Kristin Cavallari’s White Cut Out Swimsuit in Mexico

Season 3 Episode 6 Very Cavallari Fashion

Kristin Cavallari’s white cut out swimsuit in her shoot in Mexico made a hard day’s work look easy. They say Rome wasn’t built in a day, but the Uncommon James shoot sure was! I was a little shocked at how fast they got it all done, but wouldn’t expect anything less of Kristin Cavallari and her amazing team. Though I blinked and it was over there were certainly a lot of looks, this one being one of my favs. The whole UJ shoot just made me want my toes in the sand, a drink in my hand, and this swimsuit in my closet.

Sincerely Stylish,

Jess

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Kristin Cavallari’s Black Cape Blazer at Justin and Scoot’s Housewarming Party

Very Cavallari Season 3 Episode 6 Fashion

Back in 2015 Kyle Richards’ wore a black cape blazer on The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills, and I bought it. I wore it a ton, but for the past few couple it’s been hanging in my closet unworn. Thanks to Kristin Cavallari and her black cape blazer at Justin and Scoot’s housewarming party on Very Cavallari, it’s about it to get some time to shine once again. Because while I was pairing it with jeans and leather pants, Kristin has updated the look with a pair of black shorts and heels, which are pieces I already have in my closet. And for the first time ever, this job just saved me some money.

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Kristin Cavallari’s White Tie Waist Sweater Dress

Season 3 Episode 6 Very Cavallari Fashion

After hearing the weatherman say it’s negative 2 degrees today in Chicago seeing Kristin Cavallari’s white tie waist sweater dress was the positive I needed. Sure I enjoyed watching the UJ shoot in Mexico and all the resort wear that came with it, but this sweater dress is a little more my current situation. I love a sweater dress because it allows us to be super cozy yet very chic—my absolute favorite combo. I also love how Kristin paired it with ankle boots and a hat so make it super fashion-y. And though we all already know that boots are made for walking, I can also confidently say that this dress is made for buying.

Sincerely Stylish,

Jess

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For months, even years, I knew that my marriage was crumbling. Yet, I lied to myself, telling myself a million things that would somehow justify the reasons why I should stay in the marriage. The main one dealt with time.

I have put too much time into this marriage for it to end.

“I have sacrificed way too much and invested way too much time into this relationship. I’m not just going to walk away from it.”

You may have told yourself the same. But viewing your marriage as a time investment, especially when it is no longer healthy, serves no purpose but to prolong your suffering.

If you are doing the same, embrace these five lessons, so that you can move on and be happy.

Quit Viewing Your Years of Marriage as an Investment

The time you have put into your marriage is not a non-refundable down payment, so do not treat it like one. In a healthy and happy marriage, time spent together is beneficial – you have good memories and a beautiful life. But once the marriage unravels, you cannot invoke those years spent as a justification to stay in a relationship, especially when the relationship both partners are no longer invested in it.

Accept that You Deserve Better

Your life and happiness are not a commodity that you can barter. Unless you are practicing the piano or you are an Olympic athlete, erase the idea that time put into something (even a marriage) equals a guaranteed return.

Your life is not a commodity subject to negotiation, and treating it as such will only hurt you.

Those Married Years Taught You a Lot, but, They Don’t Owe You Anything

You probably have some good memories, and it is important to acknowledge them. They helped you grow. Yet be cautious of your selective memory. You must also recognize that the years in between those memories – the not-so-good-ones – are not collateral and an excuse to remain in a marriage that is no longer working.

You may have been married 20-40 years and made sacrifices during that time. You may think that you are owed something because of those unhappy years. But to treat those sacrifices and unhappy years as a bargaining tool, thinking it entitles you to happiness, gets you nowhere.

You must think of those married years as experience; you learned about relationships, families, and yourself. Be grateful for those lessons, but do not attempt to use them as a bargaining tool to remain in a marriage that is no longer sustainable. To do so denies you the opportunity to move on.

Don’t Stay in Your Marriage Just Because You Don’t Know How to Start Over

It’s okay to feel scared. Fear is what makes you human, but it’s the courage to give yourself another shot at happiness – even in your 60s – that makes you truly remarkable.

You may feel that the years invested in your marriage, even if you weren’t happy, you were at least comfortable. Your life, for the most part, was predictable. Moving on can be scary because it ends the vision of the life you had for yourself. You may be afraid to start over, afraid to go “back to the beginning” – whatever that means – because you think you are too old, too financially unstable, or too emotionally distraught to do so.

Give yourself more credit than that – recognize that you are smarter, more organized, more adaptable, and stronger than you even know.

A Long Marriage Does Not Necessarily Equal a Happy Marriage

Marriage is not a vending machine, where, if you put in a certain amount of money, you are guaranteed a certain item. In this case, putting in time does not mean you are necessarily guaranteed security or happiness. But you can find those things on your own, no matter what stage you are in life. It’s okay to move on, okay to start over, and okay to find happiness on your own terms.

As you start or continue to make a new life for yourself, you are given a choice about time. You may choose to spend it angry, bitter, or heartbroken about the end of your marriage, or you may choose to invest time in yourself and your own happiness.

You are not destined to live a life of hurt and misery because you are separating or divorcing. However, you can be destined for greatness and the opportunity to move on and become stronger, more compassionate, and a happier person. And putting your energy into that happiness is time well spent.

Have you, or someone you know, recently gone through a divorce? What did the experience teach you? What advice would you give to someone who is going through a divorce after 60? Please join the conversation.

If you’re someone who makes resolutions each year, I’m impressed. It just doesn’t happen for me, other than what I call the triple crown (lose weight, eat better, exercise more).

I know myself and know that I will fall short, and the disappointment is more than I can manage. But, if you do make resolutions, this might be the time of year that you realize you have already failed, you have already fallen off the wagon of your choice. It’s over.

Well, the truth is, it isn’t over. And, rather than give up, use this time to right the ship and get yourself back on track. Here’s how:

Ease into It

You may have failed because you decided to go at it with everything you got. For instance, you may have gone to the gym 10 days in a row, which left you exhausted, and naturally, you gave up. Nobody can go to the gym day after day without feeling worn out, though.

You can’t expect to go from the couch to a marathon in three weeks. If you want to change your sedentary ways, do it gradually. Try one hour in week one, add another the second week, and a third the following week. You are much more likely to stick with it if you change gradually.

Have Reasonable Expectations

Did you think that eating better meant you would never crave sugar again? Of course not. Eating better might start with clearing your refrigerator of desserts. Or you could say goodbye to bread.

After a while you can add in another food group to avoid. Not everyone can eliminate all carbohydrates completely on day one, but that is no reason to give up hope.

Be Patient

If you made a resolution to lose weight and you are quitting because you have only lost two pounds, hey, that’s two pounds. Maybe it isn’t 10, but you can lose two more next month, then two more the next, etc. In a year, that would equal 24 pounds, and that sounds like a lot to me.

If you made a resolution to floss your teeth every night and you haven’t been following through, start. Did you resolve to make your bed every morning, but only manage it three days each week for a while?

The point is that you move yourself forward. That’s all. You want to make yourself better at the end of this year than you were at the end of last year. That’s really all you want to do, right? You want to be a better person by 2021. You can be, if you don’t stop trying.

We all know that most New Year’s resolutions flop. But that’s because we almost give up before we start. Remember, you haven’t failed at anything until you give up all together. Until you throw in the towel, you are still working on it. Stay in the game and you will find success sooner or later.

What resolutions did you make that you didn’t manage to keep? Are you willing to take them up again? Let me know. I look forward to hearing from you.