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Originally posted at: Ciara Miller’s Grey “Official Boyfriend” Sweatshirt

Do you ever wonder if you’re worth it? Do you believe you are valuable to the people you love? How about yourself? Do you let others define your value? Do you hide your true self? Do you know your true self?

One of the biggest realizations I have made through working with my clients is that women define our self-worth and our value by letting others define us based on how much and how well we give.

This is not true for all women but for many. We end up feeling lost and empty. We forget who we are as independent powerful women.

Throughout life, we have been groomed to “fix” and “give, give, give” to our children, spouses, parents, friends – everyone, except to ourselves.

After a while, we tend to lose any sense of what we want or need, and how to ask for it. And if we do ask, we feel an overwhelming sense of guilt.

Time to Reclaim Ourselves

As we age and our children leave home, it becomes even more apparent that this is the time to reclaim a sense of who we truly are. This is an amazing stage of our life which allows us to step up and embrace our potential as individuals.

It means giving ourselves permission to speak up about what is important to us and most of all honoring our needs.

In our second half of life, the wisdom that emerges as we journey into discovering a sense of who we are is palpable and powerful. We can know and meet our needs. We can source from the wisdom that lives deeply within and do anything we put our intention to.

Our relationships become authentic. Our lives move in new and exciting directions. We can let go of the old story that is laden with fear and guilt, and step into the world in a new and heartfelt way.

Time to Be Visible

In these moments of our life, we have time to reflect and create a momentum to grow and stand in our power – in other words, to be visible.

We can affirm our own value. We are able to make choices about our thoughts and actions that are meaningful to us and create a ripple effect for the rest of the world.

To get you started, here are some promises you can make to yourself in order to multiply your intent and honor your self-worth.

12 Promises for Empowerment

I know and accept it is my nature to grow well.

I will not grow old and become bitter, disillusioned or fearful.

I will seek abundance, prosperity, health and truth.

I will stand strong in my beliefs and convictions to seek beauty, truth and authenticity in life.

I will empower myself to live fully and work to make a genuine difference in my life and with others.

I will be the wisdom that lives within me.

I will be silent no more.

I will be my power!

I will accept all that I am!

I will remind myself that beauty is not just skin deep. It is soul deep.

I honor the good, true and beautiful in me.

I am worth it!

Isn’t it time to celebrate the amazing wise woman you were born to be?

Let’s Have a Conversation:

In what ways do you stand in your wisdom and empower yourself? What are your intentions for today? Please share your empowerment strategy below.

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Originally posted at: Ciara Miller’s Navy Blue Pajama Set

I enjoy reading and watching historical films, especially the 1920-1940’s films that remind me of better times. I see beauty, respect for others, family unity, love of the land, farming and cultivating and using what they have and enjoying it, living in poorer circumstances with dignity and respect, and community unity.

As I ponder our lost and desolate dating and marriage scene, my heart is in sorrow for all who are truly seeking a great match. “Great match” is not in question here. This article is about dating and chaperoning. One of the most important aspects that can be gathered from history is that females were mostly protected. I say mostly, because everything isn’t perfect, but it is better than it is now.

No matter the socioeconomic status, fathers and brothers protected their females. It was embedded in their love or responsibility for family.

First, Let’s Talk About the Purpose of Dating/Courting

First, this article is about adults, not tweens or teens. Tweens and teens should not be modern dating or biblical courting at all. Tween and teens should have friends they enjoy hanging with and going to school dances with and nothing close to modern dating. Parent(s), family and friends should be closely involved here.

The Biblical principle is described as courtship and marriage as purposeful, family involved processes designed for covenant commitment, focusing on holiness rather than just happiness. Key principles include seeking God’s will, ensuring shared faith, maintaining purity, and parental involvement.

Modern Dating is often for pleasure or casual companionship. Modern dating is often self-focused and prioritizes immediate physical attraction.

Readers, when have you seen an adult dating relationship as nothing more than a friendship that didn’t involve intimacy? Key word: dating. Walk the imaginary road, where does this lead you?

How Are We Doing Today?

Not well. My journey in the relationship area was a difficult one. I always picked the wrong men and became intimate too soon! Yes, I’m saying it out loud and I’m shouting it – can you hear me? I remember when I was in my 20s, and my father tried to match me with a man that was respectable – had his own business and money. I thought the man was ugly and I stopped at ugly and didn’t want to date him, although the man tried to get to know me. I was looking at the external.

We are not doing well today. A significant change in family dynamics during the 1960s and 1970s was the beginning of the move away from the traditional nuclear family. What happened? Rising divorce rates, increased cohabitation, more single-parent households, and women entering the workforce that changed the dynamics of marriage and parenting.

