What I am most interested in is getting women to think about, plan, and design their life so that their ThirdThird (ages 60-90) is the BEST Third of their lives.

I want to inspire and encourage and yes, even challenge us all to wake up and create a life that will give us satisfaction. With intention. Let’s live on purpose!

It’s a message that most women I talk with “get.” We all want to stay active and alert and healthy.

Here are five suggestions for staying on the path of a fulfilling life.

Convince Yourself That Perfection Is Not the Goal

No matter what the goal is for having a fulfilling life after age 60, doing something is better than nothing.

About a year before my 65^th birthday, I decided I would train for a marathon to celebrate getting my Medicare Card. My husband had done a big race (50 miles) for his, so the bar had been set. I didn’t want to train for a 50-miler, so a marathon would do.

After a month of running, I decided a half-marathon would be okay. In a few more weeks… well, maybe a 5K would feel celebratory enough for me?

In the end, I realized I really didn’t like running at all. A long walk? Okay. Running? Nah. Don’t like it.

I went to Cuba instead of running a marathon. That was a bit edgy, since we went on our own, but it satisfied my need for doing something special. I didn’t have to stick with my big plan of running a marathon.

Find Something You Can Learn from Scratch

Find something that you’ve never done before and give it a go. A friend of mine is taking the tap-dancing lessons she has “always wanted to try.” She is nearing 80. I hear of a number of women who are trying yoga for the first time in their ThirdThird.

We just got 10 chicks and are going to see if fresh eggs are worth the time and effort.

Diving into something that is entirely new can give good energy. And, you might meet new people, find new friends. Just remember that perfection is not the goal!

Do Something That Will Help Others

It took me a few tries to find a good fit for my volunteer desire. I stuck with several positions in a few organizations until it was obvious that my skills weren’t a good fit for the group’s needs. Eventually, I attended an informational luncheon at the invitation of a friend (Board member) to find a great fit.

I am an organizer, and I have nutrition as a bit of a hobby, so running a local community healthcare facility’s “Food as Medicine” program is scratching my itch to be involved.

It has become my favorite day of the month when we give food to truly needy families. And I love that I can control the quality of the food and was able to figure out a way to provide fresh produce.

A friend who has become my fellow-volunteer says she loves the Pantry days, too. We have formed friendships with some of the guests and have heard their stories. We have also gotten to know some of the women who run the free books program at the same healthcare clinic.

It does our souls good to invest our lives in meeting the needs of others. Finding a good fit for your skills and interests is possible, even if it takes some trial and error.

Give Up One Bad Habit

We all have bad habits! I did not grow up in a family that gave up something for Lent, but I find that it is a good exercise, even outside of a particular faith practice.

This year, I gave up Microsoft solitaire games. I can easily decide to play a game of spider solitaire or FreeCell as a break from writing or emailing. “Only a quick game…” I wondered how much time I actually spent on my “quick diversion.” So, I stopped for Lent.

I’m not sure I can quantify how much time I have redeemed to productive activity as a result, but I do know that after a few weeks, I was less tempted to go there.

Recently, a new widow in her 70s told me she got rid of all alcohol in her home so she wouldn’t allow herself a “pity party.” She will enjoy a glass of wine when out with friends, but none at home. She avoided what could have become a detrimental habit.

There is a 99-year-old gym attendee who comes daily to spend 20 minutes on a recumbent bicycle. Another habit of his? At home, every 30 minutes, he gets up and walks for 5 minutes, up and down his hallway.

He says he has decided he wants to live forever and is doing what he can… after never exercising in his “earning years.” He gave up being sedentary and is moving well past 90!

Make Gratefulness a Habit

Believe me, I could find things to complain about! But it is really just a waste of energy and air. Why complain when there are so, so – so many things to be grateful for!? (And who will listen to my complaints, anyway?)

My husband suffered from depression for years. When he was around 60 or so, we figured out a direct link to spring tree pollen and his most down times.

He would get slow and slodgy when the first maple trees put out their little blooms. Add oak and elm in, and he would have a hard time feeling enthused about anything.

When he was 65, he started taking allergy shots. This spring, he has had a few days of feeling flu-ish and “down” but nothing like years past.

He would add that, on top of allergy shots, he has learned to take each day as a gift and to enjoy where he is in the world… happy and fulfilled as he chooses his projects, runs a travel business, and stays active. Staying grateful while treating his tree pollen issues has truly changed his life.

