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I’m terrible at names and used to joke that I was having (pardon the ageism term) a “senior moment” when I forgot someone’s. But as I got older, I started wondering if those moments were more than that. Have you ever forgotten a colleague’s name mid-sentence, not someone you just met, someone you’ve worked alongside? I typically cover myself in these situations with a breezy “hey, you!” or, if my wife is with me socially, nudge her and say “who is that again?” It still rattles you. If you’re nodding right now, you’re not alone.

A recent Wall Street Journal piece confirmed what many are quietly living: more Americans are managing memory issues on the job, and a growing number of them are in their 50s and 60s. With an aging workforce staying employed longer – by choice or necessity – this isn’t some fringe issue anymore. It’s a workplace reality that nobody wants to talk about.

So let’s talk about it.

The Part Nobody Mentions in the Performance Review

Here’s what tends to happen. You notice the slips – losing a word mid-presentation, forgetting a meeting you swore you wrote down, rereading the same email three times before it sticks. You tell yourself it’s stress, or poor sleep, or just “a lot on your plate.” And maybe it is. But at some point, you start wondering if something more is going on.

That wondering is exhausting enough. What makes it worse is the decision that follows: do I tell anyone?

For most people, the answer is a hard no – and that instinct is completely understandable. Age-related bias in the workplace is real. Studies consistently show that older workers are viewed as less adaptable, less sharp, less promotable. Coming out about memory struggles can feel like handing someone a reason to sideline you. It’s not paranoia. It’s pattern recognition.

But staying silent has its own costs – the constant performance of “fine,” the mental energy spent covering, the isolation of navigating something difficult completely alone.

Coping Strategies That Actually Help

Whether you’re managing mild forgetfulness or something your doctor has officially put a name to, there are real, practical ways to stay sharp and stay employed.

Externalize Everything

Your brain doesn’t have to hold it all. Write it down, record a voice memo, use a shared calendar with alerts. The goal isn’t to prove you can remember – it’s to make sure things don’t fall through the cracks.

Front-Load Your Day

Most people with memory concerns report that mornings are their sharpest hours. Schedule your most demanding work – complex decisions, important calls, creative thinking – before lunch when possible.

Embrace Structure Ruthlessly

Routines reduce the cognitive load of decision-making. When the path through your day is predictable, your brain has more bandwidth for the things that actually need it.

Talk to Your Doctor

This sounds obvious, but many people sit with symptoms for a year or more before raising them with a physician. Some causes of memory issues – thyroid problems, sleep apnea, medication interactions, vitamin deficiencies – are surprisingly treatable. You won’t know unless you ask.

On Coming Out of the Closet

Here’s the part I think about most. There’s a particular kind of courage required to disclose something that invites discrimination – and memory challenges at work sit squarely in that territory. You cannot control how people will respond. Some managers will surprise you with their humanity. Others will confirm your worst fears.

What you can do is be strategic about who you tell, when, and how. Trusted colleagues first, if at all. HR only when you need formal accommodations. And frame it around solutions, not symptoms – what you need to do your best work, not a catalog of what’s going wrong.

You’re not broken. You’re navigating something hard in a workplace that wasn’t really designed with you in mind. That deserves acknowledgment – and a lot more honesty than most of us have been willing to bring to it.

Let’s Have a Conversation:

What memory challenges have you noticed in daily life? What strategies have helped you manage memory challenges at work? Share in the comments below.

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What is time travel and how is it related to creating your dream lifestyle after 60?

Outside of storytelling mediums such as books, movies, and television series, time travel is widely viewed as impossible in the real world.

But is it impossible?

There was a time when all of us could time travel.

Do you remember how we did it?

As adults, we often lose this ability, letting logic and limiting beliefs dictate what we think is possible. However, when we reignite the power of childhood imagination, we can travel forward in time and experience our dream lifestyle as if it is happening now.

So, how do you time travel? And what kind of lifestyle will you travel into?

We will answer these questions in our fourth article and video of a new, 12-part exclusive series for Sixty and Me readers titled “Visualize a Vibrant New Lifestyle After 60.”

There Are Truly No Limits

Time traveling to your dream lifestyle is based on the understanding that your childhood imagination was never bound by time or physical limitations.

Visualizing as if your dream life is already happening bridges the gap between imagination and reality. Here, you begin to rediscover the true power of your childhood imagination, as it is not bound to the constrictions of time or the density of gravity.

There are truly no limits to what you can achieve when it comes to your childhood imagination. This is easily demonstrated when you visualize a future reality in the present moment.

Where the Lifestyle of Your Dreams Lives

The practice of traveling to your dream life through visualization can be a stretch for many of us at this stage of life.

This is due to decades of limiting beliefs and society’s outdated belief system about aging adults. To make the most of this exciting visualization practice, you will want to understand its immense benefits.

Time travel to your desired lifestyle delivers numerous benefits to all areas of your life. Some of the most important is that it removes limitations, activates self-belief, and accelerates your desired manifestations.

Using the power of your childhood imagination to step into your dream future aligns your thoughts, emotions, and actions with the lifestyle you desire.

For these reasons and more, time traveling to your dream lifestyle helps you more easily and joyfully navigate the path to where the life of your dreams lives.

