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I’m an African-American male, and I’m also one of nine siblings, all of us retired. In a recent conversation with my three sisters, each of whom is retired successfully, I was reminded of a truth that, as a guy, they (robustly) re-emphasized to me – women experience retirement in some profoundly different ways than us guys.

First, a Few Data Points Hiding in Plain Sight

• Women live longer than men, with an average life expectancy of 79 years for women vs. 73 for men in the U.S. (Source: CDC, 2023)
• A woman who reaches age 65 today can expect to live, on average, another 20+ years – with a significant portion living into their 90s.
• More than half of women over 65 rely on Social Security for at least 50% of their retirement income; 25% rely on it for 90% or more. (Source: Social Security Administration, 2023)
• Only 12% of women feel “very confident” in their ability to retire comfortably. (Source: Transamerica Center for Retirement Studies, 2023)
• Nearly 50% of women over age 65 are widowed, compared to only 15% of men. (Source: U.S. Census Bureau, 2020)
• Divorced women face even greater financial vulnerability – especially those who divorced after 50.

Retirement is often seen as a time of freedom and renewal – but for many older women, it also brings a distinctive set of challenges. Whether you’re newly retired or several years in, it’s important to recognize some of the challenges that can stand in the way of fulfilling your next chapter.

The Challenges Women Face in Retirement

Here are the top five challenges many women face in retirement – and why acknowledging them is the first step toward thriving.

1. Financial Insecurity

Women typically live longer than men and, unfortunately, often earn less over the course of their careers. Many have taken time off to raise children or care for loved ones, which can result in smaller pensions, Social Security benefits, and retirement savings.

The Result? Anxiety about outliving savings, fear of unexpected expenses, and difficulty affording the lifestyle you envisioned.

What can help: Financial planning tailored to longevity, part-time work or consulting, and finding joy in a more simplified lifestyle.

2. Loss of Identity and Purpose

After decades of being defined by careers, caregiving roles, or community involvement, many women feel a sense of loss when those roles shift or end.

The question becomes: Who am I now?

What can help: Exploring new passions, volunteering, mentoring, or even starting a small business or creative project can reignite purpose and self-worth.

3. Loneliness and Social Isolation

Social networks often shrink in retirement – especially after leaving the workplace or experiencing the loss of a spouse or friends.

The silence can be deafening.

Beneficial action: Actively fostering new relationships through participation in clubs, educational courses, faith-based groups, or online communities can significantly enhance social connections. Staying socially engaged is also critical for brain health.

4. Health and Caregiving Pressures

Many women in retirement are “sandwiched” between caring for aging spouses, siblings, or even grandchildren – while also managing their own health needs.

Caregiving doesn’t stop at retirement – it often ramps up.

What can help: Setting boundaries, asking for help, and carving out time for self-care are essential strategies for staying physically and emotionally well.

5. Navigating Life Transitions Alone

Whether due to widowhood, divorce, or long-term singleness, many women face retirement alone. Making decisions about housing, healthcare, or long-term plans can feel overwhelming without a partner.

The emotional and logistical load can be heavy.

What can help: Building a strong support network, working with trusted professionals, and learning to advocate for yourself can bring both confidence and clarity.

Successful Retirement Is Achievable

Here are 5 practical and empowering tips for older women to have a great retirement:

1. Design a Life You’re Excited to Wake Up To

Retirement isn’t the end – it’s a new beginning. Be intentional. Create a vision for this stage of life that includes purpose, passion, and play. Whether it’s travel, volunteering, creative work, a second career, or learning something new, ask: What makes me feel most alive?

2. Prioritize Health Like It’s a Full-Time Job

Your energy, independence, and well-being are all tied to your physical and mental health. Stay active, eat well, get regular checkups, and keep your mind sharp. Add joy: dance classes, long walks with friends, or even gardening count.

3. Nurture Relationships – and Make New Ones

Strong social connections are one of the biggest predictors of a happy retirement. Reconnect with friends, deepen family ties, or find new communities through clubs, groups, meetups or classes. Loneliness is real – don’t wait for others to reach out.

4. Stay Financially Savvy and Flexible

Even if your finances are in good shape, revisit your budget and plans regularly. Plan for longevity. Make room for fun and emergencies. Consider part-time work or consulting if you want to supplement income or stay engaged – on your terms.

5. Let Go of Old Labels – and Own Your Power

This is your time to be unapologetically you. Forget outdated ideas about what older women should do. Explore, experiment, reinvent. Retirement – reinvention – can be a launchpad for the most confident, free, and self-defined chapter of your life.