The faces of our Food Pantry guests, whey they see fresh produce, makes me grateful that I can afford apples and bananas and avocados on my shopping trips. A walk around the block reminds me to be grateful that I live in a place where I am not afraid to be outside.

A phone call from a grandchild to share some excitement makes me grateful for easy communication. Clean water to drink, a home that is warm in winter, birds that visit my feeder, a car that starts and runs, sunshine (today). There is so much to be grateful for!

Being intentional about how we live our later years is a way to stay fulfilled and active.

How are you being purposeful in your life? What have you done to keep active? What can you share about living fully in your ThirdThird? Please use the comment box below.

Dorit Kemsley’s Camo Leggings on Instagram

Real Housewives of Beverly Hills 2020 Instagram Fashion

Dorit Kemsley’s camo leggings on Instagram are soooo cute. They lived up to their print because I didn’t even realize that they had palm trees in them! Beach camo is totally my kind of camo.

I wear workout leggings almost exclusively. When I’m not writing for BBH for my job watching Lauren’s boys I usually have to be able to play any given sport at the drop of a dime. So it’s nice to have workout leggings that are stylish yet practical. Usually I just stick to the basic black, but now I’m thinking I need a camo print pair—Nobody would even “see it” coming!

Sincerely Stylish,

Jess

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As a single woman over 60, I am keenly aware that it’s often tough to feel confident. I sometimes feel like I have to put on my boxing gloves to get out there and stay relevant. After all, we live in a world that equates beauty and talent with youth.

Unfortunately, as we age, it’s easy to buy into that narrative. But I am here to tell you that believing youth is the key to beauty erodes our confidence – and confidence it hot! Confidence is youthful! Confidence is sexy!

So here are 5 ways to improve that confident feeling.

Smile

Smiling is the first thing you can do. That’s it, just smile. Look happy. Look like you are enjoying your life. Look like you are important to the world. Look like you know a huge secret, not like you are exhausted.

Let’s face it, as our faces age, those lines can make us look a little cranky before our feet even hit the ground as we get out of bed.

So, unless you are consciously working on having a happy expression, you might look cross, and who wants to engage with that? A happy expression is the fountain of youth. And, if you don’t feel like smiling, smile anyway.

Move with a Purpose

Someone who is moving with purpose is going somewhere, right? That woman is part of the world and part of life – and is important. That is a woman who has vitality.

So, who would you rather spend time with, the woman who drags herself down the sidewalk or the woman who wants to get where she is going? Make your steps have a purpose.

Wear What Makes You Feel Good About Yourself

Let me ask you this: what makes you feel better: an outfit that you are tugging on all night or one that makes you feel like you look your best? This isn’t about weight, or how much you spend, or what’s in fashion this season.

This is about meeting yourself where ever you are and wearing clothing to match. If you need a bigger size, get it. If your heels are too high and you can’t walk in them, chuck them. You aren’t looking and feeling your best by wearing them – even if that’s what the stylish magazines want you to think.

Have Joy

Joy is the ultimate confidence builder. When you are feeling joyous, you are exuding confidence with every step you take. Your joy is infectious, and, naturally, it makes others want to be around you. It makes you fun.

Not feeling joyful? You can fake it if you want to, but a better strategy would be to simply find something that lifts up your spirits. It could be the sunny weather or a song you love. Or it could be a favorite face that smiles at you from a family photo.

Stay Relevant

Know what’s going on around you. Be interested in the world. Be active every day. Confidence comes from being able to hold your own in any group situation.

So, don’t be afraid to enter a room. Simply smile, take a deep breath, and go for it.

How do you build and maintain your confidence after 60? What strategies have worked for you? Do you count on personal style to make you more confident? Please share your advice with our community!

Kelly Dodd’s Mascara on Her Instastories

Real Housewives of Orange County Instagram Beauty

Last week Kelly Dodd took to Instagram to let us know about a drug store brand of mascara that is just as good, if not better, than the higher end brand she uses and is a fraction of the price. I had to piggy back on bringing this news to you because it’s the brand I use and I’m not sure I’ll ever go back to spending more than $10 on mascara.

I ended up with mine because for some reason Big Blonde Husband decided to go to Costco and bring me back a three pack because some lady told him it was really good. I gave him a huge eye roll and said “Like you are going to tell me what good mascara is … I look at this stuff for a living!” And here I am, looking like a fool. A fool with really great lashes and an extra $20 in my pocket.

The Realest Housewife,

Big Blonde Hair

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Originally posted at: Kelly Dodd’s Mascara