Here are some key factors in Periods of change:

• 1950s, the all-American family was standard.
• 1960s-1970s was a revolution in family change through more mothers working and divorce rates doubled.
• 1980s-2000s brought more blended families, same sex households, and unmarried parents.
• 2000s-present look like this, married couples with children dropped from 67% in 1970 to 37% by 2023, cohabitation increased nearly 1000% between 1960 and 2000 (Concordia University, St Paul).

How did this happen? We embraced the need to have more stuff (two income households), women wanted independence to reduce reliance on traditional marriage or the need to provide for her family with the absence of a spouse, legalization of divorce and same sex marriage, and cultural changes through acceptance with the reduction of influence of religion in marriage choices.

I want to talk to you about embracing chaperones with the focus on males and females. There are a lot of females that are predators just as well as men. Females can be just as vicious and predatory as any person living on this earth. Sometimes men need to be protected as well.

The Rules of Courtship – Chaperone

During the chaperone era, a chaperone was usually a married or older respected woman that accompanied young women in public to prevent them from being alone with men. Young people needed family consent to continue seeing each other as a courting couple. One of the best comments I’ve heard was on “The Gilded Age.” The Russells’ daughter, Gladys, said to Marian that her father can discern men while she can’t, and he will protect her from the wrong person. This statement happens after Marian did not listen to her aged Aunts who told her that the man she was pursuing was an “adventurer.” This adventurer was just that and he broke Marian’s heart.

Matches were either shepherded along or curtailed by family and friends. If we adhere to their advice.

The Need for Chaperones in That Day and the Need for Chaperones Today

Back then, an unmarried lady should never find herself alone with the opposite sex, courting was a public affair. I will pause here and mention how important this was for men as well. Today, females freely compromise a male in many ways with words and actions that are detrimental for the male. Today, chaperones may include family and friends.

Guidelines for Conversation and Events Then and Now

The advice in the manuals was that conversations between unmarried couples be discreet. They were to avoid disagreeable subjects and to avoid using their given names. I can see the importance of this in dating. Using the given name is getting too familiar with the person during early dating stages that prompts some form of intimacy. The idea is to avoid involving emotions – to get to know each other without intimate involvement at the early stages of dating.

Can you see how that unfolds today? Use your imagination and start to uncover how this can become more than it was intended and then one or the other doesn’t really want to take the relationship further. What happens at this juncture?

Today, what would early dating look like in avoiding intimacy? How about having dinner with friends and family or playing board games with friends and family? Walking in the park with friends or family. Today, I would encourage you to extend this stage a little longer until you, family, and friends are clear on how they view the other person.

Once you surpass the early stage and there is interest on both sides, you can move to the next stage. Maybe the next stage can look like this – playing sports with family or friends, going to the cinema with family and friends, going to church with family and friends etc. At this point, you have a better understanding if the person is someone you are interested in taking to the next stage.

When you miss these stages and jump right into the intimacy stage, you miss all the red flags and negative characteristics that might be hiding under that well established demeanor. This is the time to listen to family and friends’ advice about this person. They are there to help you make good choices.

Let’s Talk About the Length of Courtship Before We Go Further

Then, well-off couples might court for a few months (so they could ascertain whether they were well-suited) or a few years before they wed. The long-term courting posed increased risk for the woman’s reputation if the relationship was broken off before reaching the altar. Today, it poses the same increased risk for both the male and female in terms of putting all their eggs in one basket for that length of time and it didn’t work out.

Today, emotions are involved early (due to modern dating), and it can get nasty and harder for one to break off without causing some damage internally or externally. Then, a man was expected to end a courtship as cleanly and quickly as he could if he found the person wasn’t interesting enough to marry. Today, that should happen as well, but does it or not, and why?

What Does Ending the Courtship Look Like Then and Today

Then, a couple would return any letters or tokens they’d received. This was to show that the person no longer had any claim over you and the relationship was firmly over. Today, the same should happen to move on to help dispose of memories and emotions and prevent hopes of “maybe we can work this out,” or “I’ll call him or call her.”

Today, that should look like blocking telephone numbers, removing the person from social media accounts, and any other way to block continued access to that person (Dr. Sally Holloway, Historian). Is this happening? Most likely, not. Why?

Let’s Talk About the Imaginary Journey I Wanted You to Take During This Discussion:

Did you visualize yourself during the historical era, and the 20s-40s era of the past century? Did you feel safe dating/courting during this time? Did you feel more encouraged with dating or courting? If any, what TV shows, films etc. from these eras inspire you to seek healthier outcomes?