5 Easy and Fun Ways to Time Travel to Your Lifestyle

To further help you master time traveling to your dream lifestyle, I’m going to share with you my five go-to steps I not only teach in my online courses but that I personally use to time travel to the future lifestyles I dream of.

Step 1: Write and Record a Future Self Narrative

Close your eyes and imagine yourself living your ideal lifestyle. In your journal, write a detailed, first-person account of a perfect day in that future. Where are you? Who are you with? What are you doing?

I also recommend that you record yourself reading this narrative aloud. You can listen to it daily to immerse yourself in your new, vibrant lifestyle.

Step 2: Create a “Future You” Vision Box

Find a small box or container and fill it with objects representing your future lifestyle.

This can include a handwritten letter from your future self, a symbolic object, such as a key for a dream home or a passport for future travel, a piece of fabric, scent, or sound that reminds you of your dream lifestyle, or a photo or quote that embodies your vision.     

Keep this box visible and interact with it daily to reinforce your future reality.

Step 3: Dress, Walk, and Speak Like Your Future Self

Each morning, ask yourself: “How would my future self present herself today?”

Speak about your goals and dreams as if they are already unfolding. Instead of saying, “I want to travel someday,” embody your dreams by saying, “I am becoming a world traveler.”

Dress to reflect your dream identity and walk with the confidence of someone who already has what they desire. Even small changes like wearing a new color or accessory while making subtle adjustments to how you move can profoundly impact how you ease into your new lifestyle.

Step 4: Set a Daily “Time Travel” Meditation

Set a timer for 5-10 minutes daily. Choose a quiet space or put on noise-cancelling headphones. Close your eyes and imagine stepping into the future version of yourself who is already living your dream lifestyle.

Experience it with all five senses. When you allow yourself to see, feel, smell, hear, and taste that experience it will expand the immersive quality of the meditation.

End by expressing gratitude as if it has already happened.

Step 5: Use Future Self-Affirmations

These will help bridge the gap between who you are now and who you are becoming. Here are three of my personal favorites:

• “I am already living my dream life, and every day it unfolds effortlessly.”
• “My future self is guiding me, and I trust the journey ahead.”
• “I embody the confidence, wisdom, and success of my future self.”

These are not your run-of-the-mill affirmations. Future Self-Affirmations are incredibly powerful statements that help you mentally, emotionally, and energetically align with the version of yourself already living your dream life.

Next Steps

Our fifth article and video in this 12-part series, will focus on how to “Map Your Dream Lifestyle in 6 Easy Steps.”

I invite you to join me in the video, where I will share “5 Immediate Benefits of Time Traveling to Your Dream Lifestyle” and three journal prompts to help you integrate what you are learning.

Let’s Have a Conversation:

How often do you time travel? What kind of lifestyle will you travel into?

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After my 60-year-old husband walked out to make babies, I announced to my best friend that I was writing a memoir.

“For revenge?” she asked.

“NO!” I paused. “Well, maybe a little,” I admitted, though I knew revenge was not what I needed. After all, I’m a therapist, and choosing revenge is not a wise coping mechanism.

What Revenge Does

Revenge would keep me engaged, but not in a good way. Trying to find ways to get back at my ex might be easier than feeling the hurt, but it meant I focused on him rather than my healing.

When my husband left, I felt blindsided. I had fully believed we were happy in love. Until he left.

I wept for his loss, scrolling through years of suspect memories. What did I miss? What if none of my memories are true? Therapists are not immune to missing the obvious.

I grieved our future, too. I had fantasized about our adventures together; I’d imagined us till the end, laughing and commiserating as we handled the shifts and tweaks aging requires.

I fantasized about revenge. I’d send him subscriptions to Healthy Aging and AARP. I’d include a package of Depends.

But revenge fantasies have a short shelf life.

It Was Not About Him – It Was About Me

I had no idea how to handle what came after, so I turned inward, hunting for the truth of our story. What did I miss? I am a therapist; for God’s sake, I’m supposed to understand people.

I wanted to know if my version was anything like his version. Twelve years later, when I finished the memoir, I discovered I had to tolerate and embrace not knowing.

At the time, my husband felt like a betrayal of the relationship I thought we’d had. I was indignant. I thought you were this kind of person, and you turned out to be that kind of person.

But maybe the people I love are not responsible for the fact that I thought they were one way and later found out they were another way.

Love Is a Risky Business

Each person you love takes a piece of you, and then they are careless, forget to look both ways, drink too much, climb mountain cliffs, or are otherwise negligent. People die. They fall out of love. They leave. Loss is a constant and yet such a huge fear. We protect against it. We install smoke detectors and immunize our children. So, when loss comes anyway, we blame.

But the only way to avoid this heart pain is to avoid love. And that is too hard a way to live.

My youngest son asked before his wedding, “So, Mom, do you still believe in love and marriage?”

I wanted to take my time here. My son had witnessed me go through two divorces.

“I do. It didn’t work out for me, but I still think exploring and getting to know someone until the end of days is a superb and worthwhile endeavor.” I paused and said, “Love alone is not enough. You need to be fearless.”

Let’s Have a Conversation:

Have you been burned by love and loss? Do you still believe in love? What about love until the end of days?