clear and smooth process.

Moving Forward

You can’t look back and beat yourself up. You can only look forward and maybe encourage others to avoid some of what you may have gone through. A loss often forces you to think about your own mortality and how you want things to go for your family when you’re gone too.

There are many resources to help families, including Executor, which I learned about the other day. They are a free service to help guide executors through the process after the loss of a loved one. For now, organizing your records by using a checklist, to work on one item at a time, can help you make progress. Anything you get in order for your family now is better than it was before!

Women Are Resilient

One last thing I have learned about the word widow is that women who have experienced that label in life are resilient and wonderful. They often bond together in support of each other. I love the word the international group, the Modern Widows Club, uses. They call themselves “wisters” (widowed sisters).

I spoke at a Widow Retreat in a lovely, large church in California and applauded how they came up with a positive acronym for the word Widow: Warmly Invited to Discover Our Walk with Him. The day focused on discovering your new walk forward in life.

You Must Be Prepared

It’s statistically likely that most of us will experience widowhood ourselves someday. Women outlive men in every country in the world. In the United States, the statistic is that 90% of all women will eventually be solely in charge of their household finances.

We don’t need to dwell on it but be aware of what comes with the word widow and control what you can by being financially organized.

Regardless of how we view the word widow, more than likely we will be or know someone who is affected by widowhood. So, let’s do what we can to support each other and be prepared going forward.

What have you learned about the word widow? What advice can you share? Let’s help our community with a discussion.

I was single for 10 years after my divorce. During that time, I engaged in a lot of online dating. Many dates were what I called “one and done.”

It wasn’t that I couldn’t relate to the male ego as a strong independent woman who made a very nice income. In my case, my unsuccessful dating was for other reasons. Sometimes we just didn’t click.

A few times on my path, I actually dated for longer periods of time with men who loved controlling me. That was my issue, and I needed to overcome it. Even though I was strong and independent, in relationships I kept falling into an old familiar trap of being dominated, controlled, belittled, or used.

As I learned more about my own specific relationship trap, I found that a man’s money or power just didn’t interest me anymore (wake up Linda, you have your own!).

Of course, all men who are powerful aren’t controlling, but that’s who I attracted for a time. Through much work on myself, I started to attract kinder men, and was married at age 60, to a wonderful man who I adore. The work had to begin with me.

Consider these tips for dating and love.

It Starts with Being Comfortable with Your Own Worth

I’m not speaking monetary worth, but self-worth. For years, I looked to a relationship to complete me. I needed to learn the hard way that I was already complete. This totally changed the way I viewed dating and relationships.

I could be genuine and non-confrontational in dating interactions. It wasn’t a competition! Being me, who I had become through the many challenges of life, was attractive and sexy!

I didn’t view dating as competing for which of us was the stronger or more accomplished. Dating was much more relaxed. If the date needed to tell me all his wonderful accomplishments in the first few minutes, I viewed it as perhaps he had low self-esteem, or it could be he was just plain nervous.

I stopped feeling I needed to inform him of all my accomplishments so he would know I was a good catch, or that I too had done some great things. Instead, I would shift the conversation to something less work oriented, to find out what made him tick.

It was his ‘outside of work’ stuff I was interested in. Through this I would learn if we were a match that sparked my interest.

Men Think Way Differently Than Women

No kidding! If you ask a woman how men think (even a female relationship coach) you may never figure it out! There are men who have taken on the challenge of being a relationship coach or mentor to men or women. Ask them!

Adam LoDolce, the founder of Love Strategies (who states he is a fan of confident women), has some great articles and a clear focus on the topic.

Remember that male and female communication is something we work on all our lives! Figuring out how your date thinks is as individual as they are!

Take a Genuine Approach

Rather than try to change the way you ask for help, just to bolster the male ego, how about a genuine approach? Simply ask for help. If there’s something you could use a man’s help on, you are not devaluing yourself to ask.

The question doesn’t need to be phrased in any certain way, it’s just a question. You are still strong, independent, and can figure most stuff out, yet it’s OK to ask if you need some help.

Please STOP thinking of this as a tactic or ploy to keep them feeling manly and therefore all built up and happy around you. That feels so insincere and fake to me. If you’re doing that, I think a smart man would pick up on it, right? It’s just how things go. At times, we need other people’s help.

A Small Shift in Thinking Helps

Sometimes when a man sees something you need, opens the door for you, or wants to lend a hand if the sidewalk is icy, it could be because he is viewing you as valuable. Consider for a moment it’s not that he needs to be your hero, but instead is genuinely being himself. Could it be he is being kind?

To put it plain and simple, you are worth kindness. Just let this subtle shift in thinking help you accept when a man is being a gentleman.

If his acts of kindness go overboard and indicate he thinks you’re a princess that can’t take care of herself, then a discussion needs to happen regarding boundaries and your preferences in situations.

Receive Strong Professional Help from a Coach

Many professional women (as well as those who are now retired, or non-professional, widowed, single women) truly want someone to share life together. It is very discouraging that the area of finding real love, a genuine caring person, and someone to date seems to be beyond grasp.

It’s easier and yet so incredibly painful to sign off love and give up. This is where a dating coach can be extremely helpful.

I know of a very professional and successful woman who continues to see a man she is not in love with. He is very much in love with her and wants to marry her. She continues to date him, due to loneliness and being unsuccessful in attracting anyone else, yet she is unhappy.

Perhaps it’s time to get some help. Date Like a Grown Up by Bobbi Palmer is a site to check out. On the home page, she says, “You are not too old, and it’s not too late….” Bobbie is just one of many life coaches who have dedicated their work to helping women who sincerely want love.

Why not check out this site or others for inspiration? Many have great blogs or written articles, where you can figure out if you like their style before committing to coaching.

Relax a Little

Strong women are used to working hard, being on time, leading meetings, being in control and forceful. On a date, we feel we need to open our own door, pay for the meal, and let them know we don’t need them. Learn to drop some of that and relax in relationships.

On a date, we aren’t trying to achieve or be validated like it is at work. Approach men in a relaxed way where their validation of us is not really needed for happiness. We already value and appreciate ourselves.

Your Intelligence and Drive Are Part of You

Please don’t change your drive, diminish your success, or downplay your abilities, just to bait or please a date or to bring forth your feminine side. Your success and drive are such a wonderful part of you. You don’t need to prove it, flaunt it, or make a big deal of it. Relax into it.

If your date asks questions about your work, just say what you feel like revealing. You are in control of what you share, and it’s up to you if you want the discussion to revolve around work. From all your skills in your professional life, use the skill of changing the subject!

For me, the most successful date discussions revolved around the things that we both enjoyed, made us happy, or enriched our lives.

Be assured, your genuine self will attract someone who is head over heels with the whole package that makes up YOU. Until that happens, remember to consistently do those things that make you happy and enrich your life.

Do you lack confidence in dating? Has this been one reason why you can’t attract a quality man? What steps can you take to relax and just enjoy love and relationships? Please share with the community!