Kary Brittingham’s Blue One Shoulder Confessional Look

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While when in Dallas I personally think Stephanie Hollman unofficially owns the color blue (since we all know Housewives own colors) because she looks so good in it, Kary Brittingham looks pretty good in the same hue in her new one shoulder confessional look too. Her Roland Mouret-esque top gives you that vibe for a fraction of the price as it’s on sale for 60% off.  So if blue is “your” color too, I’d totally scroll and pick up this top, though you might be fighting a few people for the title of ownership.

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Jen Shah’s Mixed Print Swimsuit

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Normally I think of hot-tubbing as a relaxing activity, however it seems that Jen Shah doesn’t see things the same way. And while her mixed print bathing suit turned our heads towards her which I’m pretty sure she would like, in this scene on tonight’s Real Housewives of Salt Lace City, Whitney Rose’s turns her head away from Jen. Which seems to have the opposite effect. Like an extremely opposite effect.

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Have you ever heard the saying, “The brain is the sexiest organ in the body”? For as long as I can remember, I’ve been physically attracted to intelligent, well-spoken men.

Don’t get me wrong. I enjoy looking at a silver fox with well-sculpted abs as much as the next gal, but if a man really wants to set my heart aflutter, all he has to do is ‘talk purdy’ to me… because I’m a sapiosexual.

A Sapio – What?

If you are wondering exactly what a sapiosexual person is, the simple definition is that sapiosexual is someone who is sexually attracted to intelligent people.

As soon as I heard the term, I knew I was one! I am attracted to men who have incisive and inquisitive minds. Does this describe the kind of man that you are attracted to?

“Sapiosexual,” according to Merriam-Webster’s blog, “is a hybrid word. It is a word made up of parts of other words, typically from Latin or Greek. Sapio comes from the Latin verb sapere, meaning ‘to be wise’ or ‘to have sense.’”

So, combined with the word sexual, we have the combination of complete mind and body attraction.

I’ve always had a soft spot for men who are well spoken. When I was single and dating in my 20s, I met some frogs in my quest for a prince. But the men who I remember all these years later are those who were inquisitive and well read, who made me laugh and think.

I always fell for the guy who used ‘50-cent words’ as my girlfriends and I would usually put it. I appreciated a guy who valued his intelligence and wasn’t afraid to show it and express it.

A Lover of Knowledge

When I found myself single again in my early 50s, I was in college working toward an undergraduate degree. There’s nothing like a college campus to stimulate a sapiosexual… but I wasn’t into guys who were young enough to date my daughter, so I never considered that I might meet someone in a class.

I did meet someone close to my own age in one of those college classes, and we have been life partners for more than a decade. Since the day we met, our conversations have been filled with everything from politics to social issues.

We have always discussed every topic in great detail – from our childhood dreams to our fears about aging, from work frustrations to family celebrations. For me, this provides a complete relationship experience that stimulates my mind as much as my body!

He keeps me on my toes intellectually, and his encouragement is a major reason why I overcame my fear of calling myself a writer.

I love words and everything you can do with them, and I love a man who loves words as much as I do. He and I are proud sapiosexuals!

Are you attracted to intelligent people? Does intellectual interaction fire you up? Does the term sapiosexual describe you, too? Please share your story in the comments!

Meredith Marks’ + Lisa Barlow’s Blazers

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The only time it’s fun to show up at an event wearing the same (or a similar) outfit as someone else is when it’s someone you absolutely love. So that’s why it was perfect when Salt Lake “sisters” Meredith Marks and Lisa Barlow showed up in almost identical blazers by the same brand to dinner on tonight’s RHOSLC.

But even that happy moment couldn’t overshadow the great news that Meredith and Seth are back together and looked like they were about to full on make out at the table. I mean, I’m totally here for it, though I definitely don’t think Brooks would approve of the latter.

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Retirement is an exciting time for us independent adults with its endless possibilities for travel, entertainment, and new friendships. But when it comes time to decide where to live during those later years, it’s important to take all options into consideration.