Final Thoughts

Retirement can be a time of joy, growth, and renewed purpose – but it doesn’t happen automatically. Don’t ignore the potential challenges but take advantage of the opportunities. Take a step back, reflect, and ask yourself:

What do I want this next chapter to look like – and what do I need to make it happen?

You don’t need all the answers right away. Many of the initial answers may change over time. But you do need a plan – one that moves you in the right direction, honors your values, supports your well-being, and helps you feel in control of your time, money, and energy.

Start by paying attention. Then start shaping the life you deserve.

Let’s Have a Conversation:

What challenges have you faced in retirement? Are they more related to financial issues or with social isolation? What is the biggest challenge to you?

Did you have an allowance when you were a child? Did you put an allowance in place when your children were young? Or perhaps you didn’t have children but watched nieces/nephews and friends’ children learn about money, or not? It’s kind of scary to realize, but super important to understand, that 95% of the time we have with children is gone by the time they turn 18. And squeezing some money conversations in during that impressionable time has the biggest influence on their future money habits.

I Wish I Had Realized Sooner

I feel like this is one of those “I wish I had realized sooner” moments. As adults, we don’t realize the vast impact we have on children and their future. If you have ever asked children about particular memories from their childhood, they often recount an incident that stuck with them but often the adult in the situation barely or doesn’t remember it at all.

I remember a phrase my father said to me as he passed me in our house as I was practicing typing (yes, way back when we had typewriters!): “You’re never going to get it!” And he kept walking.

Think Before You Speak

I asked him about it years later, thinking about how disappointing that comment was to me, and he didn’t remember that he even said it. Sometimes, when we say things off the cuff, it gets remembered by the other party in an unintended hurtful way. Think before you speak is a good mantra.

Think Before You Buy

Just like Think before you buy is a good mantra. I met Karen Holland last year, Founder of www.GiftingSense.org , and she designed a Does It Make Sense (DIMS) calculator that helps children think before they spend. Whether it is a thing, an experience, or a pet, the calculator walks a child through questions that help think about all the angles (not just financial) of making a purchase. We would all be served well with that habit at every age!

Practice with Allowance

Or I started this topic with questions about allowance. What better way for kids to learn about money decisions than to practice using money. And allowance is one way to provide some of that “tool” they need to practice with. My friend John Lanza wrote a great book, “The Art of Allowance,” to help parents learn about the best way to approach allowance for their family. Every family is different!

A Full Guide

Or better yet, if you are looking for the full philosophy and how-to-guide for parents/grandparents, check out The Wisest Investment: Teaching Your Kids to Be Responsible, Independent and Money-Smart for Life by a colleague, Robin Taub. There are so many tools to share.

I’m hoping your adult children are open to resources or often grandparents are very involved with raising grandchildren these days. In hindsight, I sure wish I would have intentionally “dripped” on our kids to practice more with their money skills before leaving home.

Looking for Story Opportunities

Even just looking for story opportunities to share with grandkids can have an effect. Did you witness a good or bad money decision? Are important concepts like earning income, saving for a rainy day, and “sleeping on it” to experience delayed gratification something you could incorporate into your next conversation with grandkids?

Asking Questions

It’s often interesting to just throw out a softball question to ask what they think (or know) about various topics. Their concept of how much anything costs is often pretty hilarious for the young kids. One of our preschooler grandchildren recently told us it cost 60 thousand dollars for the bike she got for her birthday. Just like another one guessed that maybe I was 100 years old.

Practice, Practice, Practice

Even using play money for pretend play or the concept of using a credit card is pretty interesting to see what the grade school agers understand. My 9-year-old granddaughter recently used the DIMS calculator to realize that buying a new puppy to replace the 11-year-old dog they just lost would cost more than she imagined, about $25,000 over the course of its lifetime. She quickly moved to considering a $60 leotard for her gymnastics class (that she would also pass down to her sister and then sell it second-hand).

Blessing to Last a Lifetime

Never underestimate the power of your words and stories as a grandparent/aunt/respected adult in a child’s life. Sharing more of what we wished we had known sooner can be a blessing that lasts a lifetime.

Let’s Have a Conversation:

What can we do as parents, grandparents or family/friend adults in children’s lives to help them practice healthy money habits? If you had to pick one money lesson you wished you would’ve learned earlier in life, what would it be? Let’s help each other with our discussion!

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