Some folks choose to buy a smaller home or rent one for themselves once they retire. Others opt for the more maintenance-free lifestyle provided by “active adult” or independent living communities. Let’s take a moment to discuss the pros and cons of each, so you can get a sense of which senior living option is right for you.

Buying a Home or Taking Out a Mortgage After 55

Buying a home after 55 is a major decision that is sure to impact your retirement. While some financial companies will give out loans to older buyers, most are wary of this for several reasons.

According to personal finance expert David Ning, it’s unwise to get a new 30-year fixed mortgage in your 50s. “Whether you are buying a new home, refinancing your existing mortgage, or you simply want to take out equity from a home that you own free and clear,” he writes, “getting a 30-year mortgage when you are in your 50s is quite dangerous. If you are 55, for example, do you really want to be making payments until you are 85?”

It’s important to first examine all the possibilities before sinking yourself into such a large investment.

Investopedia suggests that when deciding to buy a home after 55, you should first consider other mortgage options that would work better and determine if paying off the mortgage is more important than maximizing your retirement savings.

Carolyn Dunlavy, owner of Jade Tree Retirement Planning in California, says that “Buying a new home, and taking on the costs of a new mortgage loan for the next several decades, can eat into your retirement savings.”

“Older buyers risk depleting their future retirement funds even more if they are both saving less for retirement and withdrawing from their IRAs to fund buying a home,” Dunlavy says. “That can be a double whammy.”

In other words, it’s vital to weigh your decision to buy a new home carefully so that financial instability doesn’t become a problem when you do retire.

Renting a Home in Retirement

On the other hand, renting a home in retirement provides flexibility for older adults who anticipate traveling or moving again in the future, or who simply want to save their nest egg for other expenses rather than buying a house.

Financially, renting is much simpler and requires less forethought than buying a home. Finding a home or apartment to rent takes a fraction of the time it would take to purchase and leaves you free to spend your money on other things that matter to you – like traveling to visit friends and family or starting a new hobby.

Choosing Independent Living

In the general case, 55 is way too early to move to an independent living facility. After all, many older adults decide to continue working well past 65. However, it’s good planning to look ahead and do some window shopping.

Just as the name implies, independent living communities are for older adults that are completely independent in their activities of daily living in the home and can typically participate in community activities without difficulty.

Independent living communities designed for active older adults provide the kind of maintenance-free lifestyle that may become more desirable as you age. Often in these communities, housekeeping, laundry, and meal services are provided on-site to make your life a little easier.

Furthermore, these communities often feature media rooms, gyms, and swimming pools that act as thriving communal spaces for recreation, socialization, and celebration.

When you want to retire in comfort and style, surrounded by a community of peers, independent living provides the ultimate senior living experience.

Senior apartments is another independent living option. Convenience and accessibility are the core appeal of senior apartments. They are thoughtfully built with older adults in mind. The design and location of the apartments is intentional – they are built near public services and recreational areas.

Choosing Assisted Living

Many adults aged 65+ opt to age in place in independent-style communities that offer the same amenities and medical support of an assisted living community. These communities, known as continuing care retirement communities, or CCRCs, provide a way to age in place comfortably, with additional support available down the road as medical needs increase.

For example, residents may begin their community experience by living in their own condominium or apartment, complete with all the amenities they need to thrive independently. And, eventually, when they decide they need more assistance from community staff or desire a more maintenance-free lifestyle, they can seamlessly transition into another part of the community.

For some, CCRCs offer the perfect balance of independence and stability to support the aging process for years to come.

In conclusion, there are many housing options to choose from when it comes time to decide where you will live. The choice will depend partly on your financial situation and retirement goals – but should ultimately be the option that best supports the lifestyle you desire during your golden years.

Before jumping into a decision that will surely impact the rest of your life, educate yourself on all the choices available to you. It’s never too early or too late to start!

For more information or to start your search for senior living options today, visit Seniorly.com.

Do you think that you will end up buying another home in the years ahead? Or do you prefer to rent instead? Would you consider moving to an independent living community in the years after retirement? How have you navigated the housing decision-making process? Please join the conversation and add your perspective.